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I (27M-East Asian) have been married to my wife (27F-South Asian) since 2017. We have a 3 year old daughter and a 6 month old son.
So my wife can’t cook. She can do basic stuff obviously but she hates it. It’s like a mix of fear and clumsiness. And honestly, up until we got married I didn’t cook either.
Obviously this was a problem.
We eventually came to a solution. I do the cooking and she washes all the dishes before and after. I’m fine with it-she’s fine with it and we’ve been functioning well.
My parents and my in laws came over the other day for dinner and everyone was having a great time. That was until my MIL complimented my cooking skills.
My mom was a bit taken aback for some reason and asked me if I cooked “again”. I informed her that I usually cook and she just got even moodier.
I brushed it off but then when my inlaws left, I caught my mother “scolding” my wife.
Well, apparently she should be the one cooking-not me. You know why? Because she’s the wife, the woman and I’m the husband, the man.
My wife stood up for herself and said that we both came to an agreement and we didn’t need her input on how we made our food. I involved myself at this point and told my mom that she was being very unreasonable.
My mother said that she didn’t get me married to become a slave to my wife and that she was just looking out for me. I told her to get the hell out and she left the house crying.
I don’t see why this is such a big deal. I don’t think I’m the asshole either but my mom says I am. My dad is on her side just because she’s his wife but he says that I wasn’t wrong for defending my wife (just for swearing at my mom).
My wife is over it and wants to apologize just so we can move on but I don’t think we should considering we didn’t do anything wrong.
My friend told me to get some judgement from here so here I am, Reddit am I the asshole in this situation?
Note: Yes we got married early. No, I don’t care if you guys have a problem with that.
Edit: Okay so my friend told me that reddit isn’t used to early marriages so he told me to make a small note. I’m not judging-apparently most people from my home country get married in their thirties. Anyways, haven’t seen a single comment being judgmental so I don’t know what he was going on about. Thanks for the reassurance guys!
Edit: Also I forgot to mention-I’m Canadian, wife’s Canadian and we live in yup you guessed it: Canada.
I'm nineteen (F). I've never really been into fashion and have always dressed sort of tomboyishly. I was telling a friend about how I've never really worn a dress past the age of 7 and how I was looking for something fancy to wear to because I don't have those sort of clothes at all (always end up borrowing someone else's when I have to).
After a lot of looking online, I finally found a dress I really liked. It's a basic satin slip dress with a mid thigh slit. Not the kinda dress that would be unusual for someone my age to wear to a party, I've seen a lot of people wearing something similar. I asked my mom which colour would look best on me as I really didn't know and she's someone that's quite into fashion. She took one look at it and called it 'slutty' and asked me why I wanted to look like a slut so badly.
Later on, she told my dad about the 'slutty dress' and he sided with her. He said the 'description' of the dress made him queasy and that although he wouldn't have used the words my mom did, he didn't think it was wrong of her to use them. He also said it was 'not like me' to wear such clothing, which isn't false but then I'm also nineteen and need clothes other than sweatpants and oversized t shirts.
I'm not proud of it but I lost my anger at them (which is why I believe I also may be in the wrong here) and said it wasn't fair to make me feel ashamed for going out of my comfort zone and trying something new. I feel weird and awkward doing feminine things (makeup/dye my hair/paint my nails) because I've always been told that's a bimbo/slutty thing to do. I even agreed to stitch the slit up because it bothered my mom so much. She told me she was 'merely stating her opinion', but it was an opinion that was meant to shame for something I was going to wear.
If it matters, I am living in their house but I paid for the dress with my own money
TLDR- Bought a dress that's too slutty for my parents. They shamed me for it and that caused a family argument where I lost my cool at them.
Edit- I ordered it in burgundy.
[Removed the link because I'm being accused of being a social media manager but if you google burgundy satin slip dress you should get a fair idea of what it looks like]
My husband and I have been together for 8 years and we have 2 sons together (4 and 6). Thankfully I work from home and my job is so flexible that I get a lot of time in with my kids despite being at work. My husband works from 11a to 11p. I dont have a set schedule. I could work all day if I wanted to, take my breaks when I want and for however long I want. I have been with the company for almost 10 years.
So because my work is so flexible, I am able to entertain my kids, cook, clean, etc and it does not affect my job at all. However, my husband is convinced I need help throughout the day. He has brought it up several times and I have been over the top insistent that no, I do not need help. I manage just fine and I love my life. The last time he brought it up was last week. Again, I told him I dont need help and at this point, having heard this conversation a million and one times, I said "You seriously need to just stop because every single time you bring this up, it pisses me off beyond belief. Listen to me and hear my words when I say I'm fine." He dropped it.
Well, my MIL has showed up for the past 3 days and has hung out at my house all day and all evening (until easily 10pm). I cant even begin to tell you how beyond irritating this is because I am now having to entertain her the entire time because she wont leave me alone and even after the kids go to bed, she stays here and i have no "me time" whatsoever. At this point I had no idea that it was my husbands doing. So yesterday around noon I asked my MIL to leave. This was after I made lunch and she scolded my youngest for making a smiley face in his ketchup. I was calm about it. I just told her that I wanted to be alone with the kids. Her response was "Matt said you would say that. Hes worried about you, you know?" So I asked what the hell he was worried about and she said "You overwork yourself while taking care of this kids. You need help. You might not know it yet but you do." I immediately just told her to please leave. Which she did. This infuriated me beyond belief because as I've said, my job is so flexible that it doesnt even feel like I'm working and I absolutely love my home life. I dont need to be intruded on to a point where I have zero time to myself or one on one with my kids because he thinks I'm "depressed".
So I flipped out on him. I told him it was beyond disrespectful and that if he ever did that again I would pack my bags. He disregarded everything that I had told him and br... keep reading on reddit ➡
Yesterday my gf (17) and I were looking forward to hanging out at my house. She's my first gf and it's been a challenge for my mom to get used to the idea that I'm now spending time with someone who kisses and touches me. My mom got so worked up, she removed the lock mechanism on my door and made me promise to keep my room wide open whenever I had company. I'm not proud of my reaction but my mom literally making my room unlockable pushed all the wrong buttons. She made me feel like shit and I wanted to return the favour.
So I made it clear to my mom that A) I'm no longer a virgin and B) I'm not gonna stop having sex just because she was taking away my privacy. My mom got really upset and basically called my gf a slut, because in her mind, girls my age just wanted boys and babies. I was forced to talk over my mom because she went on an infinite rant about pregnancy, premarital sex, etc. I told her that we always used protection and that my gf was actually the one who encouraged me to take my time and not rush into having sex, but at the end of the day it was me who wanted to be more intimate. In the heat of the moment angry me had no problem telling my mom if anyone was a so called slut, it was me, because I allowed my gf to bend me over and spank me until I'm sore. If you're cringing right about now, imagine how I'm feeling.
Needless to say my gf didn't come over, not only because of my mother but also because of me. She said my mom overreacted and I just added fuel to the fire. So now I'm in the dog box with both of them. Please tell me sex is not supposed to be this complicated at my age.
Is he one of the most underrated upcoming guards? His defense is insanely versatile, he completely changes the Pelicans offense and is shooting a absurd 45% on 9 attempts in the last 13 games and 39% on 8 attempts on the season.
He is absolutely balling out, and no one has really noticed
[Source: Lowe Post @40:20] (https://www.espn.com/radio/play/_/id/30911878)
Tweet >John Hollinger dropped the following joke today on The Lowe Post podcast: "The other argument against Curry (for MVP) is: 'How can you say Curry is the most valuable player when the most valuable Warrior this season has been D'Angelo Russell?'"
Context: Golden State Warriors have Minnesota's 2021 lottery pick. The pick is top-three protected, meaning if it lands outside of the first three overall selections, it conveys to GSW
Lmfaooo poor D'lo
Today is the 21st anniversary of Asha Degree’s disappearance. I was reading some articles about her today and they got me thinking about Marco Cadenas, a little boy who disappeared from my city almost 27 years ago under somewhat similar circumstances. Like Asha, he was a 9-year-old child who apparently ran away from home. Unlike Asha, his parents are not alive to advocate for him and his case has received practically zero attention (probably because there’s very limited information in the first place). I’ve decided to re-run this very brief (and slightly edited) write-up I did a couple years ago to hopefully raise more awareness about Marco and get people’s thoughts on his case.
Marco Antonio Cadenas was nine years old when he disappeared from his home in Miami, Florida on May 11, 1994. At the time of his disappearance, he was a third-grader at Lake Stevens Elementary School and lived with his mother Livia and stepfather Alfredo, who had raised him since he was one year old. His biological father lived in Ohio.
According to Livia, she and Marco got into an argument at their home located at 5410 NW 200th St. It is unclear what they were arguing about; it is alternately reported that he was being punished for a previous runaway attempt or for refusing to take a shower. He was particularly upset after seeing his mother hit Alfredo over the head with a bottle.
Shortly after the argument, Marco stormed out of the house with no socks or shoes on. He left behind a note that said, “I’m leaving you because you hit my daddy.”
Marco is a biracial (Black/Hispanic) male, and was 4’7 and weighed about 70 pounds in 1994. At the time of his disappearance, he was wearing a red t-shirt and blue jeans and had a diamond earring in his left ear. He had an appendectomy scar, a scar on his left ankle, and a scratch on his left cheek that was healing in May 1994.
And… that’s it. That is basically all the information available. Two months after he disappeared, his biological father was killed in a shootout during a robbery at a grocery store, an incident completely separate from Marco’s case. Livia passed away in April 1995, just 11 months after his disappearance, and Alfredo died in 2012.
No trace of Marco has ever been found.
The circumstances point to Marco running away, but I think we can all agree that the fact that this child hasn’t been seen in almost 30 years strongly suggests foul play.... keep reading on reddit ➡
In Mark Rosewater's latest article, a player asks about a frequently mentioned criticism among some enfranchised Commander players, specifically that WotC designing so many cards specifically for the format takes away the appeal of finding and discovering cards and hidden gems for the format. Here's the full exchange:
>EldraziMTG asked: Why are there so many cards designed for edh? The fun of discovery for the format is gone.
>Mark Rosewater answered: There are ramifications to being the most played format. R&D is going to design cards for it. However, that doesn't mean there isn't room for a lot of discovery. The key is to give yourself constraints for your deck that force you to look places you might normally not. For example, try playing a legendary creature that you've never seen played as a commander before. Pick a piece of pop culture you adore and use that as inspiration for a theme. Limit yourself to only ten sets to pull from. A lot of fun can come from giving yourself constraints.
>I do hear the larger note that we could be less prescriptive with the cards we design with Commander in mind. That is a note we've heard from numerous players and are taking to heart. The goal is to make more cards that let you explore cool things in Commander and less that force you to have to play a card if you're playing a certain theme.
What are your thoughts on Mark Rosewater's answer?
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