Crying is not a sign of weakness, it shows that you care a lot about whatever you’re talking about. However, it’s also often distracting to all the parties involved.
If you stop talking, it draws even more attention to you crying, and the other party may stop your discussion to ask if you’re alright or if you need to stop. If you keep talking and draw as little attention to it as possible, it keeps the conversation going and draws the attention away from you and back to the discussion. Wipe away your tears as you need, and ignore any voice cracks as well.
Eventually no one will pay attention to you crying and your voice will steady out. You may even stop crying without noticing. Not stopping keeps the conversation moving and draws the attention from you and back to the the discussion.
My oldest son and boyfriend (H) had a bad relationship ever since H had accidentally burned down our house. He put in a pizza while me, my 2 sons and daughter went out to the mall and H had forgot about it and left to go back to his apartment, when we got back home our kitchen was on fire and by the time the firetrucks got here the whole downstairs was on fire. Our house was pretty much destroyed and our husky passed away in the fire when I told my boyfriend about it he remembered his pizza, he apologized and I forgave him but my son never did (my other 2 were too young to remember). My cousin took said she could watch my kids until we got a new house and I stayed with H at his house (it was too small to hold all of us). A lot of our stuff was damaged but not enough to be thrown away, so we got a new house 2 years later and my son still hasn't forgiven H.
It only got worse when he got older he would never say hello to H when he came over and would always avoid him, like one time when... keep reading on reddit ➡
Me: chocolate chips mixed into the batter so when the waffle cooks, the chocolate chips are all gooey and melted.
Sister: waffle cooked separately with chocolate chips tossed on top afterwords because she likes the texture.
We accept your judgement.
Edit: thank you for everybody’s comments. My sister now realizes she is the inferior sibling.
For instance, when a high profile case happens where a woman is raped, people will bring up that men are raped, too.
It's hard to plead your case when you're only pleading it to minimize someone else's.
Edit: please notice that instead of men using this post to talk about men's issues, most are just doing the Spiderman pointing meme and bashing women/feminists.
Today the Supreme Court is hearing arguments over whether or not the president has absolute immunity from legislative oversight.
The Supreme Court on Tuesday began considering whether President Trump can shield his income tax returns from disclosure and keep his private financial records from congressional committees and a New York prosecutor.
The court is hearing three landmark constitutional cases by conference call because of the novel coronavirus pandemic, making it possible for the public to listen to the justices’ questions in real time. A listener’s guide to the Supreme Court battle over Trump’s tax returns and business records
All three cases involve Trump’s effort to prevent his longtime accounting firm and two banks from handing over his tax and business records to Democratic-led House committees and the Manhattan district attorney. The timing of the hearings means the high court’s rulings will probably land in the summer in the midst of the 2020 presidential election camp... keep reading on reddit ➡
The NBA GOAT debate is the age-old question but it's just beating a dead horse at this point. So, I’m saying who do you think has a legit argument to be the GOAT? Here are mine:
Jordan- 6/6 Finals, highest PPG ever, 2x more FMVP'S than anybody else, best perimeter defender ever, majority considered the GOAT.
Kareem- Most points ever, 6 rings, 6 MVPs, was all-NBA caliber for almost 20 tears.
LeBron- widely regarded as the best passing non-PG ever, 8 straight Finals appearances, 3 rings in 9 appearances, longevity is nearly getting to Kareem’s level.
Russell- 11 rings, in my opinion the best defender ever, best winner in sports history.
Those are my 4 no-brainers. The weird thing about this argument is that it’s not in order of best players, at least for me. For instance, I think Magic is the 4th best player ever, but he’s not on this list. Here we’ll get into my next tier that I’m on the fence about maybe having a legit GOAT argument:
Wilt: best statistical peak ever, averaged... keep reading on reddit ➡
Or is it just a total coincidence ? Genuine question, just found it really weird.
Found this thanks to a comment. https://i.imgur.com/PUPSfdj.png
I found this in a study about belief perseverance and confirmation bias. It actually makes total sense and I am very guilty of it.
When I argue with my dad about covid-19, I totally obliterate his points, but he just moves onto a different one and doesn’t acknowledge his err.
And basically this is what we’re both thinking while arguing-
me: holy shit I’m so on fire right now, knocking down all his points with facts and logic and proof and links and
hm: holy shit there is so much evidence that this virus isn’t real, even if she twists information about one thing, I can think of endless other examples using simple logic, I don’t even need fake news to prove my point like she does
By arguing we do more harm than good for our cause.
Now I feel out if people are trying to understand my perspective, or only listening so they can argue against it. I’ve wasted a lot less time typing to people who are just going to end up feeling more right than ever.
I should put a disclaimer t... keep reading on reddit ➡
I (21F) visited my Friend's (25M) island on Animal Crossing so I could check out his store. He messaged me asking me to change my Avatar's clothes because his Girlfriend didn't like how I was dressed and that I was visiting him like that.
This is what I wore here
Apparently it's the bunny ears and lack of pants & shoes.
I told him I wouldn't change and that's ridiculous. Later on when I asked to go again another day he told me No, I can't go there because he promised his girlfriend not to let me. He was also mad that I didn't change when he asked because it caused a huge argument with his girlfriend that could of been easily avoided.
I asked a friend and she said I should of just changed because that's less of a hassle than the boyfriend dealing with his Girlfriend.
Was ITA for refusing to change therefore creating an argument?
thanks for gold
After 30 mins of this being up, most of ATB thinks this is true, most of ATG think it's dumb
First of all I want you to forgive me if I have made any grammatical mistakes in this post because English is not my first language. Second of all I want you to forgive me for my formatting mistakes because I am doing it on my phone. I am also very sorry if this post is very long. I am very frustrated and sad and I am trying to explain all my frustrations in this post. I am literally crying while typing all of this.
I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now and he is a very good person and I love him very much. But his sex drive is below 0. The first year when we were in a relationship I think we had sex for about 10 times or less in the entire year. The second year too I think it was 8 or 10 times or less in the entire year. The third year I think we had sex for about 3 times and from the last 1 year we have had sex only once. At first I used to drop hints and indirectly tell him that I want to have sex with him and after a while he started ignoring my hints and started pretend... keep reading on reddit ➡
I mean, there has been so many instances where where you're trying to have a healthy argument and the other side is just acting like a dumbfuck. There are so many times I've wondered what the actuall age of the person might be. Maybe not the actual age but in groups like say :
I just think this would save people a lot of trouble and energy in trying to explain things to others and not being responded with stupid ass retorts.
EDIT (TITLE) : not having an argument
Have you ever done a dumb thing out of spite? Buckle up.
I have an ongoing zoodle infatuation because zoodles are a low-guilt sauce converyor belt to my mouth. I've stocked up on pasta sauce and I'm taking mealtimes SERIOUSLY. Nothing is wasted, leftovers are used, end of story. So a couple days ago when my boyfriend, let's call him David, found an open bottle of vodka sauce I autopilot shoved in the pantry-
David: "This has to go in the fridge. It's probably no good now."
Me, not openly questioning my partner's judgement, but also knowing that he does not count the forehead as part of the face so I cannot put blind faith in everything he says: "It will be fine. I opened it, like, yesterday. Or, two days ago."
David: "It should have been refrigerated. I really don't think you should eat this."
Now, I've watched David put sesame oil in the fridge. He thinks soy sauce belongs in the fridge. We have very different ideas on what belongs in the fridge. But should the vodka sauce have... keep reading on reddit ➡
When you come up against someone who believes something different than you, and you want to try and talk them out of their belief, it’s important to realize they likely came to their viewpoint on the topic differently than you came to yours. There are three main ways people come to beliefs, and as such there are three main ways you can go about arguing against them. People come to believe certain things by logic, authority, or values. To give a convincing argument, you need to base it on the same thing: logic, authority, or values.
This is the easiest one to argue against. When you present a group of people with a logic puzzle, and then present the solution, nobody generally argues with the solution because everyone started with the same information and can follow the thought process that led to the solution. To try convincing someone out of a viewpoint they arrived at by logic:
#This has undeniably become a severe issue. These are all different posts of random community members who can no longer play.
###People try to belittle them or accuse them or taunt them for having lower quality internet.
You will notice people that are affected and cannot play are treated VERY hostile by players who have this "false stigma" that high ping makes them cheaters/advantageous. They also try to "hide" this issue by downvoting every post where someone is affected.
I can tell you as a person with high ping I lose almost ALL my indoor fights and 60% of my outdoor ones. We got team wiped by Willerz and watched his stream, on his stream he was 1-2 seconds ahead of all our actions and everything he did was not what we saw on our ends. It's like we were behind or slo-mo compared to him. So ya'll got the advantage, not us.
People that are not affected seem highly rude and privileged towards people who are affected.
[BSG acknowledg... keep reading on reddit ➡
I’ve been friends with my best friend since we were about 8, we’re both now 24. When we were 16 she met her current husband, and through him I met my ex. The four of us did all the typical teenage double dating things and became really close, until three years later when I found out he was not only cheating on me, but engaged to another woman. Obviously I was devastated but my best friend, Emily, chose to stay civil with him for her husbands sake, which I was fine with because I’m not in charge of her.
Cut to about a year ago when Emily was putting together her wedding invitations. I noticed on her list that his name was on it, and she assured me that he would only be coming to the reception and that he’d be alone. A month later she told me he didn’t RSVP and that they weren’t expecting him to be there as him and her husband weren’t that close anymore.
Her wedding was in March and was an amazing ceremony, it all went south at the reception. I very rarely drink, alcoholism runs in m... keep reading on reddit ➡
We see this so much. If someone is so bad at their job, then there should be plenty of things to make fun of that have nothing to do with looks.
Making fun of things people cannot change just makes you look like a baby who can’t be bothered to have a real discussion.
Whenever anyone mentions ending illegal immigration, inevitably someone will chime in with "who is going to pick your fruit" or "who is going to mow your lawns." This is an awful defense for illegal immigration. Its the same argument that was used to defend slavery in the South. "Who will pick the cotton" and "who will take care of the house." It really bothers me that this is what social media boils down illegal immigration to. Like they're some permanent underclass that's sole purpose is providing cheap labor.
The argument is that "no American wants to pick strawberries." Sure, when the wage is kept artificially low by an endless supply of day laborers, yes, no american would pick strawberries for $17 a day. But why is it that those jobs have to be terrible wages?
Saying it's an argument only a child would use, or any other similar statement, is a logical fallacy.
It's different if the escalated conflict is between two adults over something petty, but if A punches B for no reason, and B punches back, B should be able to argue that A 'started it' and therefore B was justified in hitting back, without being called childish.
Saying "no offense" has got to be worst one of them all, of course I will take offence of what you just said. Calling me endearing terms that are meant for likeable social interactions doesn't make me agree with your argument/opinion.
Seriously, I don't understand why such the passive aggressive niceties. It's better to reply politely and not pretend that you're some big sister or a close lecturing peer to me.
That's the whole point of having opinions, of course people will get hurt with what you/I said but it doesn't mean you try that twitter tweet slang on me. It's just pure cringe whenever someone actually say this to me in person or in text, it's like they learn how to argue by reading social diss comments.
Using this type of slang just tells me that you're desperately hiding the fact that you've been deeply butthurt and you're doing a shit job at hiding it
Over the weekend, my boyfriend Chris and I took a drive around the local park, took a walk and a small picnic, and then started to drive back. I was driving. It was a 2 lane small local highway and there was a Jeep behind me, tailing me hard, swerving around, blinking their lights. I could tell it was packed with a bunch of teenagers/college aged kids, possibly drunk. They were screaming and laughing out their windows and trying to get ahead of us but cars kept coming on the other side so they couldn't pass. I was really stressed trying to stay calm and my boyfriend just said, don't worry, we'll just let them pass when the other cars stop coming. FINALLY, they had enough clearance and as they passed they started cursing and harassing us by the driver's side, specifically 2 girls who were screaming something and throwing up fingers. It was pissing me off and I also flipped them off, and my boyfriend yanked my wrist back. They thought it was HILARIOUS and drove off.
My boyfriend then to... keep reading on reddit ➡
The two armed guards that stand in front of Zavala's catwalk. What are the guarding exactly? Are they stopping an assassination of someone that can be resurrected an infinite amount of times? Are they there stop incoming invaders. Since somehow weapons strength is tied to your light/power level are these two powerful enough to take down guardians? Or maybe they are there to stop normal people from approaching Zavala because the tower is pretty much the only military base the last city has so it makes sense to let random people walk around it? Nope... Hmmm I got it.. Maybe they shoot the pigeons to keep them from using Zavala's head as target practice. You stop those pigeons guys.... You stop those pigeons!
Earlier today I was shopping in the hardware section of the big chain that starts with Low and ends in e's. The older gentleman who works that department came up to me, faced me, made eye contact with me, and asked if he could help me. Just as I was beginning to speak, Karen walked up behind him and said to the back of his head, "Yes you can", as if I wasn't there. I really didn't need any help, so I let it go and told the employee it was OK, go ahead and help her.
As I was looking for the screws I needed, she asked him how far apart she should place shelf brackets along 12 feet of shelving, using one solid 12 foot board. He told her every other stud should do it, and that the studs were 16 inches apart. She turned and started to walk away, and the employee got tagged by another customer, so he walked away. She stopped, turned back and spoke to me, as if I had just been the one speaking with her (she could not possibly have mistaken myself and the employee. I'm white, 5'8, beard, no... keep reading on reddit ➡
Due to recent events me and my wife have been forced to move in with our in-laws. Thankfully they don't force us to go to church or anything, but every dinner starts with saying grace. "Thank you God for all this food and for everyone being safe yada yada yada yada"... Now don't get me wrong, I'm totally fine with this, and will even throw in a half assed "amen" at the end, as I respect a person's right to believe whatever the fuck they want. But the hipocracy? That stuff really bugs the shit outta me.
Some awesome quotes from my father in law during dinner:
"literally anyone successful owned slaves back then. It was just good business practice"
"It's not their fault it was the cheapest labour"
"It's the same thing as me going to hire Mexicans to do my yard work. Tell me the difference."
Dude fucking regardless of your arguments, you are literally defending owning human beings for bigger profits. You really think your Jesus dude would totally agree?