100 days sober from pot/booze after 10+ years of self medicating borderline personality disorder, anxiety, and depression. I've turned to mindfulness, meditation, and yoga. At nearly 35 I feel the most alive I've ever felt!
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AITA for calling out the toxic behavior of a person with borderline personality disorder?

John has BPD, and hates me because I like manga. I'm also autistic, so he thinks I deliberately go out of my way to ruin his day. He's called me an incel to my face before, and has gone as far as to tell me to stay away from women and children. He only has friends because he's so good at manipulating and gaslighting people. Meanwhile, I'm just a regular guy.

Yesterday, he dreamt that this girl, Jamie, formatted his hard drive. Ever since then, he's been lashing out at her in our group chat. This morning, she said hi and he said, "Don't even look at me! You know what you did!" I asked Jamie why she was receiving John's wrath, and she told me about his dream. I said, "Oh. So it's just John being petty as usual." John got mad and said, "It's a joke between us. I'm well aware that she'd never do something like that." I told him that it's clearly not a joke because he has a history of toxic behavior, especially towards me for reading manga. He said, "I don't care if people read manga. You just have a massive victim complex. I'm not continuing this conversation, because you'll just play the victim card, use your autism as an excuse, and vent to somebody else for half an hour about how I'm such a big fat meanie for refusing to coddle you."

And everybody defends him, as if he gets a free pass to be a jerk to me. He isn't like this with anybody else, unless they say something he finds offensive. AITA for thinking he shouldn't be above criticism? I think it's super low that he brought my autism up, as if autistic people intentionally mess up...

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I now consider myself "cured" from borderline personality disorder. Here to share some positive vibes. Feel free to ask me anything.

Hello, I used to be a somehow active member of this sub. My last post was about me entering a treatment center. Here the post. I've stayed there for 14 months. I now consider myself 99% rehabilitated. I thought my experience would be useful.

Long story short. I suffer from mental issues for my whole life. I am 29 and starting to have problems at 12. At 27 I attempted suicide. The list of the disorder I suffer from were. Severe anxiety, social phobia, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder. After my suicide attempt at 27 I was officially diagnoses (through SCID 5 test, based on DSM) for Borderline Personality disorder, Avoidant Personality Disorder, Depressive Disorder, and Passive-Aggressive Disorder. I also had a history of abusing Xanax and stuff.

So my year in a treatment center had transformed my life, I have remission of most symptoms, I no longer feel that sense of emptiness that I used to. I no longer have depression. I used to have all the common symptoms of BPD (i thought probably I used to be a quiet borderline To put it simply. I still got angry a lot, and violently but I suppressed most of it. Instead of driving my rage outside, I drove it inward.)

Still, life isn't perfect. But the difference between the person I was before and the persona I am now is like night and day, I can't even tell how I changed.

I now feel like my life is fair. I always feel like I was giving too much to bear. Living with borderline, and other mental illness is a nightmare. Right now is like I'm finally awake and I'm kinda happy. I feel like I have control and power over my life. The suicide thinking pattern was a big one for me. I no longer have it. like never.

I still doing individual therapy. I went from 10-15 (antidepressant, anxiolytics, lithium, mood stabilizer, etc) meds at the day to just one that I intended to stop taking soon.

The thing that helps me the most were CBT therapy and uncovering my dysfunctional thinking pattern, and slowly modify them. Also, I followed a program called STEPPS that is made for BDP disorder that is really good to learn to cope with intense emotion and extreme behavior.

It would take a book to tell all the ah-ah moment and the step by step process I went through, that led to my rehabilitation but I Just wanna say It's definitely possible to live a good and satisfying life.

I wish you all the best.

P.S. I'm from Italy.

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Ok, real talk, I wanna discuss BPD, borderline personality disorder

I wanted to come here first before asking other subreddits. I went and re-read the symptoms of bpd (what I have been diagnosed with as of last year) and I can’t stop thinking that all the signs are normal in most people. Idk if I talk with people who themselves are undiagnosed, but I do find it alarming I see the symptoms as…typical human behavior? Have I just managed my bpd or is my psychiatrist bugging?

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Does Jen Shah have Borderline personality disorder?

Just caught up on the last two episodes and am I the only one who thinks Jen Shah suffers from BPD. The huge emotional blow ups, blaming everyone else, can't forgive easily, fear of abandonment.

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[Serious] Redditors with mental illnesses including borderline personality disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, etcetera, what do you wish people would understand or know about living with the condition?
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Covid panic is a psyop rooted in triggering borderline ans narcissistic personality disorders.

Most pro mask people were suffering borderline disorders before "covid". The mandates just intensify these disorders. Most pro mask, pro lockdown people are typically useless basement dwellers, those who never missed a check during this whole thing or think Biden will bail them out. No one in the real world, working out there in hospitals, news channels, grocery stores etc. reflect the sheepish attitudes on reddit. No one outside of the internet believes in the scamdemic. If you were wondering, I live in NYC, so yeah, the hospitals were never overwhelmed, people aren't dropping dead of covid, death numbers are fudged and we are the most mask compliant in the nation yet, the cases are allegedly still "rising". Still people living in podunk arkansas claim that 1 out of 500 people in Manhattan not wearing a mask while jogging alone is the cause for extended lockdowns. Its complete bunk and anyone supporting mask and lockdowns have blood on their hands. It's a scam people wake up.

The "conspiracy nut job" is simply a meme to discredit anyone challenging the narrative, despite what many believe, is not based on any science

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smoking, singing. I have borderline personality disorder, have questions?Ask away! I'm an open book reddit.com/rpan/r/TheYouS…
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Help for Borderline Personality Disorder: Borderline personality disorder affects 5% of the population. A new study reveals people with BPD are becoming more knowledgeable about their disorder and treatments available but may find it difficult to find evidence-based help for their symptoms. neurosciencenews.com/bord…
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I'm 32F, living with borderline personality disorder.

Hoping to address some misconceptions about this much stigmatized illness. Ask away:)

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A friend asked me to create a photograph depicting Borderline Personality Disorder
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I (M26) and fiance (F30) are at a stalemate. She refuses therapy and on a daily basis falls into the same argument. 9 years together, she may have borderline personality disorder.

To put it simply: I want to help her get into therapy and on medication. She helped me through hard times. This post only represents the last few months, not 99.9% of our past time together.

Honestly I am at the end of my rope. Things were great for so long but since this pandemic began I am losing my mind.

Every day, she starts the same fights. She won't listen to what i actually think. She tells me she knows I hate her and want her dead. Whether its about her thinking her parents never wanted her, or about me being unhappy with her.

I have had a better life for the past 9 years... But at this point, she screams for hours.

Hours of screaming.

What do my neighbors think of me? I have had to talk down a police officer who brought her home after she ran out in -20c without boots.

This never happened before. I am losing my mind. She always threatens suicide so kicking her out isn't feasible. I need to actually help her.

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β€œBPD” = Borderline Personality Disorder; It’s not an acronym for bipolar. Can we get this added to the automod or something? People confuse it all the time and it makes posts really confusing because some bipolar folks have both BPD and Bipolar

Also you don’t have to put a dash in bipolar (like this: bi-polar)

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk

Update: I sent this post to the mods to see if they’d be willing to make some sort of bot or something

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It has come to my attention that my ex has been telling people I have Borderline Personality Disorder. I do not have Borderline Personality Disorder.
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Is it possible to have both bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder ?

That’s basically it.

We think, my therapist and I, that I have symptoms that are not part of the bipolar disorder, such as paranoia, fear of being abandoned, excessive anger at random moments, hallucinations and other stuff. Looks like BPD. Is anyone both bipolar and borderline ? Is it possible to be both ?

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I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Schizotypal Personality Disorder AMA

I am 25yo and in therapy.

My therapist considers my BPD to be in the recovery phase.

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Borderline personality disorder entity attachmens

Hello everyone,

Not been here before and I was wondering if there would be any experts when it comes to this subject. I sometimes get into shamanic states to get some information and the last time I got into one I received some pretty shocking, but not that surprising information and I'd like to know what y'all think about it.

Anyways, long story short, I had a relationship with someone who had borderline personality disorder. I can only say that the person in question has two sides two them, I of course fell for the sweet, caring and kind side which was there. Then there was the cruel, deceitful and abusive one. This was my only romantic relationship ever and it was traumatizing and soul consuming for me. I thought I had met my soulmate and that's always a feature of these insidious relationships, it's so crazy. She was even talking about twin flames, sigh.

The way this person presented themselves to me turned out to be false, I don't think that they're completely bad as I know that there's the good in them, but they are definitely very broken people emotionally. They actually introduced me to shamanic plants and I sometimes got to see how they are in altered states. Their aura was quite dark to be honest and there was a very strong energy there...

The last time I did the shamanic ceremony alone I wanted to know about my connection to this person and know about their soul. The visions showed me that basically this person had some kind of a reptilian(ish) attachment or dark soul that was here to suck the life force out from people like me. Now, it also showed me that I am a powerful entity of positive light that got entagled with this entity of darkness in this human form and all of this was happening on a energetic level. I know this might sound totally nutty to most normal people, but I know what I saw with the help of spirit molecule.

The so very strange thing about all of this is that I met this person on a spiritual forum, they were studying spirituality and arts in a specifically spiritual school. They knew a lot, but they also had such strong anger issues and perhaps narcissism? This person was practicing energy healing and knew so many things about spiritual truths, but yet they hadn't really integrated that into their life and isn't real spirituality how you treat others? Their knowledge and words didn't match with their actions. They wanted to help people yet abused me in the romantic relationship? They had a troubled past and traumas from t

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I have Borderline Personality Disorder AMA

I cant really show proof because my medical inform (informe medico) has alot of personal info but yeah.

Ask me anything about BPD. Its got alot of prejudices towards it do i wanna do a bit to explain it!

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Questions about Borderline Personality Disorder

Hi friends,

My brother has many mental health disorders, including, borderline personality disorder. We have been having an extremely difficult time finding him help. Anyone have advice or recommendations on inpatient establishments in the USA?

We are currently in Wa state, and have had a terrible time finding help. He is unfortunately not easy to work with and can be very abusive. He is a paraplegic and in a wheel chair. He requires 24 hour care. So finding an establishment has been very difficult.

He has been in and out of general hospitals for the last two years.

We're willing to move out of state, if anyone has a recommendation

Thanks very much.

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Borderline Personality Disorder

does not mean you have a flawed personality, possess poor character, or are a mean or unlikeable person. You are worthy of love and belonging, right now - as is πŸ’–πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’–

EDIT FOR CONTEXT:

By no means am I saying that we do not need to work hard to think more effectively, behave more kindly, and address the maladaptive patterns we have developed.

I was diagnosed December 2019 and over the past year I have spent 4 months in residential treatment (2 months at a time) and another 4 months in intensive DBT. I am currently on a waitlist to start weekly DBT therapy. There is nothing more I want than to improve myself.

I know that we all have a different combination of traits, but think the one thing we all desperately want and need is hope and understanding. That is what I wanted to offer.

You deserve love and belonging at any point in your journey.

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S/O with Borderline Personality Disorder Advice

Hello!

I’m writing in this community to ask for some advice. I’m dating a wonderful man who struggles with BPD. So far, our relationship has been rocky but worth it for the past year and a half; however, in recent months I’ve been noticing a big shift in how he handles devaluation and idolization. We were thriving for a long time and then all of a sudden common minor relationship arguments turned into a BIG deal for him and began to affect every part of our relationship. We’re temporarily in a LDR (Ireland <β€”> USA) until April so that obviously hasn’t made things easier. Since the initial devaluation started, he’s been more and more distant citing work issues, busyness, and stress as reasons. We have our good days still, thankfully, but they’re now far and few in between.

I’m not really sure how to handle being in a constant swing of idolization and devaluation. Especially when I am being devaluated and then the majority of his attention goes to other people who haven’t disappointed him yet. It really stings...

I’m writing because I have confronted him on this, but whenever I do, he goes into a depressive episode and I have to comfort the person who just hurt me pretty deeply, so it is kind of unhealthy... He isn’t manipulative or malicious and is very kind, funny, and affectionate on good days, but the instability is making me very anxious all of the time. I want to love and support him more than anything, but I don’t know where to draw the line...

Thank you for whatever help you can provide!

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I recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder with the help of intense psychotherapy and have now been undiagnosed AMA

Following a period where I almost committed suicide but didn't, then got psychotherapy for BPD and healed, I was undiagnosed and now am a normal healthy happy person who loves themself and has healthy relationships. Yes, you can completely recover. AMA

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Workaholic or borderline personality disorder?

Female 27, US, no medicine, extremely healthy. 123lb 5'5" Caucasian ADHD INATTENTIVE

So, I have a severe need to clean, run errands, buy things for people, say yes constantly, make sure I don't "bother" anyone with my feelings presence or anything else I may deem inappropriate. When I can't find self-worth, I go to people pleasing. Especially if I feel like I've lost someone's approval, love, or they don't want me. I'll do anything to make sure I'm likeable.

This is a very serious problem because I don't feel like I know who I am. I think I know who I want to be but if I do that..my brain says people will leave. I often feel extremely lonely at random moments and the intrusive thoughts of "what did you do?!" Come up. I've read over and over about BPD. I'm just unsure.

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"You can define borderline personality disorder as the 'I don't fit in disorder'. They are the ultimate outsiders". How true is this for you?

Saw this on "Back from the Edge" BPD documentary.

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Pmdd and borderline personality disorder

I am in the midst of my bad days right now whilst coping with my period my mood has now plummeted. I keep going round in circles as I was prescribed fluoxetine/Prozac for my low mood around my period however have not actually been officially diagnosed with pmdd. I question a lot wether i suffer with pmdd or bpd. The symptoms are so similar and the fluctuations of moods are similar as well, whilst I’m on my period I seem to convince myself that this is something I always suffer with and it must be bpd, but once my period has passed and I start to feel a bit better I realise my extreme feelings must be linked with my period and therefore I must suffer from pmdd. I was wondering if anyone else has this issue of questioning wether they have pmdd or a different mood/personality disorder? Or if anyone suffers from both pmdd and bpd? Or someone could shed some light as to the similarities of the two? Are they linked in some way? Are u more likely to have one if u have the other? I also suffer greatly around relationships which seem to do fine until they deteriorate around my period when I get erratic and overthink things and I am very sensitive, this is one of the main reasons I question if I have pmdd or bpd as it does seem to link with my period however with bpd, relationships are challenging and all consuming for those with it. I will be talking to my doctor again on a diagnosis but just wanted to see if anyone had any answers or opinions, thanks.

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I (22F) was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder when I was 16, and have kept it a secret ever since. AMA.

Title says it all, I was freshly 16 when I was diagnosed. I was briefly put on a mood stabilizer called Tegretol, but it turned me into an absolute zombie and I stopped treatment after 1 week. I have only ever told 3 people that I was diagnosed, and have never had a meaningful conversation about it.

Due to the chaos of the circumstance I was in (it’s a lot, but feel free to ask), the condition was never formally explained to me, no one made me continue exploring treatment options, and I never wanted to tell anyone. I’ve spent the last six years getting it under control on my own, and have finally gotten to a place where I am exploring what it means to have this disorder in the context of my life and how I can continue growing & healing. I’ve never talked about it at length, ever, so please forgive me if I miss the mark on anything technical.

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Will I get benzos for borderline personality disorder

finally getting treated for my BPD i have an appointment with my new head doctor tomorrow but i’m also a drug addict so i’m tryna get pills as well πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™‚οΈ

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Wife suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder left me 2 years ago and has been saying she wants a divorce but won't go file. Please Help me understand. Is it all a game to her. Please read!

2 years ago I was arrested after being stopped for speeding while we were on vacation in Florida. During the stop the police searched the rental car and found my wife's meth in the console. I was not aware it was even in the car. As a result, I went to prison for 18 months. During my time in prison, my wife stops communicating with me amd starts running with a whole new crowd of people she met online. Has changed all her beliefs and bottomline who she has been for the last 25 years of our marriage. She is now claiming that our whole marriage of 25 years was horrible and toxic. That she is so much happier now she is away from me. When before all this happened she had attempted suicide months before my arrest bc she was worried I was about to leave her. She has been saying for 2 years now that she wants a divorce but yet has not filed. When I ask her why, I get reasons like I don't want you mad at me or there is to much tension between us. She has rented her own place but yet she took all my personal stuff like clothes and things and will not give them to me now that I am out. When I try to discuss all this with her to get my stuff back, to see my kids or discuss when she is going to file, she avoids me and won't talk to me at all. Then weeks later I will get some message saying she has talked to an attorney amd is going to get it over with. But it never happens. She won't allow me to speak to my son or see him either. I have tried to get her to meet me to sign legal seperation papers but she refuses. So I am left wondering. Is she not truly serious about the divorce and this is some form of punishment bc she feels I abandoned her when I went to prison? That she can not accept that I went to prison bc of her mistake. Or is she serious about this and just taking her sweet old time getting it done. I mean if she really wanted it like she claims she has had every chance to file. I even agreed that if she gave my personal property back we could do a no contest divorce to save all the money. She has told me on several occassions that she is not involved or seeing anyone and that is the last thing she wants right now. She will text me about the divorce after a few weeks of being silent amd when I stop messaging her and chasing her. I can't help but feel she wants me to chase her. Go beg her. That she is not serious about ending a 25 year marriage but wants to punish me over going to jail. Let me add that up until my arrest she had never w

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Does Fiona have borderline personality disorder?

It’s well established amongst fans of Degrassi that Esme has BPD, but does Fiona also have it? Fiona’s impulsive behaviour, unstable relationships and substance abuse are the main symptoms of BPD that she has, so I’m wondering if she does

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Suicidality and loneliness clusters more than doubled in the number of Reddit posts during the COVID-19 pandemic, based on posts from 826,961 unique users. Specifically, the support groups for borderline personality disorder and PTSD became significantly associated with the suicidality cluster. jmir.org/2020/10/e22635?T…
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Well actually transsexualism is just a type of PTSD/body dysmorphia/delusional disorder/schizophrenia/depression/anxiety/Narcissistic Personality Disorder/Borderline Personality Disorder/Histrionic Personality Disorder/Munchausen Syndrome...

and it should be treated as such. The current healthcare approach is just not supported by evidence and by science! It's obvious that it should be treated with... uh... therapy, or something. Not standard gender therapy, no, no, a different kind of therapy.

Oh, no, I'm not a psychiatrist; I'm a small business owner from Kentucky. What do you mean I'm not qualified to critique the global consensus of psychiatry? What's is a "D-S-M"? "World Health Organization"? I just watch Fox News

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My providers think I may have borderline personality disorder, and I’m upset about that.

I’m sad. My psychiatrist and my new T both now think I have borderline personality disorder.

It bothers me. I’m 40 and I have a good career. I have good work relationships and friendship relationships. I’m mostly a model client who speaks openly and does homework, etc. I’m very considerate of others - perhaps overly so - and I pride myself on being good and kind to people.

Some truths though that are contributing to the diagnosis: I got super attached to my old T and I freaked tf out and spiraled when that relationship ended. I was abandoned by my mom as a preteen and ended up in a horribly abusive situation as a child. Though I can go stretches of being good on my budget and diet, I will occasionally lose control and binge like crazy in both areas sometimes. I have several suicide attempts in the past. In the past I would rage sometimes to my immediate family over relatively minor things like bad grades. I sometimes feel empty or dead inside even though I have a great life.

I don’t know, maybe I’m concerned about the stigma, or maybe I’m bummed about some new label to contend with and the associated possible shifts in therapeutic approaches. β€œThe body keeps the score” author seems to think virtually all problems stem from trauma, and I definitely have my share. So is focusing on trauma like my old T did best, or is focusing on BPD best for awhile? Both? Plus, I’m just not sure I agree with the diagnosis. Maybe in the past but less so now.

Any advice or encouragement for a newly minted BPD person? Am I right to question the diagnosis? Maybe is this a really positive development? Is the stigma not that bad?

Thank you.

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Sunmi Opens Up About Being Diagnosed With Borderline Personality Disorder soompi.com/article/144389…
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If your partner shows all the hallmarks of borderline personality disorder, would it be wise to try and amicably break it off before things go south?

I've been with this girl for 3 months and just now am I looking back and realizing she exhibits all the signs of bpd. Emotionally unstable, fear of abandonment, suicide attempt in past, suffers from anxiety/depression, hypersexual (offers herself up sexually when she feels me distancing), fractured relationship with parents, victim complex (every argument we have I end up feeling guilty) etc. Fair to her she has been in therapy for years, is medicated for her depression and anxiety and is sorta self aware of her issues. FWIW I do think if she did have BPD I think it would be pretty mild and more "quiet" (she doesn't really get angry or lash out; more just getting upset and crying). The primary reason I'm thinking of sticking around is because, like most people's experiences with people with BPD, the highs are fckin high. I would also like to believe that it is possible she could still grow as a person and "overcome" bpd? But the lows are freaking low man. And I feel like I'm walking on eggshells most of the time. Wondering if it's just better to try and end it now and just be friends.

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"Delicate Anger" or "Subtle" Anger in the book "Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder"

Several months ago a friend suggested my mom might be BPD, and it all started to fit together so much. But I kept coming back to anger. She was never, or almost never, angry. Right?

Wrong. This passage below is like gold for me in trying to figure out what is happening, what was happening in my childhood. I found this in Jerold J Kreisman's "Talking to a Loved One with Borderline Personality Disorder"

>Sometimes anger is not represented by explosive outbursts, but in more subtle ways. You may experience constant 'constructive' criticism, sarcastic comments, belittling of ambitions and achievements. The BP may deny his anger in various ways: "I was just kidding." "You're too sensitive." "You're overreacting."
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>When his rage is out of control and way out of proportion, you can more easily rationalize it as his extreme behavior, less connected to you. But when he expresses anger more subtly, his declarations seem more justifiable. You may not recognize that his 'trying to help' or 'just being honest' remarks are really angry, resentful attacks. Instead, you may accept his self-representation as a concerned innocent who is only trying to help you atone for your missteps. 'Constructive' assessments from the 'wounded' BP portray him as the victim, although they may serve to torment you. You may then find yourself embroiled in an elaborate sado-masochistic dance, in which who is punishing whom becomes blurred.
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>You may be susceptible to quiet anger, disguised at first as 'helpful suggestion that then subtly mutate into verbal thrashing. After a while the criticism may feel deserved, and your own self-esteem may be damaged.
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>Establishing firm personal boundaries will protect against too readily absorbing projected criticism. Let the BP know you have heard his criticism or accusation, but you need not endorse it, nor argue against it. Resist the BP's proposition that you are responsible for his contentment. (80-83)

Gold. This is like hitting gold.

I've known that my mom's constant "You're too sensitive" etc growing up was gaslighting. I've understood that for the last few years. But it's like the pieces of the puzzle don't fit together. I haven't been able to understand why that was happening, how it reconciled with our relationship at other moments.

Anger is the missing piece and it's hard to see. This was anger. I haven't been able to see that before. And seeing it as anger, it's like the pieces of her

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I have borderline personality disorder and I’m currently procrastinating sleep, AMA!

Got diagnosed 2 years ago, very open about all the aspects, just find it useful to spread awareness of it, help me procrastinate sleep and AMA!:) (I’m new to Reddit so pls bare with)

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Anybody here who has experience of living/being with a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) patient?

I have been living with someone who has officially been diagnosed as having BPD (amongst other things like schizophrenia in the past and lifelong depression).

I had absolutely no idea about this disorder before I met and spent some time with this person and I didn't see it coming even though I did spot some red flags but I attributed them to other people who were involved in this person's life. Let's call this person 'X' from hereon.

When I met 'X' I saw them talking to their father/partner etc on phone and X used to react very strongly and negatively. It was abnormal. Crying, hyperventilating, extreme aggression. Flared nostrils, red eyes, fuming. It was pretty scary. But when I talked to X about it they said certain things which I attributed to them(father etc) being at fault for treating X wrong.

Anyway, after spending yearS with this X person for reasons that I won't go into right now, I find myself scared shitless and with no way out except maybe dying myself or if this said X person kills themselves (which is going to ruin my life anyway, mentally at least).

I feel very alone. I can't confide in anyone. I don't have anyone as a support system. This is not an exaggeration btw.

I have very little hopes (given the state of mental health awareness in india) but I just wanted to know if anyone has any experience of being with someone having BPD. Only those people will ever understand what people close to BPD patients go through.

I'm at the rock bottom and scared for my life and my future.

Just knowing that I'm not alone in feeling this and there are people who genuinely understand what I'm going through will give me some strength to go on in life.

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do only people with borderline personality disorder have a "favorite person"?

I'm 16 and I've struggled with some pretty intense anxiety and depression throughout my life which is being treated with medication and therapy right now. I've recently learned about this "favorite person" phenomenon common with people who have borderline personality disorder. it sounds REALLY similar to how I've been with my best friend in the past..... I'd get extremely anxious if she didn't text me back or if her tone changed, and am still extremely sensitive to any amount of rejection and anything negative she says to me. I've had mental breakdowns about thinking she hates me when it's not the case, would tell her everything in my life, and think about her constantly. it's actually damaged her mental health how much I've been dependent on her and I hate how I've hurt her. I'm doing a little better about being less dependent on her lately but still the impression of obsession over her is still there and I HATE IT! i don't think this is normal at all... but I don't think I fit very many of the symptoms of bpd. please help, I don't know why I seem to have a favorite person.

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I think my wife has borderline personality disorder (bpd)

So I am 25, my wife is 24, we have a one year old and now another one on the way. We live on the east coast if that's relevant.

My wife goes through insane mood swings where just little things will set her off. For instance one time I had gotten back from a half shift at work around 9am. My wife had been sleeping for almost 10 hours now. I still had stuff to do when our son woke up and started crying. I let him wake my wife up so she would take care of him instead of her continuing to sleep and me do everything (common trend). She ended up getting very mad at me for that to the point of saying she was done with me. How I don't think of her when I do things etc. I apologized for not letting her sleep but she still insisted she was done.

Scenarios like that happen almost monthly. Where she will say she is done with me and we need to seperate or divorce. And sometimes not even 12 hours later she will be acting like nothing happened. Me, her parents and aunt who she is close with all have told her she needs to go get help (in so many words). She refuses because she thinks its not her, its everyone else.

She doesn't think medicine such as zoloft are helpful to anyone, and that they should just smoke weed like her instead.

Has anyone delt with a person with BPD or NPD before and successfully gotten them the help they need? How does one convince a person to get help who doesn't believe they need it?

I love her. I don't want to divorce her, nor do I want to keep getting emotionally abused like this.

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I wish more of us with Borderline Personality Disorder would take responsibility for our actions

I have BPD. I was diagnosed 14 years ago. I’m in my 30s. I just read someone with BPD wrote β€œI can’t help it” ... but the thing is YOU can! Saying β€œI can’t help it” is saying this is completely out of your control. It doesn’t sound like taking responsibility for your actions. DBT exists TO HELP take control of the thoughts, urges, impulsivity and extremes. We DO learn how to better communicate with others through interpersonal effectiveness.

Someone else said I wish people would know that we are not monsters. As someone who is becoming more aware of all my toxic behaviors, I am not proud to say this but I was a monster - a lot. A lot of us do treat people like shit. It’s the truth. Trust me, I used to be the person to get SO ANGRY hearing others say we are abusive, toxic, monsters, run for the hills.

But I DID do so many of those awful things. I’ve had so many encounters with the police. Never been arrested thank god. I’ve harassed boyfriends including my current one sadly. We aren’t INTENTIONALLY manipulative but we ARE manipulative. So many things I’ve done ...my former therapist said at times β€œyou are holding him emotionally hostage.” I’m not proud of anything I’ve done in the past, but I will take responsibility for my actions.

The most irritating one is when people are sad or angry that their friend, partner or favorite person left. YOU most likely 9 out of 10 times had a part in it if not a significantly big part in it.

I know we are super super sensitive. I know the quote about third degree burns. I know all 9 symptoms for the diagnostic criteria. I’ve been very very exposed to BPD. And I NEVER thought I’d feel true sympathy for people who have been mistreated and emotionally abused by someone with BPD. I thought they were evil. I still do think the ones who can’t humanize a person with BPD are plain evil, but otherwise I feel sorry they went through that. My heart truly does go out to you people. We damage, torture and punish others.

I’m glad I’m reaching this point where I’m realizing how blind I’ve been about my behaviors. Like, I’ve admitted I was toxic to boyfriends and it was me not them, but I’d say this detached. Or sometimes I would say it and mean it and be crying. But it still took me a very long time to truly have things absorb and really realize what I’ve done to others. All the harm I’ve caused.

It scares me how removed many people with BPD are. It is treatable. And those that say β€œwell yeah but it never really goes away” or

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Are you born with Borderline Personality Disorder?

Or is it something you can develop like depression? I have depression, but I find myself resonating a bit with borderline personality accounts and experiences, I in no way am self diagnosing but am wondering if it should be a cause for concern. However I feel like I still don’t know enough about BPD. I’ve never actually met anyone with it, so I’m not sure how behaviours would translate in real life. Any help?

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Jobs for Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder/Depression Who Cannot Handle Dealing With Others.

I need pretty serious help because I have multiple things that are serious issues for me, and I have no escape from them. My mental disorders are the major ones, because they completely make it impossible for me to deal with other people, because I have constant breakdowns/meltdowns over the most minor things (It is part of my BPD).

I did graduate from a technical center with honors in drafting, but it is something I haven't done for years, and while I might be able to do it; in my experience it seemed pretty intensive, and there's not much room for error. It was pretty stressful for me, as I would constantly make mistakes.

I've wanted to get into jobs that require creativity or art, but they all seem ridiculously difficult to get into, so I feel like right now, it would be hard to do said things. A lot of my issues I need help with are pretty urgent, so I cannot really afford to wait on these things. I've tried applying to places like Wal-Mart, Target, Kohls, etc. but they weren't interested. Seems like Target/Kohls are looking for people with prior retail experience, and I must have failed the Wal-Mart exam, as a friend who works for them says they look for "team players", and that's not at all what I am. My hope for finding something I'd be able to do is rather slim. Appreciate any suggestions.

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πŸ“…︎ Jan 19 2021
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TMAF about borderline personality disorder
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I have BPD (borderline personality disorder) AMA

trying to distract myself from a down spot. Litterly ask me anything

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How does Borderline Personality Disorder affect you?
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Do you think BoJack had Borderline Personality Disorder?

Or maybe Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

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I have Borderline Personality Disorder and having a diagnosis changed my life AMA

I was diagnosed this year and knowing why I am the way I am has changed everything for me

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