A. They will be too young to remember their experience. B. They will most likely be too short to ride everything. It just seems like a waste of money and time if your kids can’t fully participate in everything that’s included in your stay and they’re not going to remember majority of it! So many parents enter these parks like they are staying for a week because of strollers, diaper bags, toys, etc. It just seems so stressful and exhausting. Not a vacation for them either. I feel lucky my parents waited until I was a teenager to go to these places because I appreciated it a lot more.
Removed due to fact its made the news and I can't risk them finding out. Sorry folks.
This happened this weekend. I'm (35m) not exactly the kinda guy who gets invited to baby showers very often. But it seems like everyone I know has matured about 10 years in the past 1 pandemic year. So suddenly, friends are getting married and pregnant, and so on.
One such couple, I've known for close to 10 years, has a baby girl due in July. Awesome for them. They are both pretty scholarly folks, with degrees in English. One is an author and one is a copywriter for a brand.
So when their baby shower invite said "instead of a card, please bring a book so that whenever we read it, we'll think of you" I assumed it meant they wanted to grow their already extensive library (I mean I was also getting them a baby gift). So I bought them, what I felt was, a deeply moving novel.
As my partner and I are driving out to their place, she says, "I got them 'What tree am I' it's really cute and has pretty pictures. What book did you get them?"
Suddenly, a light goes off. I look at her blankly and ask, "You got them a kids book?"
She puts her hand over her mouth in disbelief. "Oh my god. Yes. It's a baby shower. You get them kids books. You know... for the baby. Why? What book did you get them?"
"Well, in my defense, 'The Bone Clocks' by David Mitchell is very captivating. And if you read it out loud in the right tone of voice, the baby probably won't even mind the horrific details about the Iraq war, genocide, murder, gender issues, or death cults."
Needless to say, it seemed a little out of place next to, "S is for Salmon", "Why do I love you", "Goodnight Moon", and "Irish Fairy Tales".
I was also reminded that a 600+ page novel may not be a priority for new parents. Whatever, mine had the best critic reviews on the back.
EDIT: I definitely wasn't expecting this big of a response, so a few updates:
I'm genuinely humbled by everyone's stories here. My TIFU is less that I gave this book and more that I feel I committed some unspoken social faux pas, in that the spirit of the event is about preparing the parents for the child's needs and I didn't pick up on that and instead gave them a gift of a book (thinking it was a direct substitute for a card). But hearing from a lot of people that this would actually be a welcome gift makes me comfortable that maybe the faux pas is superseded.
As for the response, I wrote below: *I think the ultimate conclusion will still play out for a bit. But the immediate conclusion was, my friends were appreciative of the thought... keep reading on reddit ➡
My husband and I are expecting our first child in two months and through out our relationship I have been very set on letting him have equal say on all things that matter. E.g. for the wedding he was expected to have just as much say as everyone else and I did not entertain any talk of but the groom doesn't make these kinds of decisions. It just seems silly to me that one party can't have a say because it goes against the norm. Where I'm from weddings are usually left to the bride for the most part.
I have maintained this expectation throughout our relationship and now that we are having our first child I have left my husband to pick and choose how he likes. We are expecting a girl and he has had trouble finding the girl clothing options appealing and as such half the clothing items we end up buying are typically considered boys clothes such as dinosaur prints. His argument is that dinosaurs are cool no matter if you're a boy or a girl. Neutral clothing is often more expensive or a much smaller section in the baby options. Please note that it's not that he wanted a boy. He's over the moon to be having a girl but he just feels a lot of the clothes are overly mature for babies, finding it hard to get behind the suggestive themes and styles just not meant for a child that young if for anyone.
While we feel that clothes are clothes, friends and family often complain. MIL complains that she can't buy anything because she doesn't know what theme we're going for. There isn't one. She says we are making it intentionally difficult. Others pull faces but try to be polite about it. Braver people tell us that girls don't wear dinosaurs, among the other boy options we have. Imagine the horror of a baby dressed in a lion decorated onesie.
Recently we've had some friends go out and buy the most aggressively feminine clothing items they can find, frills, shockingly pink, and silly words to boot. Think of those shirts that say "Sorry boys, no dating allowed." Just why? Some looks downright uncomfortable even for an adult and now I'm expected to dress my baby in it, such as baby shoes with heels. They can't even walk yet. The friends smiled sweetly and mentioned that I've been too soft hearted on my husband and shouldn't let him have so much free reign with the baby clothes.
I asked my husband about it later and he said that he can see the point of the others as it's what they're used to.
I’m the fourth oldest of ten kids. My mom is currently pregnant with her eleventh. Yup. Ever since I was twelve I wanted to move out. I’ve been saving up money. It’s been hard actually not spending but I’m now 21 and have saved 7 thousand dollars. My mom knows I work full time but I lied and told her it was unpaid internship otherwise she would have made me give her the money. Her boyfriends literally don’t have money so she has been my siblings and I’s checks since forever. I’m sick of living in this house with so many people, there’s nothing more I want than to move away and live by myself finally.
My friend and I always talked about moving to New York and her uncle is a super who offered us an apartment at a really good rate recently. The idea went from being just something we talked about to actually being a reality. Once I secured a job interview, I knew it was time to tell my mom I was moving out. Despite having four older siblings, none of them have moved out. I didn’t know how she’d react. She was extremely upset and asked me how I had the money to move to somewhere as expensive as New York and pay rent. I admitted to saving money and that’s when she lost her shit. She started screaming up how I know she’s struggling to pay rent and pay for her baby’s formula and diapers and one of her twin toddlers had to have surgery two years ago and I didn’t offer a dime and they’re my siblings.
Two weeks before my flight, my mom fainted at her job and was hospitalized. They said that the pregnancy was too high risk, she had problems with her other pregnancies before this one and almost died with her last pregnancy and they advised her to abort otherwise the baby could cost her life. She refused to abort saying she’s been getting pregnant since she was fourteen, it wasn’t gonna kill her now. She’s was in the hospital on bed rest and she called me begging to send her some of the money not even all to pay for a special procedure to help her baby. I literally can’t afford to waste a dime, my money isn’t gonna last long and even with a job lined up I didn’t want to risk potentially wasting all my money before I even got to New York so I told her I couldn’t. She went off calling me an asshole saying moving isn’t as important as her and her babies life. All of my siblings are saying I’m evil and that I can wait to move later and that I’m young and I’m a major asshole for not helping at all. Once I get more stable I do intend to send her money. I offered 500$ an... keep reading on reddit ➡
My brother “Adam” is 32M. Cassie, his girlfriend/my ex girlfriend is 22F, I’m 23M.
I dated “Cassie” for two years, right after graduating. We had been close friends throughout high school. Her and my brother had met a handful of times but he joined the military at 18 so he was only home when he was on leave.
Two years ago, my brother was staying home for a few weeks after a deployment and i caught Cassie cheating on me with him. We broke up and she almost immediately began dating my brother. After a few months they moved in together and my mom and the rest of my family basically just ignored the fact that Cassie and I had ever dated. My mom gave me shit every time I wouldn’t come to a dinner or something they were at. I’ve since moved on, but it’s still weird whenever I see them together so I try to avoid it.
Not long ago they announced they were having a baby. Which is great, I wish them and their kid the best. They’re having a baby shower/gender reveal today that the whole family was invited to and my mom just called me to ask when I’ll be there and I told her I wasn’t going. She told me if I don’t have a legitimate reason not to go I’m being an asshole because this is my niece or nephew and in a few years I’ll regret not letting everything be water under the bridge.
Like I said I wish the best for them but I don’t really care to be a part of their lives, which is I guess why I think I might be the AH because the kid is technically family.
So AITA for not going to this baby shower/gender reveal thing?
I was watching an episode of Casa de Papel and Denver said something along the lines of - "you gotta be like the Terminator, you know- 'sayonara baby'". It's one of those things that seems so obvious now that you know.
Just to explain it - 'hasta la vista' is a Spanish phrase he says to sound cool. Obviously it makes no sense in the Spanish dub to say that, so 'sayonara baby' is switched in its place.