Haven’t lived at home since college but I’ve always lived with roommates. my lease is up at the end of this month and I’m finally taking the plunge of living alone in two weeks. Not sure how I’ll like it but it’s happening either way.
Did not expect to get so many answers! I can’t keep up and respond to everyone but I truly appreciate all the tips!
So many people have mentioned a bathroom trash can. I’ve always had one and never thought anything of it. The concept of men not having one is wild to me.
Hi all, I (23F) moved in with my boyfriend (28M) of two years at the start of March and so far it hasn't been too good. This is due to the fact that my boyfriend has started a new morning schedule where he wakes up at 3am then goes to the gym for an hour or two. He doesn't need to wake up THAT early because he usually starts work around noon. He explained to me that all of the "big CEOs wake up at 3."
The problem is that when he gets up, he also wakes me up because of his alarm and then he is SO LOUD when he is getting ready. Literally zero consideration for me. I don't fall back asleep until he leaves the house and then when he comes back I get woken up again when he comes into the bedroom to change his clothes. Sometimes he purposely wakes me up because "he's bored."
Having my sleep being constantly disrupted every single night is getting on my nerves big time. I've told him plenty of times that he needs to be quieter in the mornings but he doesn't seem to really care. So last night I went into the guestroom to sleep - as soon as I did this he started an argument about how dramatic I am and said he doesn't have to cater to me because it's his house. I explained to him that the only way I will get a good quality sleep is if I'm in a separate bedroom but he began saying that I'm his girlfriend not a housemate and I may as well go back home to my parents if I'm going to sleep in the guest bedroom. Anyway, he still annoyed with me because I slept in the guest bedroom and he thinks it's disrespectful to do so. Sooo AITA?
I F26 lost my husband in an accident 2 months ago. It wasn't his fault he wasn't even driving. He was going with a friend to visit their sick friend and the journey was hours long. My husband's friend was driving late at night and it resulted in a horrific accident. My husband was in the hospital for a week severly injured and passed away on friday morning. I was an utter mess. I was and still am devastated and can not believe how fast days go by. My parents support me a lot. I was spending my days alone at my apartment. My parents told me they sent my sister F21 to stay with me and help around the apartment. I welcomed her and was glad she came. She'd occasionally invite her boyfriend to my apartment since she's there all the time. Her boyfriend started acting like it's there place by moving stuff, throwing away stuff. I talked to them about it. I also said I wouldn't let him stay the night anymore because I need some calm and quiet to be able to sleep. And he usually stays up til 5am making noise.
My sister didn't argue. However yesterday I went to see a friend for few hours and when I got back I didn't find my sister thinking she went out. Suddenly her boyfriend walks out of my bedroom and I freaked out asking why he was there. My sister showed up asking why I got home so early.. I loudly asked them why they were in mine and my husband's bedroom. Suddenly my sister said they borrowed it for an hour to get some privacy since I had a key and might've walked in and saw something (My apartment is a single bedroom apt) I was in shock. I checked the room and the bed looked like someone used it. I completely lost my temper yelling at her and her boyfriend. I kicked him out and me and my sister started arguing. She called me irrational acting out of grief and taking my frustration out on her. I told to leave if she wasn't willing to respect mine and my husband's private place and that she should've never walked in it. After that I kicked her out.
My mom came to see what was going on. She defended my sister and blamed her boyfriend saying I had every right to kick him out but my sister took the time and came to stay with me to support and help and I was wrong to treat her like this. Saying that's how kids are and didn't know that it'd upset me this much. My dad agreed I overreacted and wanted me to talk things out with her but I refused to do it.
We live next door to a doctors office and every Tuesday a Doctor from the practise parks his car outside my window, sits in his car for half and hour before the practice opens blasting his tunes, presumably amping himself up for the day. This takes place at 8am. In australia, noise pollution stipulations finish at 8am
My partner works nights and this morning I’d had enough of it so I walked next door to the parking lot and asked him to turn it down. He quite rightly retorted “I don’t have to do anything for you”. I simply said “mate it’s so fucking loud, please just turn it down, there’s people trying to sleep in that bedroom”.
He then said most people should be awake at this time and I dropped the parter works nights info and suggested he be considerate of all people not just most people and walked away. AITA?
Whenever I try to tidy my bedroom (for some reason its not so bad with my kitchen/living area) I can spend hours working in there and by the time I'm done the room overall looks either exactly the same or worse. It usually starts with putting one item in a drawer, realising that the drawer is disorganised, spending 40 mins organising it, realising I have something from that drawer that needs to go in a different cupboard, realising cupboard is disorganised, rinse and repeat. By the time my boyfriend comes to check how I'm getting on nothing has changed, but I have to make him look in the cupboards to see how hard I worked. Especially infuriating when the reason I need to tidy in the first place is because we have the landlord/a guest coming over and it needs to look presentable. They wont see the spotless drawers but they WILL see the laundry still all over the floor and dirty dishes on the sides. Infuriating.
(I'm assuming this is an ADHD thing, as it's a direct result of getting distracted and then hyper focusing on the WRONG THING, I hope someone else relates)
It's easy for this government and medical experts to make decisions to lock everyone down but I bet their tune would change it they were no longer able to support themselves self due to their business being shut down. Would they feel different if they weren't collecting a paycheck or were living in a small apartment with kids? Mr Ford's business is still open and making more money then evey. Please tell me how this is fair?? Him and his cronies are so out of touch with the average person it makes me sick to my stomach! Every person in Canada who has a business should be able to open. Most (if not all) small business can follow public health guide lines as well or better than the he big box stores. And if the government is going to force them to close then they should no longer be required to pay any bills associated with that business. I'm just sick of everything!
My step son (15) who is an awesome kid, is now living with my wife and I full time in his downstairs bedroom (we’re upstairs). We used to have alone time so I never had to worry about him hearing us having sex. As a step dad this gives me a fear of traumatizing him and never ending awkwardness.. When he’s downstairs he can’t hear a thing but he comes upstairs randomly and when we’re in our bedroom We have no way of knowing. So here’s where my idea came in... I’m a handy guy and I suggested placing / installing a hidden motion detector in the stairwell that would alert us.. (I’d make sure it was 100% hidden and unbeknownst to him). She said it’s an invasion of his privacy and weird / crazy. She’s always ready and happy to have sex but I always feel like I can’t focus or truly enjoy it because I’m worrying that he’s upstairs, and she can be very vocal. Is this a crazy idea from me? Any other suggestions? Thanks for entertaining my strange predicament! 😂
TLDR: I want to install a hidden motion detector so I know if my step son comes upstairs while my vocal wife and I are having sex. She thinks I’m crazy. Am I?
My (M23) best friend (F23) and I are looking to rent an apartment together. This has been in the works for a long time now. She has already had her heart set on the Master Bedroom of whatever place we end up living in. Specifically she wants the Ensuite Bathroom. I was aware / on board with this. Also relevant is that she has been waiting for a long time for me to get my shit together with regards to finding this place. We are finally ready to actually find a place and pull the trigger.
The problem is that in the current situation my budget is larger than hers (a little bit). The places that are in her price range all have really small spare bedrooms that aren't ideal for me. I told her that if we got a swankier place, one with a nicer spare bedroom, I would take the master bedroom and pay a larger portion of the rent. That way we could get a nicer place that still fits her budget.
She feels like I am altering the deal after planning for a long time. I feel like her insistence on getting the nicer bedroom in a cheap apartment is forcing me into a bad room when I'm the one who wants to spend more.
She has waited a long time for me to be ready to do this so "dont live together" would really be a nuclear option and bad for our friendship. AITA for wanting more?
I am 15f, my dad is 31m, stepmum (Anna) is 29f, stepsister (Zoe) is 8f. We are in the UK.
I was born when my parents were just 16, and my egg donor did a runner before I turned 1, I don't know her now. Dad, well he did the best he could as a young single father, but we've lived in a small 2 bed flat and not had much money for as long as I can remember.
So dad and Anna married 2 years ago but stayed living in separate homes as Anna was a carer for her disabled mum.
Pre-covid, I was out of the house a lot and never really cared much about my room which had childish pink walls with hearts on. During the first lockdown I became quite down and unhappy and eventually decided to overhaul my room completely to feel more like me and spent some of my savings on paint and new sheets and stuff. I put grey on 3 walls and did a geometric design in shades of blue on the 4th. It's a lot more grown up and I felt a lot more comfortable spending all my time in my new space.
Sadly Anna's mum passed away mid January, at the end of February Anna and Zoe moved in to our tiny flat, and I had to share my room with Zoe. I didn't complain about it, about half my small space now being toys, about suddenly becoming a full time big sister. We had to swap my bed for bunk beds and because Zoe is afraid of heights I had to take the top bunk, I haven't even complained that I can no longer sit upright on my bed!
We are going to move into a 3 bed at some point, but until then, this is the situation. I am not happy but accept it. But Zoe isn't happy and is too young/immature (she's 8, I get it) to accept it. Zoe cries for her old room back. Anna wants to paint my beautiful new room back to the pink I used my own money to cover up, and I'm refusing to let her.
Dad says he will pay to paint my room the same in the new house when we move, I say they can paint Zoe's room in the new house too. Anna is saying I'm being childish and nagging at dad to make me change my mind, but dad is stuck between us and privately says he gets it, that I've had to put up with so much, but won't stand up to Anna on my behalf.
I've offered compromises - they can paint if I can take the bottom bunk and put curtains around it so I'm not surrounded by fucking pink again, or leave it as it is and put pink curtains around Zoe's bunk so she is surrounded by pink. Both ideas got shot down as me 'being stubborn for the sake of it'.
I think I've latched onto my walls as the last bit of control I have and I d... keep reading on reddit ➡