Weβve been together for 8 years but got our first apartment together in January 2020. MIL was annoyed about us moving out because she liked having access to extra money. Sheβs very controlling, a bit manipulative and tries to act innocent 24/7.
My grandmother has Stage IV colon cancer and I have been her sole caretaker. I was up all night caring for her and went to rest my head at 8am. At 8:45am, I was woken up by her VIOLENTLY banging on my front door, saying βI know youβre in there!!!β She also had her 9yo son banging on the door and even tried to get in with a card!
We simply stayed quiet and ignored her because she knows better... and we do not accept the breach of privacy. We also do not accept potential COVID exposure to my ill grandmother...
So she goes the back door and started banging too! Like mad! And then... she bangs on our neighbors door... and then after a little bit, the police are on our lawn and so they begin knocking... We ignore it because the police canβt just demand us to talk to her, you know? What the heck?!
And so I called the police station and I explain a little bit like... βsheβs been knocking like crazy, she probably wants money or something, which is a usual, and she knows not to show up. Weβre fine.β The officer asks if weβre βanti-copβ and says we need to show our faces out the window because MIL said we werenβt okayβto try to get us to come outβwhich my bf did not want to do that... because itβs a game to her, you know?
And finally, after a while, he showed his face from the window and the cops walked away immediately and she just walked away crying.
Now sheβs texting me trying to act like sheβs concerned when she was being vicious at the door, saying stuff violently like, βI FUCKING HEARD YOU IN THERE.β
Should I just tell her straight up that sheβs not welcome here?
I dislike her for many reasons, I mean... heβs 26, Iβm 24... and she wants access to our bank accounts like... what? Iβm paying my own way through college, she isnβt getting money from us. I just donβt get it.
