Update post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/hv4wc1/update_my_boyfriend_said_that_i_was_embarrassing/fyt0y1e/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
We have been in a relationship for 1 year and we had a baby boy last week. I had a natural birth and my bf was there throughout the whole process. I screamed A LOT and each time I did he whispered something like "can you stop screaming, you're really embarrassing me". I also threw up a few times and I saw him cover his face in shame. When I held the midwife's hand for comfort he whispered "let go of her, stop being so embarrassing". He also said that my birthing position was embarrassing and called me a few vulgar names.
I'm really upset about his behaviour that day, especially when it was when I needed his support the most. When I try to talk to him about it he denies ever saying it and that I'm being silly...
Edit: I know that there are a lot of comments but I am reading them all, and I just... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'm an Indian woman, and a new mother to my little half indian, half american baby girl. She's six months old.
The day I went into labor, I learned that my husband was having an affair with our neighbor. She's only 22 and has a myriad of mental health issues. She and my husband started an affair after she got out of rehab. I had no idea that him trying to 'help' her would involve sticking his peepee stick inside of her.
It was a traumatic day. Can't mention much here, but to put it shortly, she declared she was 3 months pregnant with my husband's child and had an emotional breakdown.
She fainted and my husband left me alone in the hospital to take HER to another ward . He carried her in his arms in front of my own eyes.
He returned after a few hours. I had just given birth to our daughter. He took her in his arms, kissed her and left the room.
So two days go by, my husband returns finally telling me that he will have to move out because his mistress is emotionally fragile and he... keep reading on reddit ➡
Thanks for all y’all’s input it really helped and most of y’all were right on the target.
Yesterday afternoon I sat my gf, Naomi down and had a conversation with her about what her dad said to me. I tried to leave out any mention of proposal and told her I was in their neighborhood and decided to pop by (Terrible lie, I know but she bought it). I told her what her dad said about us having dark babies and asked if she had any similar feelings about our kids popping out half black. She looked at me like I was out of my mind. She told me she didn’t give a fuck about the color of her kids as long as I was the dad, which was reassuring. She was not so happy with her dad. She wanted us to take a drive over there and talk with her parents about it.
That evening we dropped by unannounced and when her mom open... keep reading on reddit ➡
I lost my baby at birth, she had the cord in a knot and it was an unfortunate accident. I’ve been grieving but today decided to start returning baby items.
I started with clothing, and when asked why I was returning the clothes, I told the clerk it didn’t work out. She said she had to put a specific reason for the return so I said “My baby died, so I won’t be needing clothes for her anymore.” The clerk went to get her manager and the manager told me what I had said was uncalled for and pretty much told me they couldn’t process my refund. I will admit i called my mom in a very angry mood and she essentially told me “I would have said the same thing. You were brutal and she didn’t need to know that. You’re just projecting.”
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So this was not a big post at all, but one or two people asked for an update if there were any and so here I am again.
For a quick recap: I am possibly going to rent the entire 4 bedroom apartment I currently sublet a room in sometime around September/October and two of my best friends are moving in. My friend Layla has gotten pregnant and were planning to move in with me and have the three of us taking care of the baby, as physically and financially.
I took the advice someone gave to talk to my other future roommate Indy about it, and we both agreed that it was not something we wanted to do at all, and we decided to confront her about it together so she could understand it wasn't going to happen.
We got together at my place on Tuesday and had some tea. We just sat down and said that basically we were very wo... keep reading on reddit ➡
TLDR- they’re naming their baby girl “Alibi”
Ok so looking for outside judgment because I do feel bad about upsetting her still.
Last weekend I joined a family zoom call where my brother and SIL wanted to announce their new baby’s name after spending nearly a month brainstorming. My parents and other siblings were also there along with their SOs.
Anyways, they excitedly announced that my baby niece will be named “Alibi” and pronounced exactly like you would the real word. Everyone’s kind of in shock while they explained the process. Apparently my SIL was reading a book and randomly closed her eyes and pointed at a word on the page, hoping to find a possible name. That word was “alibi.” She said she forgot about it until she kept seeing/hearing that word pop up days after in different ways, in newspapers, on tv, on posters and on radio, etc. She then had a dream where her baby spoke to her and told her its name was Alibi. She said it sounded “beautiful, exotic, mysterious and unique... keep reading on reddit ➡
My vocabulary was that of a fucking carrot, my limbs could not support my own fatass and my memory was nonexistent. Why the fuck would I remember you Paul? I don’t remember my first words I’m not gonna remember your generic fuckboy face
It’s so unironically hilarious how annoying you are
People have been asking me for stories. So here is one from when I was younger. This was on Choosing Beggars but they said to put it here instead.
Ok backstory, this happened in 1965 just for some clarification I was 26 then, 81 now. I had a pool party yesterday and thought about this run in that I had.
So In my old neighborhood, my wife and I rented a home in a community of around 23 houses. Out of these 23 homes we where 1 out of 7 with a pool because the previous owner ordered a pool when he had the house built, adding a pool was around a $2000 dollar option so many people didn't get it.
Because I had a pool A LOT of people would try to come over to swim. Now, I was quite generous with my pool if people called first, now understandably some weekends I wanted some peace and quiet.
A new family had moved into the left of me and they heard that I was generous with my pool. So the mom and her three kids just came over in swimsuits and asked to use my pool. I said that I was tired a... keep reading on reddit ➡
I'll try to make this as brief as possible. My husband and I (both 37) have been together 7 years. For about 10 years, he's had a close female friend named Jane. Jane is fine. We have enough in common that I like doing things in group settings with her and we even chat on our own occasionally, but she's definitely closer to my husband. She's been with her own husband since I came around, but I always got the sense, from Jane herself, from old photos, and a few old anecdotes from some of my husband's other friends, that Jane wanted to date my husband before she met hers, and he just never showed any interest. So throughout the years there has been a little weirdness, but nothing serious. He was her Man of Honour, a few gushy tributes to him on his birthday over Facebook, or the odd sitting on his lap in a big group photo, but never overly flirtatious. And she seemed super happy with her husband, so it was never a big enough deal to mention anything. But I noticed them all.
Fast forwar... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (29f) have a condition which makes me more or less infertile or so I was told.
Roughly two months ago I had a one night stand with a guy. I don't use birth control due to my condition but I did insist on a condom. Lo and behold I'm pregnant my gynecologist confirmed it.
Now, I'm in a good position financially. I have a stable job and enough savings to live a very comfortable life. I'm close to my parents and sister. So, I have decided that I will keep the baby. I have always wanted to be a mum and this might be my only chance.
I contacted the father and told him. I said I'd be happy to co parent should he be interested but I understand if he isn't. I would be filing for child support regardless though.
The guy absolutely lost it and said I need to abort the baby and that I lied to him. Apparently he asked me what my opinion on abortion is to prevent this situation. I remember him asking me but he never specified his question and I thought it was more general. I told him I'm... keep reading on reddit ➡
My MIL is an immigrant from India, there is an eyeliner from back home that has religious / cultural connotations. Basically it’s soot and ghee (like butter..) mixed together and it forms a black paste that’s applied to the eyes of babies especially to ward off the evil eye.
Because of culture etc I live with my in laws and she keeps wanting to put this eyeliner on my babies eyes (twins) I keep telling her I’m not happy with it, I don’t want foreign matter in my poor babies eyes.
My husband is also vehemently against this and he caught his mom doing it when I was at work. He told her off and told her she was shitty because the babies were understandably fussing at the product in their eyes.
She is accusing me of ‘white washing’ him and that I’m being a disrespectful daughter in law but I’m just trying to protect my kids.
Kristi posted on her IG Stories that she will no longer be sharing personal choices and/or feelings concerning her pregnancy and child after the comments and messages she got on her last video.
EDIT: Kristi added on IG stories that she will still share some updates and pregnancy choices but more personal decisions will not be discussed.
Kinda rough to be posting here.
My MIL had usually moved between JY and JMaybe. She’s not the easiest person to deal with but she’s a great person and I really love her.
The problem at hand is that we just found out the gender of the baby (GIRL!) and we were all really excited. My mom and I thought she was going to be a boy but that didn’t ruin the fun for us and we’re equally excited about having a little girl. Well, my JMMIL had said it was a boy and before we gave the news kemp’s saying it was a boy so why even find out.
Anyways, news come out, it’s a girl everyone celebrates... except for her. She kept saying it’s a boy and she still KNOWS is a boy so she won’t call her a she. She kept trying to convince my mom to not buy anything yet because it could still be a boy and there’s nothing conclusive about it (like the ultrasound we showed them that HIGHLIGHTS it’s a girl) and just kept being negative all around and saying to her the baby was still a boy.
I just felt bad because,... keep reading on reddit ➡
If a choking infant can no longer breathe, cough, or make sounds, tell someone to call 911 immediately or dial yourself and place on speaker while you help them. Next, place the baby face down on your forearm. Your arm should be resting on your thigh. With the heel of your other hand, give the child five quick, forceful blows between the shoulder blades. If this fails, turn the infant on their back so that the head is lower than the chest. Place two fingers in the center middle of the breast bone, just below the nipples. Press inward rapidly five times. Continue this sequence of five back blows and five chest thrusts until the foreign object comes out or until the infant passes out. If the infant passes out, tell 911 immediately. Never put your fingers into the infant's mouth unless you can see the object. Doing so may push the blockage farther into the airway.
Adults have straight windpipes that can eject food relatively easily if the adult heimlich is performed properly. Slappi... keep reading on reddit ➡
Edit, here’s the update
Me and my GF, Naomi are an interracial couple, with her being Korean and me being black. We have dated for just under 5 years now, and for the past few months I’ve been planning on proposing. I’m pretty traditional so I thought it would be a good idea to ask Naomi’s dad for his blessing before I proposed. I asked earlier this month. When I arrived at their house I was greeted by Naomi’s mother and father who invited me in. After a little talking I told them that I was going to propose and wanted their blessing. Her mother was ecstatic, and her father didn’t seem displeased and he told me it was okay for me to propose. We talked more and the topic of babies was brought up by her mother, I told her that I wanted to have kids with her, and she got even happier. We continued talking, when I tol... keep reading on reddit ➡
Please tell me if you think i am over reacting.
My partner (31M) and I (31F) have a 9 month old baby. I will call my partner Jack. Jack went to pick up food for us real quick with our baby in the back of the car. From the window I saw them pull back up, and I went to the front door to unlock it and hold it open for them.
When he got out, he waved to a convertible car with the top down that was driving up, and the car stopped. I saw that it was two young girls. Jack starts talking to them, I don't hear the words, but assume they are asking for instructions or something. But this continues for almost 10 minutes and I start getting more and more confused.
I thought he still had the car running the whole time for AC for the baby. It is stifling hot today, 97 degrees at that time.
After a few minutes I sit on the couch for a bit. When I come back up to the door I see that one of the girls has her phone out and it looks almost like she is recording Jack, so I start to open the door a lit... keep reading on reddit ➡
So, I used to be friends with this couple (we'll call them Adam 30 and Heather 31), who were the poster children for unhealthy relationships. It was so bad, it lead to most of their closest friends bailing on them, myself included. Their toxicity didn't just impact each other, it impacted their relationships with all of us as they mutually enabled the same behavior toward us that they did each other. Keep in mind, this went on for literally a decade with several failed conversations about their behavior before I decided it was time to accept things weren't gonna change and hightail it out of there.
Fast-forward to now and they've had a baby. I knew it was coming because they were planning for one around the time I left the scene. He's only six months old, but already it (predictably) has lead to extreme dysfunction and now she's trying to leave. She called last night to tell me all sorts of stories and ask if she and the baby could stay with me. She wants to leave him, but they have n... keep reading on reddit ➡