I absolutely adore Betty White, but she is not child-free! She is a stepmother to 3 children! She married her husband when his youngest was 9 and the eldest in their teens. She has stated that “He brought his three kids, and they all started courting me along with Allen.” And then in 1981 said, “You know what? I never had children biologically. I married someone who had three children. And how blessed I was to have those three stepchildren.” Although it’s been over 40 years since Allen has passed away, Betty still has a close relationship with all her stepchildren and their children.
While it’s great she didn’t feel the need to have biological children, her stepchildren still count as her children! I’ve just seen one too many posts of her being included on the “celebrities who are child-free” list, and feel like people really need to stop doing that. I know we're eager for representation, but unless we as a community decide adopted or stepchildren don’t actually count, I hereby vote Betty White out of the club.
Edit: It’s been brought up a few times whether or not step-parents can consider themselves child-free. I definitely think an argument can be made that you are child-free, even if your spouse has children under the age of 18, if you feel you aren’t involved in your stepchildren’s lives in a meaningful parental way. But it’s clear Betty White does not fit that description. She speaks openly about her love for her stepchildren, whose biological mother had passed away before she married their father. And even for those who think this is just PR, Sandra Bullock has shared that Betty’s love of motherhood is what inspired her to adopt herself. So it seems a stretch Sandra would say that publicly if it wasn’t true, especially since they are close friends.
I made this post from a desire to respect Betty’s life choices, not to gate-keep the step-parents who feel comfortable on this subreddit. Step-parents who view themselves as parents, and those who do not, can both be respected. So to those who felt pushed out by my post, I apologize. I hereby vote you back in the club!
Clearly I’m making the best of my down time here.
Great show, the opening song is marked in my memory.
Change my mind.