This sounds so petty and I swear I wouldn't have posted here if my boyfriend didn't practically blow up on me and refuse to come to any logical agreement.
I have very bad rosacea, seasonal psoriasis, as well as keratosis pilaris. All this means I use relatively expensive treatments and products to aid my skin. But for whatever reason, my boyfriend just won't stop using these, even though he doesn't have any of the skin issues I do. I've tried speaking to him about this, I've even bought him some nice skincare which has remained untouched because he wants my expensive stuff.
So I decided to move everything from our upstairs bathroom to our downstairs bathroom and that's where I'll be showering from now on.
When my boyfriend found out he totally blew up on me and called me an unreasonable asshole. I said he can go use the heaps of things I bought him, but he doesn't want it.
AITA for moving all my skincare and bath products to the other bathroom?
Years later, my therapist finally got me to open up about the burn marks all over my body, the scars from the bubbling, boiling water.
Edit: if anyone's interested, update in comments! Thank you all for the advices!
Forgive me for any mistake, english is not my first language and I'm kind of freaking out right now. I'm really afraid of talking about it to my parents, I feel like a pervert and I don't want to hurt my sister.
I am 16. I live with my father (47), his partner (E, 47), my stepsiblings, E's children (a boy and a girl, twins, 12) and our newly adopted baby sister, let's call her Rose. E and my dad have been best friends for years, they lost contact after college but when E's wife died in childbirth, my dad offered him to move in with us (we had/have a big house) so he wouldn't be alone after such a tragedy, and my dad helped him with the babies. They raised us together, realised that they were in love when I was 8 and now they're married.
When I say parents, I mean my dad and E (my mom's alive but she's more like a cool aunt to me, everything's fine, but I know that we have a weird dynamic so please feel free to ask if you have any questions).
My parents adopted a little girl a year ago, Rose. She's three. Rose has been sick for a few days and I can tell that my parents are exhausted. She doesn't sleep, she doesn't eat, she's cranky, etc. She threw up at dinner last night. E wasn't there (still working) so I told my dad I would bathe her, and he could clean up the mess. I was also covered in it so I decided to take a bathe with her. I thought it was okay because I remember bathing with the twins/my parents when we were little, and Rose trusts me. Which is a big thing, because she's very wary of people.
The next day, my aunt called and asked about Rose. I told her how she finally fell asleep in the bathtub, which led me to admit that we took a bath together (my aunt was asking a lot of questions). She was disgusted and while she did not directly call me a pedo, she certainly made me feel like one. She said that it wasn't normal, that because Rose is adopted, we need to have special boundaries, that kind of things.
My question is, is she right? I love Rose and I would never hurt her, but my aunt's words make me think that perhaps I already did. Is this normal for me to take a bath with my sister? Is there something wrong with me?
I can’t make this up and don’t know how else to deliver it other than factually. I live with four housemates. One of them is my close friend. This person, weeks ago, somehow sharted accidentally on our bathroom floor (?) and used a bath towel they thought was mine to clean it up- then left it hung up in the bathroom. When the true owner of the towel discovered it, they were aghast and asked everyone who would’ve done such a thing.
We all had no explanation until my close friend told me casually in private that they had been the one to do that to the towel. They thought that their only mistake was using the wrong towel- as if if it had been mine, there would’ve been no problem.
I told the rest of my housemates the truth once I learned this. We are all disturbed and thinking of moving out- this is not the first occurrence of really bizarre behavior, but certainly the most disgusting one. Would I be the asshole if I started looking for a new place? My housemates say they will move out too if I do, starting a domino effect and virtually turning our lease into a logistical nightmare. Is it worth it to start this messy process and sever a friendship?
CW: vaccines, covid
I don't need you to tell me when to have a bath. I know the days when JYFIL has his bath, and I am considerate enough to make sure I won't use the hot water that morning. I make sure I am never in the bathroom when you want to use it. I have never given you reason to think otherwise.
I don't need you to tell me what me and SO can eat for lunch. We've been feeding ourselves for years, and have been feeding you and JYFIL for months.
I don't need you to move our laundry to dry in a different room. Pretty sure I can handle hanging out, drying and putting away our laundry. You do not need to move my towel when I hang it to dry. You do not need to hang all my underwear to dry in the family room.
I especially don't need you to tell me how to manage my back pain, or to remind me to take a painkiller if it hurts, while in the same breath telling me that all pain medication is wrong and people who take it must be weak and you have never needed to take any. Good for you.
I don't need you to go shopping every single day because I can't handle doing a big shop online, and making sure we have everything you want so you don't risk exposing all of us to the virus.
I really DO need you to understand that the new strains aren't "just the flu". When I explain why it's not, how it works and why things can't "just go back to normal", I need you to not tell me that I "shouldn't believe everything I read and hear". I'm a damned research scientist, it is literally my job to find stuff out, to anaylse sources, and to check those facts.
I really, really need you to understand that the covid vaccine is not a scam, it is not designed to hurt you, and it has been made quickly because that's what happens when you throw tons of $$ at a problem. I need you to understand that it could prevent you and JYFIL from dying a miserable death in hospital. I need you to understand that you can't stop us from getting it, just as we can't make you get it.
I’ve found that taking long and warm baths is very relaxing for me. However, there’s a lot of environmental issues in the world today. I constantly see advertisements about “everyone doing their part to build a better tommorow”. But I really like my warm baths.
I want to help the environment. But at the same time, I tend to use up a lot of water while taking baths. I tend to relax in a bathtub around 3-5 times a week. Adding all of that water usage together, I use quite a bit of water.
I’ve tried to logically escape this feeling of guilt. After all, the most intense polluters are a few massive corporations that are destroying the earth for profit. Most water use goes into agriculture. I’m not in an area experiencing water shortage. In fact, there are a lot of freshwater lakes where I live.
I’m also quite skeptical of “eco-friendly” products. They’re often more expensive than the normal kind, and tend to be of lower quality. If I’m going to get more use out of a better product, why purchase lower quality products? And when these products are used or broken, I’ll have to purchase more things! Isn’t that bad for the environment?
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