We’ve been together for 8 years but got our first apartment together in January 2020. MIL was annoyed about us moving out because she liked having access to extra money. She’s very controlling, a bit manipulative and tries to act innocent 24/7.
My grandmother has Stage IV colon cancer and I have been her sole caretaker. I was up all night caring for her and went to rest my head at 8am. At 8:45am, I was woken up by her VIOLENTLY banging on my front door, saying “I know you’re in there!!!” She also had her 9yo son banging on the door and even tried to get in with a card!
We simply stayed quiet and ignored her because she knows better... and we do not accept the breach of privacy. We also do not accept potential COVID exposure to my ill grandmother...
So she goes the back door and started banging too! Like mad! And then... she bangs on our neighbors door... and then after a little bit, the police are on our lawn and so they begin knocking... We ignore it because the police can’t just demand us to talk to her, you know? What the heck?!
And so I called the police station and I explain a little bit like... “she’s been knocking like crazy, she probably wants money or something, which is a usual, and she knows not to show up. We’re fine.” The officer asks if we’re “anti-cop” and says we need to show our faces out the window because MIL said we weren’t okay—to try to get us to come out—which my bf did not want to do that... because it’s a game to her, you know?
And finally, after a while, he showed his face from the window and the cops walked away immediately and she just walked away crying.
Now she’s texting me trying to act like she’s concerned when she was being vicious at the door, saying stuff violently like, “I FUCKING HEARD YOU IN THERE.”
Should I just tell her straight up that she’s not welcome here?
I dislike her for many reasons, I mean... he’s 26, I’m 24... and she wants access to our bank accounts like... what? I’m paying my own way through college, she isn’t getting money from us. I just don’t get it.