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Edit: At the end of the day what you choose to do with your money is just that, your choice.
Most of the time, I get high score in our religious ed class when it comes to history and the bible. But I always get low scores when it comes to essay for being honest. I just don't understand why my classmates looks down on themselves because an atheist knows more about the topic than them who believes in it.
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edit: wow i hate that this blew up. for the record it was a SHITPOST and my mother and gf are wonderful people, yet i appreciate everyoneβs advice and consolation nonetheless. yβall truly are some special people π₯β¨π
So. My 16-year-old little sister died in a freak accident 5 months ago. I can't say a lot about the accident, since there's gonna be a trial, but I can say that there was another party at fault for her death.
I've been dating my current partner for about a year and a half, and in that time I haven't met their mother for more than three times. There are issues between my partner and their mother, and we usually visit on holidays and that's all.
Recently we visited my MIL and the conversation quickly went to my sister and me dealing with my grief. I told my MIL and her husband the truth, that I have never been this angry and sad in my life, that I am not coping well (I do see a mental health professional twice a week). I told them the thing that bothers me the most, which is related to my sisters grave site: the person who caused my sister's death was APPARENTLY randomly buried right next to her. I hate that she has to rest next to him.
My MIL then told me that it was my sisters fault she got killed because [of reasons related to her death I cannot talk about in detail, because of the upcoming trial]. I started to cry, told her I needed to step out for a second and went and sat on the front stairs for a while. I came back, told everyone that I was fine and changed the subject. MIL then proceeded to tell me I was being weak and I shouldn't have minded her saying that about my sister, since it was a fact that it was my sisters fault as well. We left, I told my partner I felt like my MIL kinda ambushed me and I felt bad. My partner understood me completely, and told me this was the reason they didn't have a relationship with their mother.
Later I told my best friends about this, and they disagreed with me and my partner. They told me I was just being too serious, taking things out of context and since me and MIL don't have a "proper" relationship, I probably just misunderstood her words. I don't think I did. I don't think anyone should watch their words around me,but I also think a person that doesn't know the whole story (even tho I did tell my MIL the circumstances of my sister dying and she knew there is a trial coming) shouldn't say these kinda things, especially to their child's partner. Especially in the stage of getting to know someone.
So,the question is: am I an asshole for thinking my MIL is being rude and weird about my sister's death? I honestly don't even know anymore.
Throwaway.
My mum has always been rather conservative. She raised me and my siblings in an extremely conservative household - and always hoped that would we would retain those values as we grew up. I, luckily, grew out of those old-fashioned views - and met my wonderful girlfriend along the way and we've been together for almost 3 years.
I don't see my family often for personal, complicated reasons - but every time I've visited my mum with my girlfriend, my mum has had a strange obsession with my girlfriend's natural hair.
I think the first time they formally met - my girlfriend (she's a black woman) had her natural hair in a slicked-back low ponytail. She looked very pretty, and - against my girlfriend's wishes, kept touching her hair - and then got upset when she got a bunch of product on her hands. My girlfriend was understandably very upset, and she ended up (very politely) telling my mum off for constantly touching her hair. I was not as nice as my girlfriend - and told my mum to stop touching my girlfriend's hair because it's making her uncomfortable.
Every time my girlfriend wears braids, dreads etc. My mum makes comments about her hair. As a matter of fact, my girlfriend had to block my mum on social media because my mum would always make a comment about her hair, or message her about it.
My girlfriend has a septum piercing, and a couple of extra piercings on her ears. I don't think my mum has seen my girlfriend with her septum piercing in her person, but she's definitely seen it in pictures and again, always comments on it.
Unfortunately, my niece passed away and I wanted to attend the funeral and support my sister. My girlfriend didn't wear her septum piercings, but she did have the multiple ear piercings.
We were at my parents house and we were getting ready to leave to the funeral, then my girlfriend fainted (she wasn't feeling very well that morning but still insisted on coming, luckily she was fine.)
Instead of helping my girlfriend, or even acting concerned, my mum says, βWell maybe if you didnβt wear such tight, ugly braids and too many piercings, maybe you wouldnβt have lost circulation.β
I ignored her, and like everyone else, mostly focused on my girlfriend. My girlfriend, being extremely selfless, insisted that my sister and her husband donβt be late, and assured them that she was fine. They left and I stayed with her.
My girlfriend got some food and drink in her system, laid down for a bit and then, when I was sure she w
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When a girl calls herself a bad bitch, it just makes me cringe, because the girls I hear say it have no idea what "bad" even is. I've only met a handful of truly bad bitches, and I would give them the title unquestioningly because of the things they've done.
If you flirt with a bunch of guys, but never settle down with one? That doesn't make you a bad bitch. It makes you undesirable because obviously something is wrong.
If you litter and cuss? Congratz. You're a public nuisance. You are not a bad bitch.
You do drugs? Bitch, please! Who the fuck doesn't these days? You're just a dime store druggie.
"Oh, but I fight all the time!" Yeah, but who did you get in a fight with? Malibu barbie? Did anybody have a knife or gun on them? Sit your ass down.
Yeah, I'm gatekeeping. Cry about it. Having fun on the weekends does not qualify you as a bad bitch. Go trekking through flood waters after a hurricane to rescue people, and take zero credit for it. Grab a snake or wrangle an alligator. Put your life in danger. Then you can call yourself bad.
Edit: if you're going to insult me, come up with something other than virgin or incel. I've heard it already. Your spin on it is not original. Preferrably, just don't say anything at all if you disagree. Just downvote and move on.
We are both in our mid thirties.
Husband invited over a coworker for dinner who was a college buddy/past fling of his that he recently reconnected with. Keep in mind we havenβt had visitors over for dinner since this pandemic started but my husband is vaccinated and gets tested for covid three times a week for work and so does his coworker. Our son who hasnβt interacted with many people because of this pandemic is a bit caught off guard it was nearing his bed time so I went to tuck him in because it was his bedtime. The first thing this man says when I leave to put our son to bed is βpolite are we?β. I pay no mind to it and laughed it off and introduce myself and say that Iβll be back. I havenβt even left the room yet and this man says to my husband βoh so youβre married βmarriedβ.
The wasnβt even the last comment he made. We are sat down for dinner and this man ignores me. My husband is trying to have me join the conversation but the guy could not have made more clear that there was a motive here. We are all in our 30s so recounting your wild college stories is more than a little bit trashy and overdone. My husband puts no effort to steer the conversation away so I try to make conversation and ask him a few questions. He asks me a few and I say that Iβm working from home and doing the bulk of the childcare because of his long working hours. He makes a comment about how Iβm clearly wife in in our marriage. This continues on an on he comments on the food being good. We get to talk a bit about food and he throws in a βyouβre a full on step Ford wife are youβ.
I could go on about the things being said but it came to a point where my husband was laughing along, they were not jokes at my expense but tasteless humor or certain shady remarks about something that happened between them at work or college.
We move to the lounge area and he is sitting too close to my husband and is incredibly touchy. At this point I want to call him out. It is late, we all had a bit to drink. I work tomorrow, they donβt. Luckily he was ready to leave and I do say that will be great both referencing the time and his inappropriate behavior throughout.
He leaves and it doesnβt even end there. He pecks my husband on the cheeks and looks at me and says βIβd love to but donβt think that be appreciatedβ. I could not care if the man had the covid cure on his lips. I found that incredibly inappropriate.
Cue massive argument between my husband and I telling me that I was rude and delib
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