I (21f) was one of those kids who was born on Christmas Day. Which I wouldn’t have minded at all if my parents treated this normally for example my friends boyfriend was also born on Christmas and he said his parents would do his birthday in the morning and Christmas in the afternoon and I wouldn’t have minded that at all. However my parents said it was greedy to have two celebrations on one day so I had to choose between having Christmas with everyone else ( my family and extended family) or have my birthday on Boxing Day and not take part in Christmas ( I wouldn’t have any presents or the chocolates and stuff everyone else would, I wasn’t even allowed to help with the Christmas tree)
This was pretty shit, either I had Christmas with everyone and wasn’t even wished happy birthday and because we wouldn’t be at school I never got happy birthdays from my friends or I was completely left out during Christmas and had a birthday where everyone was still focused on Christmas. And if I chose birthday my parents would tell my extended family I didn’t want Christmas and if I chose Christmas they said I didn’t want my birthday so I didn’t get both from my extended family. It made my childhood absolute hell and ruined holidays for me. My first Christmas/ birthday away from home was probably the best day of my life.
Well cuz of Covid my family were talking about doing a zoom call for Christmas and my mum said “ well I guess op gets to chose to be part of the Christmas call or we call her on Boxing Day for her birthday “ I don’t know why but I just blew up and called her an asshole and said they ruined my childhood.
It’s not like they couldn’t afford it my family is probably in the top 1% of the country money wise and even so I could’ve still taken part in festivities and only had one present. But my brothers are calling me selfish and my auntie says I need to apologise. And it’s Christmas so I feel like I should.
OH MY GOD. THANK YOU EVERYONE SO MUCH!! I went to bed last night and woke up to about a million notifications. I’m sorry but I don’t think I can get through everyone but I’m definitely trying to!! I’ve had the best birthday/Christmas!! My best friend got me a Nintendo switch!! And we’re going to have a huge gaming competition together and we got leftovers of kfc for lunch!! Thank you all so much for the birthday and Christmas wishes I feel so honoured ! I love you all!!!
I'm not talking about ruining the day for the birthday boy/gal/non binary person. It ruins the party FOR ME. I came here to eat cake, and I'm sure as hell I'm not the only one that thought the cake looked delicious.
But no, an asshole thought it was funny to completely destroy the cake because of some tradition.
I have legit seen people destroying the cake with the face of someone else. And I have also seen moms or the birthday boy give pieces of what's left of the cake. The hell, I'm not eating that. It has your boogers and your dead skin all over.
Stop wasting cakes for a stupid tradition. Let me eat cake, dammit.
Ps. No, I'm not buying two cakes.
Edit: For many people confused, this is a fairly popular tradition here in Mexico and I have seen many friends choking on cream or almost getting blinded with candles. So I guess my thoughts would be unpopular here in my country lmao.
Since I have known her (7 years at least) my mother in law has had a habit/tradition of saying "cha cha cha" between line of happy birthday during any family members birthday song. She is the only one that does it and I believe she looks at it as "her special thing" that she does during birthdays. The thing is that I really don't like it. Not only is it annoying, but it takes the attention away from the birthday person and onto her every time she says "cha cha cha". I put up with it because I am only one of many at these celebrations, and its a fleeting moment that goes by relatively quickly.
So...my daughter is almost 3 months old and is 9 months away from celebrating her first birthday. I am currently overcome to an obsessive degree with anxiety over the impending "cha cha cha" I know that I and my family are going to be subjected to on my daughters first birthday...and all following ones. My MIL a sensitive person who may not always respond to critique or comment in a rationale way, so I am afraid if i told her to stop the "cha cha cha's" specifically for my daughters birthdays, she would take it as an affront to her. That being said, I don't think I can stand the "cha cha cha" during my daughters special day, which is about her, not my MIL or her "cha cha cha". I feel compelled to say something.
WIBTA if i did?
Final Edit before Update: THANK YOU SO MUCH!! Genuinely from the bottom of my heart, thank you, for every single birthday wish, kind message, and gift. I have never had a good birthday and have really been struggling these last few years, but thanks to all of you and your immense kindness, this will be my first memorable birthday. For the first time in my life I can say that I am looking forward to celebrating my birthday. I will always look back on this year with fond memories. You all will never know how much your kindness and generosity means to me. May your lives and birthdays be forever filled with peace, love, and laughter. <3
My 21st birthday is coming up and I don’t really have any friends to celebrate with and the idea of just spending it at home like every other year kinda depresses me, so I decided I’d go spend the weekend at a hotel in my city and just order some good food. Is this a weird thing to do? Is it sort of pathetic?
Edit: Hey! I just want to thank everyone who has commented and left birthday wishes. Genuinely, you’ve all made me feel a lot better about my birthday, which I usually dread. I very much appreciate everyone’s suggestions, and I would have loved to have gone to a different country or even NYC but with the travel restrictions, LA seemed best (since it’s basically home). But nonetheless, I’m looking forward to trying my first real steak and legal drink (if my license arrives in time lol). Thanks again, everyone has been so nice and reassuring that I’m actually looking forward to my birthday for once!!
Edit: I never expected for this post to garner so much attention. I am truly thankful for every person who has wished me a happy birthday. I don’t have any friends in my life and just today I was thinking about the fact that no one would really wish me a happy birthday, and now suddenly, hundreds of people have and it means a lot. Thank you so much for making me feel more “normal” and less sad about this decision. I’m actually pretty excited now, and have even started making a list of places i’m going to order food from lol. It might seem dumb, but your kind messages have made my week a little brighter.
Edit: My birthday is this coming Sunday and I will definitely post an update then, to let you all know how it went. :)
Edit: Wow this really blew up! Thank you again for such kind birthday messages. To everyone who has offered to buy me a drink, I just want to thank you sincerely from the bottom of my heart. Truly, it mea... keep reading on reddit ➡
My wife(27f) and I(28m) have been together for ten years, and have four children(5f,4f,3f,2f). The be one-hundred percent honest I absolutely hate receiving gifts, I like giving them, but just feel uncomfortable and slightly angry when I receive them. I don’t know what is wrong with me, I just have always been this way. For the first few years of this relationship, my wife insisted on getting me gifts for my birthday and doing special stuff like taking me out to dinner, but last year my wife finally listened to me and did nothing for my birthday. Two months ago my father(50m) passed away, so that might be why my wife did something for me this year. On the day of my birthday(December 30th) my wife woke me up early and sang happy birthday to me. After that, she gave me breakfast and had our daughters bring in a card they made for me. I thanked them for their effort but rejected the card. Later that evening when our children were asleep my wife berated me for a good twenty minutes, saying that she knew I dislike celebration so she did something small and that I broke my daughters heart rejecting their gift. I know that it probably sucks for my children to have their father reject their gift, but I think it is good for them to know my values early in life so we won’t have issues later on. In addition it isn’t right for my wife to force things onto me. AITA?
1*EDIT* I am not going to start liking gifts if you guys just shame me in comments, I came here seeking judgment on this situation, not my life style. As I Said before you guys seem to have a lot of Daddy issues and are projecting it onto me.
2*EDIT* After reading the thread and thinking about this situation for a few minutes, I don't think I am the asshole, you guys are just blowing it out of proportion.
3*EDIT* After having a day to reflect on my actions, I am starting to see you guys view a little and I admit I could of handled it better. But I still think it is good for them to know my values early in life so we won’t have issues later on. Would you rather have me reject this gift now so we won't have problem in the future or accept it and have my kids think I enjoy something I dislike?
Hi. I'm a 37 year old mom. First off let me start by saying that my 13 year old daughter Maya was suffering from blood cancer and it was incredibly hard on her because of how weak she was. We'd seen some pretty awful days. I was exhausted I had zero strength to handle it. It was just me and my husband doing everything my parents themselves been dealing with health issues but my brother and his wife only visited a couple of times and that was it. My brother's wife made some backhanded comments about maya's health/look while Maya was struggling. Maya cried twice because of her insensitivity and lack of consideration. We kept our distance from her and my brother and focused on Maya.
It's been nearly over a year now and Maya is in good health and I'm so thankful for that. Last year unfortunately, we didn't get to celebrate her birthday due to circumstances but this year her grandparents said they wanted to celebrate her birthday at their house. I agreed. Maya has a wonderful relationship with her grandparents and I knew she'd want to go celebrate her birthday with them. My mom invited family members. My brother and his wife were already there since they always visit.
Things were going great. Family members showed up with gifts and more sweets and also took pictures. However. Once Maya started opening her gifts. My sister in law got up while my brother was asking for a minute because he said they had something to announce. By the look on his wife's face it seemed like it was planned. My sister in law announced that she and my brother were expecting and everyone started congratulating her and hugging my brother. I was standing next to Maya and I noticed she was uncomfortable. Sister in law basically stole my daughter's birthday to announce her pregnancy even though she could've picked another day. Maya seemed upset until the party was over she didn't even open some gifts as everyone else was sitting and talking to my sister in law.
We left an hour early and once I got home I called my sister in law and asked her why she thought it was okay for her to ruin my daughter's birthday and crush her spirit after having been through so much that this party was needed. I basically lashed out at her and told her she could've picked another day. But she pulled the "the whole family was there, So I couldn't miss the chance" nonsense.
Maya stayed in her room after that and she even refused to look at the pictures we took. I got into an argument with my brother telling me... keep reading on reddit ➡
My entire life, I’ve thought my birthday was January 6th. I’m now 15 and I’ve always celebrated that day. My mom and I have matching garnet necklaces (January birthstone- we were supposedly born in the same month), and all my keepsakes with a birthday say January 6th, 2005.
Since I’m supposed to be turning 16 next week, I’m getting my driver’s license. While looking for the required documents, I found my birth certificate in my parents’ files. I’ve never looked at it before or something, but apparently, I was never born on January 6th, 2005 at all, but actually on December 25, 2004. I’m already 16.
I immediately confronted my mom about it, and she told me that I was due on January 6th but I was born on December 25th. My uncle’s birthday is on Christmas, too, and she said that growing up he would always cry and have a terrible birthday, so she wanted to keep me from that. While it’s not a bad reason, I was still super mad. They shouldn’t have lied to me like that- they could have told me when my real birthday is and just celebrated on the 6th or something. I’ll admit I got pretty mad and called my mom a liar and an asshole before going off to my room to call one of my friends. I just don’t know how I could trust my parents anymore. Anyway, that was this morning and I’ve been in my room since then. My parents are really mad at me and the names I called my mom. AITA?