I have a good long distance male friend in his late 20s (I’m mid 20s). I was talking to him on the phone yesterday saying that I’ve been on a couple dates with a guy and that I hope it goes somewhere. (This would be my first relationship/sexual experience etc.) I thought out loud to myself that I may have to start thinking about/looking into birth control. He laughed and said but you’re not a slut! Sluts take birth control! I was taken aback and said I guarantee you most women are or use some from of birth control otherwise how do you not get pregnant?! He laughed again and said the withdrawal method! I was pretty offended so I changed the subject cause I didn’t want to talk about this anymore.
He was laughing, it may have been just at my reaction but he seemed pretty serious. He grew up in rural-ish small town America. So maybe the community or views of people there have sort of influenced him to think like that? But it’s very weird. Like how does a guy think he knows more about a... keep reading on reddit ➡
Sexism is alive in America
I live in a southern state, and I have experienced sexism first hand. The hospitals where I live are owned by the Catholic Church and my insurance only covers the doctors that are affiliated with them. When trying to get birth control for its purpose- to prevent pregnancy, I was denied because I wanted it for that. They told me I could only be prescribed birth control if I had medical problems from my period like pain or heavy bleeding. So basically, the church doesn’t want women to be able to prevent pregnancy. Then they go onto make abortion illegal...how is that fair if we can’t even control getting pregnant in the first place? It fucking infuriates me, that In our modern world in America where I am suppose to have individual rights I don’t even have choices over my own body. How are we a secular nation if the church controls our hospitals and health care?
Edit: I’m an adult woman in a long term relationship, I have sex just like almost every other adult... keep reading on reddit ➡
I(25f) recently had a child and my husband(29m) didn’t show up until about an hour after I had given birth.
I asked why he took so long to get here and he told me he had to help his friend clean their garage and that he planned to be here after it was done. I got furious at him for prioritizing someone’s clean garage over his wife going into labor.
He says that he doesn’t see it as a big deal and says that he feels like he shouldn’t have to go if he didn’t want to. I was really hurt by that comment and I’m not sure if I should have been mad. AITA
I drive logging trucks for work. I had arranged to take the fortnight prior to my wife's delivery off of work so I could be there for her, but unfortunately she went into labor a bit over 8 months pregnant and I was out of cell reception. As soon as I got back into cell reception I heard my messages and told my boss I had to go and drove straight to her, I arrived about an hour after the birth. Everything seemed OK initially but now its been a week and we are back home and my wife is giving me the cold shoulder, my mil has left me several snippy messages about not being there for her but I dont know what else I could've done?? Am I the asshole for not being there?
My son and his wife are expecting their first child next month, and of course my wife and I couldn’t be happier about it. This weekend my son was helping me with some yard work (6 ft apart) and we started talking about the delivery. I asked if he was nervous, and he said “I am nervous for her, but kind of relived I’ll be in the waiting room.” I was dumbfounded and he said that when he and his wife discussed it, she expressed that she would “highly prefer” having just her mother in the room, but that she “of course” wouldn’t stop him if he felt strongly about being there instead, since due to the virus she can only have one person in the room with her. He insisted he was “indifferent” about witnessing the birth and wanted to respect his wife’s preference.
I explained that this is not ok, he needs to be there! He got frustrated with me and said that his wife is a “private person”, that she’s very close to her mother, and that she says she’ll be “best comforted by someone who’s already d... keep reading on reddit ➡
Obligatory apology for formatting as I'm on mobile.
Kinda my revenge, kinda my sisters, both of us really proud. This is gonna be long so TL;DR at bottom. Here's our cast:
My sister - we'll call her "Sara" for the story Sister's Ex-BF - "Paul" Ex-BFs New Wife - "Jane" Ex-BFs Parents - "Mr. And Mrs. Doe" Oldest brother - "Zeke" Our parents And Me :)
When I was 14 and my oldest sister, Sara, was 22 we found out that she was pregnant with Paul, her boyfriend of 4 years. They immediately got engaged and they were really happy. For a time. Sara had a horrible pregnancy, about 16-18 weeks in the "wonder of creating a human life" evaporated within her. She developed hyperemesis (which if you don't know is really bad morning sickness), she was constantly in pain, she developed gestational diabetes, and just all around hated the experience. Around this time Paul, the then-fiance, started getting sick of the complaining. I believe the argument was "your body is built to do this, it can't be... keep reading on reddit ➡
My birth mom and birth dad divorced when I was 5. My bd remarried and stepmom didn’t want me hanging around so I ended up with my bm more. However my bm has a really demanding job, plus she doesn’t like kids. She never mistreated me, she was just not affectionate and valued her career. So I was always being left with a babysitter or my grandma (actually meaner than my bm), eating take out, no one to take me to activities etc.
My (future adoptive) mom and my bm were actually best friends at some point. She and my (adoptive) dad had my bro and decided they were ‘one and done’. However she worried that my bro would miss out on the experience of having a sibling. So she offered to babysit me and from about 7 I spent many weekends, sometimes entire holidays with them. Initially my mom told me to think of her as “aunt D”. She never treated me like an outsider, she gave me same rules as my bro. Quite a lot of my interests came from activities we did as a family.
When I was 9 my bm met a guy... keep reading on reddit ➡
So I had an emergency c section six months ago. My partner and I decided to have a small get-together with friends. One of his friends whom I can't stand and genuinely believe is a sociopath asked me if my son got a birth certificate. I was pretty confused and replied with a yeah.. Then he informs me I shouldn't have gotten one because I did not give birth my son was extracted from me like a tumor. His wife and a couple of people snickered with him. I did what I always do which is ignore him because I don't deal well in those situations. I wanted to tell everyone they're a fucking ding dong though because regardless it's still considered giving birth.
My (25M) parents are very religious Christians. They are pretty okay usually, but are crazy about no premarital sex etc.
And in their minds this also means that you don't need things like the HPV vaccine or birth control until you're married. All because they "pushed" you to have sex. Very flawed logic, I understand that. They aren't against any other vaccinations, however. HPV is the only one they refused to let us get.
When my sister was 15, she had been getting really bad period cramps and such. She missed school regularly because of it, and the doctors recommended getting her on birth control to help with it. It was an immediate no from my parents. They were willing to try anything other than that. In the end decided to just exclusively pray for her recovery.
So sister couldn't get on birth control and suffered every month because parents' refused to get down from their religious high horse.
After the first few initial attempts at convincing, I didn't try to get them to und... keep reading on reddit ➡
There’s apparently no nurses working here by that description.
Her son is such a perfect little child. Sweetest little boy you'd ever meet. Now they have a little girl, and I'm scared for her and her husband and also my mom.
Anxiety runs in my family, they seemed to have it the worst. Her and her husband are lucky enough to have the money and time to take care of this baby and her needs, but they don't have the patience. None of us do. Her husband is a good dad, he really is, but they work in a system where she's the main one that "takes care" of their son. I know she won't be able to take care of this baby on her own. My sister is the type to panic if something goes wrong, and by panic I mean panic attacks. My mom and brother in law are both the type to get mad and lash out (vocally) when they're frustrated.
This just sucks, I wish their daughter had been born without downs. I'm afraid this is gonna cause a lot of fights in their house, and a lot of problems with their son growing up. I might just be afraid because I've never had anybody in m... keep reading on reddit ➡
EDIT: I’d really like folx to know that I use they/them pronouns and don’t identify as a woman. I also don’t give anyone permission to distribute/publish this story.
I know the title is a doozy but hear me out
I’m surrogating for my sister, and we’ll start IUI in July after I get my IUD out. My egg with a sperm donor. Now, I’ve given birth before, and every nasty thing that CAN happen during birth happened to me when I gave birth to my son. I vomited, I shit myself, I think I peed on the floor once, it was rough. I also bled more than the average person, to the point I almost needed a transfusion. I gave birth with no pain management while on my hands and knees on the floor. While it was an effective way for me to give birth, it is the least dignified. My plan is to hold off pain management for as long as possible even though this is my sister’s kid. My reasons for not wanting pain management are still the same (mostly revolving around maintaining bodily autonomy) and labor is *supp... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am a new mum - I have a 6 week old and I have noticed a few people have started not calling me by my name and calling me “Mama” instead.
I don’t know why but I kind of find it insulting. Yes, I am my son’s mother but I’m not yours. I am still me. I still have a name and an identity other than being a mum. I have a career, a social life and am not bound to being just a mum as I do a lot of other things. Being a mum doesn’t define me. In saying that I do love my son more than anything in the world.
In some context people say things like; “How are you going mama?” “Oh mama your baby is so cute” “Get well soon mama” “Good job mama”
Etc.... I know it’s probably out of endearment but I really cannot get use to it as it irks me.
AITA for wanting to tell people to use my name instead? Should I say something or leave it? It just really upsets me as it feels like people have forgotten who I was before.
So, I am an educator working in foster care for female migrants who are victims (for example: sex trafficking, forced prostitution, forced marriage etc.). Our age range is 17-31 and I live with these women in an aparment. Two of them are pregnant, the woman I am talking about lives OVER one year in Germany and I swear to god, she cannot speak one sentence in German. On top of that she can also not speak any English. I just started this job in february so I asked my boss about it and she told me that this woman flat out REFUSES to learn German or English. I taught German and English to refugees before in other jobs so, especially with schools being closed due to Corona, I taught English, German and Maths several times a week on top of my normal work. She never participated ones. She is 39 weeks pregnant and I had to bring her to the hospital. Not only did she complain the whole 20 minutes in french (I understood her but my french is not good enough that I could answer properly) that I d... keep reading on reddit ➡
There's this awful stigma around not loving your parents. A lot of people believe that you should always love them because they're family; they brought you into this world. I don't believe that's the case. Everyone has a different experience & no one should be forced to love someone because they were birthed. It's toxic & unhealthy.
Lots of you wanted an update on my last post. It's nothing spectacular so don't get your hopes up too much.
Many of you said how it wasn't about being there for the baby but that I should have been there for my wife. You were absolutely right. I acknowledged my mistakes and apologised to my wife. I suggested we get therapy and she agreed. We're all back home together now and have been for a while. Things are good for us and we're happy with our little family.
For those of you who suspected that I cheated with my work mate, you were wrong. I may have been an arsehole in how I dealt with my wife giving birth but I would never cheat. I love my wife very much and I'm happy she's given me another chance and intend on being the best husband and dad that my family could wish for.
After 30 mins of this being up, most of ATB thinks this is true, most of ATG think it's dumb
I'm 33 weeks pregnant, still working full time in an active job (classed as a key worker) and have been told recently that the baby isn't growing as well as it should be and we may have to deliver early.
My partner has recently started working part time (after being furloughed from part time) and has always had this annoying habit of putting his phone on flight mode whenever he sleeps or takes a nap.
I've brought up to him several times that he should just turn off all notifications (if he wants to sleep undisturbed), as he will be unreachable, if there was an emergency and he could very well miss the birth of his first (and probably only) child.
The last time I said this to him was yesterday and still his phone was on flight mode when I messaged him after work today.
I think it's a dick move for him to have put his phone on flight mode, given the circumstances and sent him a message, basically telling him that if he puts his phone on flight mode again, then I won't inform him if... keep reading on reddit ➡
As I feel my consciousness slip away, I pray that my baby is a boy.
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MIL announced the birth of my baby in a family group text to DH’s aunt and cousins. While that in itself is not cool, I have NOT given birth! I am currently 35 weeks. Since there is no baby, she sent a link to stock newborn photos.
For some background: in the last two years, I’ve had 3 miscarriages. MIL has a history of over sharing and told numerous relatives and friends about our losses without mine or DH’s permission. I’ve been incredibly protective and private with this pregnancy and have accordingly been grey rocking her with a strict info diet.
I have no idea why she would think it was ok to “announce” the fake birth of a baby. It feels like an extreme invasion of privacy and the thought of “joking” about me having a premature baby is worrisome and hurtful. DH is at his wits end with her. We don’t know whether we should engage and explain how inappropriate this was or if we shou... keep reading on reddit ➡
I need support. I need women who get it. I can’t believe what my life looks like in this moment.
My SO has been a distant partner for years. We have two kids at home, and I was pregnant with our third. It’s been a very tough pregnancy. Every time I was admitted to the hospital during this pregnancy, he wouldn’t come. I drove myself to the ER and drove myself home. I took myself to my doctor appointments.
Tuesday of last week at 34 weeks pregnant I was admitted for high BP, then sent home to do a urine catch. Husband had planned to go out of town. I asked him not to go, but he went anyways. Wednesday I was admitted - I told him, nothing. I called him Thursday saying he needed to come home, they’re going to have to deliver the baby, I’m really sick....he was golfing. He said he would leave that evening. He claimed he fell asleep for 5 hours on the way back in a gas station, but should have made it to the hospital by 1am that night. Friday still no husband. He got there maybe two hour... keep reading on reddit ➡
Did you look at her differently at all? Did you get her anything? How did your relationship change?
My husband (33m) and I (30f) welcomed our first child late last year. When he was about 6 weeks old a friend of mine (32f) visited us, and while there, told us that she was expecting and due in May. Naturally she asked about childbirth since this was her first child also. I hesitated before asking if she wanted the honest truth. She replied yes adamantly. So I admitted to her that I thought it was the most horrible experience in my life. I had to be medically induced since I was a week past my due date; I was more or less promised that “it would take awhile”, because I was open a measly 1 cm (less than 1/2 inch). I was sent home with instructions to take this pill every other hour , that they would call me twice to check up and they had scheduled me for a new appointment early the next morning. Well... a few hours went by with nothing happening, until I doubled over in pain and I had really strong contractions that more or less never relented. Less then 4 hours after that first contrac... keep reading on reddit ➡
He inisitently compares childbirth to getting kicked in the nuts. Yo, I get it it must suck... But dude, it's not the same thing as shoving a watermelon out of a tiny hole for hours and hours. Not to mention the physical damage birth does chronic and non chronic. It's also mentaly scarring.... Getting kicks din the nuts lasts 3 minutes and you don't need to do it, unlike bort which is kind of necessary if you want your own biological children.
Also he's very insensitive about menstrual cramps and all other things related. Hell be comforting for 10 minutes while I'm crying from pain, and then hell just get bored and do his own thing.
We always argue about how insentive he is to female pain through birth and the whoke birth cycle. He diaagress that it's not easy because 'why would women want kids, and why would they keep having kids?'
Most recently we argued over something really dumb but it's making me hate him. In friends, Rachel experiences braxton contractions, and the doctors s... keep reading on reddit ➡
I am quite new here and not sure about the format... I am about to turn 21 and being in India it has always been difficult to move out on my own as I never had a job, or to be honest I wasn't allowed to work, even if by chance it wasn't near home or something followed by a lot of drama. I am always expected to keep a smile on my face because that's how girls are supposed to behave in our culture, we aren't allowed to speak up or take a stand in front of elders. My parents think it is OK for them to threaten me to not send to college anymore if I wasn't more respectful and what would my mother-in-law were to think of my family if i were to get married which I almost did but that is a whole new story... I wonder what do they even ask respect for? Giving me depression? (also I have sever anxiety and depression) They claim to be pretty religious and therefore never gave me ANY sort of privacy, and by ANY i mean i have a camera in my bedroom room and tracker in my car..just so I would be ab... keep reading on reddit ➡
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TW: brief mention of pregnancy complication/loss
Quick summary (see post history for full story): my JNMIL announced the birth of my child in a family text group (that DH and I were not apart of) and sent google stock photos of a newborn. I’m still pregnant (now 36 weeks), so you can imagine how confused I was to receive texts from DH’s cousin asking if I had given birth.
Update: DH polished up his spine and called JNMIL (I was not on the call) to 1. Find out what was going on in her brain to fake a pregnancy announcement and 2. Explain to her why that was incredibly inappropriate and crossed clear boundaries. Her excuse was that she wanted to play a trick on the cousins as they had previously played similar jokes on her. She never thought we would find out.
DH explained that it was important for her to understand that things have escalated to the point that we have major trust issues with her. I confided in the entire... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have been raised by a single mother, my mom has always told me dad's not in the picture and she'd explain when I'm older.
A few years ago, my mom said she'd had an affair with a married man, she got pregnant, and she had no regrets about having me, but the man wanted nothing to do with us and things quickly turned sour between them. He would pay child support money, not court ordered because he didn't want to go to court, but of his own volition, and that was it.
This year, I found out who my father is. My mom who has trouble with math wanted help with her taxes and I found out about monthly checks from a man in her finances. I asked if he's my father and she said yes. But she didn't want to talk about him.
I looked him up later and he's a conservative politician in this state.
I wanted to talk more with my mom and process things, but she really didn't want to talk.
So I talked to my friends, and told them who he is. And one night my friend was having a party and we'd gotten bee... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hello, sorry for any errors. This happen a few years ago. I thought to share as memories of this a event came back to me while my son is getting scans for his head early today. Hopefully this is the right page to post this on.
Back story: My son was born, doctor pulled him too hard causing his head to be misshapen, they even tried to hide it under a hat coz they didnt want to stress us out due to it being a difficult born. When the midwife saw his head, she quickly left the room and i heard yelling. Doctors said it will be fine, it will go back to normal. 3 years later he still in pain. Taken 2 and half years to be taken seriously. ( my midwife was not there during birth due to her child having a car accident )
So on to the story. My son 2 months old is this point. My sister wanted to get school supplies at the mall. I thought why not, its a nice day to drive an hour to the mall. We are at the mall, having a good time. I needed to change the baby. Sister didnt want to go into the p... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi guys, so I'm from England and I've started doing my ancestry tree, I've found out that I have American Ancestry through my mother's side, my grandma to be precise, however she moved to the UK when she was 13 with her mother as her father (my g-gdad) wasn't very nice apparently. However I'm looking to see if I can find out more about him, he was born Parkersburg West Virginia and lived in Cleveland, Ohio, he met my grandma's mother as he was a marine in WW2 and was stationed in England, got married and moved back to the states and had my grandma, she also has a bother that she never met which id like to find (whether he's dead or alive is another story I guess)
So, how easy (or possible) will it be for me to get more info on him such as a birth certificate? Or do states etc not keep stuff like that after someone has been dead for many years? I really don't know how it works in America sadly, hopefully some of you guys can help 😁
Note: I was almost 24 and living in the dorms as an advisor while in grad school, she had just turned 23. We have less than a year apart. She is not a child and neither am I.
I was adopted before I was born and put into the arms of my adopted dads when I was an hour old and my birth mom had disappeared from the hospital already. I grew up happy, I didn't want for anything, I was all successful and fine. It was all good in my hood.
My birth mom recently arrived to my on campus dorm with my younger birth sister because apparently my younger sister is pretty sick and needs a kidney and a lobe of liver to survive. We have the same father and so we're a blood match and we should be a perfect donation match as well but that doesn't matter because I don't owe anyone shit and I'm not giving up parts of my body that I fucking need.
Man, I blew the fuck up. They were standing on my doorstep like they had some sort of a right to even find or speak to me and I blew up. She had the audacity t... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’m truly perplexed about this situation and am hoping to get some perspective.
One of my close friends - let’s call her Ann - recently had a baby. Everyone within our friend circle is thrilled! We’ve all been video chatting to meet the baby and keep in touch with her and her family.
Since this was her second child, she opted not to have a baby shower. I shipped her a few gifts: a doll for her oldest, a few baby toys, and a prepaid “gift card” for a local cleaning service to come tidy up at her convenience (and without an expiration date).
The cleaning service gift went over very poorly with Ann and she has basically shut me out for the past several weeks. I had to hear second hand from a friend that Ann thought my gift was rude and insinuated that she couldn’t keep a tidy home. My intentions (which I’ve tried to explain to Ann via text) were that I know having a newborn in the house can be overwhelming and i meant it as a kind gesture to help her out so there is one less... keep reading on reddit ➡
Title says it all.
Alicia (Cory’s ex) said earlier that Mtv was “finally doing something” about Taylor.
Do you think she will also be fired? Thoughts?
I’m pretty shocked the episode didn't air.
Yesterday I went to meet up with an old girlfriend (F26). We started talking about our dating life, she asked what type of birth control I was on and I said none and me and my boyfriend just use condoms. She sounded appalled and started laughing at me and made it seem like I’m not giving my boyfriend good sex by having him wear a condom. I’ve been in a long term relationship for three years and never been on birth control. I tried researching my options in the past but no form of birth control sounded appealing to me. My boyfriend has never complained about using condoms and does not seem to mind and it’s worked well for us. I’m not sure why I’m getting judged and shamed, I feel like I’m the only one who is not on birth control.
So my fiancé and 5 or 6 other guys were asked back in September/October to be groomsmen in a wedding this July. Obviously they accepted.
Well, fast forward to the end of November and my fiancé and I found out I'm pregnant! Unplanned but yay :)
We announced to our friends on New Year's Eve. It was great! Everyone was so happy for us. When I was asked the expected due date, I happily supplied it. Then someone said something that we hadn't really thought much about...it was only a few days after the wedding! Yikes.
The next day when I logged onto Facebook, I saw that another couple had also announced their own pregnancy the night before...and their baby is also due around that time. I sent a message extending my congrats and we commiserated about morning sickness.
So now, with COVID, our area is allowing smaller large gatherings. But, the hospitals still consider them a risk! So if these two guys go, they will be barred from the hospital(s) for up to 14 days. After a lot of discussion... keep reading on reddit ➡