Like, you can't say that you support male victims and then only bring them up when people talk about women being raped. It's not talked about enough but the fact that most of the times it's just a counterpoint is disgusting.
Update: posted on throwramerr1 if anyone sees this, due to the 48 hour rule. Just wanted to go ahead and post and let y’all know I’m okay.
Update 2: Here was the post that got removed
Holy shit, y’all. I haven’t been on reddit since I posted my original here and I did NOT expect this. I had to make an extra account with similar name to post because of the 48 hour thing, but I know a lot of people were genuinely worried about me so I wanted to go ahead and post an update (sorry if that’s not allowed).
Thank you guys so much, I can’t even believe the support/response I got. I ended up calling my brother and telling him about it and asking him how I should handle it, and he got in his car to come get me before I even finished telling him what all had happened. Him freaking out more than anything else made me realize that I wasn’t overreacting. I didn’t tell my boyfriend I was leaving until my brother was parked on the street and I just walked out with a few things. So now I’m in a... keep reading on reddit ➡
Thank you for all the advice and apologies for the vagueness of my original post. I showed it to my girlfriend and she agreed that it was vague and thought I left out important details. I will let her provide those details at the end.
You convinced me that it may actually matter who throw the first punch. Before making the original post, I had heard two mutually exclusive versions of events. One told by my girlfriend and one told by my parents and my brother. It's honestly very hard for me to believe that any of them would lie about something like this.
I have since reached out to everyone else who may have seen how it started and received two relevant replies. One from my aunt who confirmed my parents' and brother's version and one from my youngest sister (18f) who described a scenario similar to what my girlfriend had told me. Everyone who sided with my... keep reading on reddit ➡
Title says it all.
I wanna test myself today, mainly because I’m bored. You can write any argument about anything that is related to League of Legends and I will try to either win the argument, or make you skeptical about yours. Give me your hardest ones and don’t forget that this is supposed to be a fun thing. Don’t make it a hate/offensive discussion! Let the games begin.
Now I'm grounded... And can't play terraria anymore..
Edit: Rip inbox and thx for the internet points. I'm alllowed to play again
Multiplayer: Playing with other people in this game is always to be a sub par experience so long as we have network built on Peer to Peer Connections, it's laggy and hard to get people in instances together.
PowerPlay: PowerPlay just isn't as fun as it could be so long as people can participate in Solo/PG. Any activity involving PP needs to be Open only. Let's put all the modules on the tech broker so PP is a pure large group vs large group activity without people participating just for modules.
SRVs: I guess a pair of boots counts as a second class of SRV? Some more variety in SRV selection would be nice.
MultiCrew: We could use a support role like Engineering or Science, but also on the larger ships let the Helm split the weapons into groups and let us have 2 Gunners to spice things up. MC shouldn't automatically mean someone has to use a SLF. Also, payouts need to be better when in MC. Also also, let us mix MC and Wings.
SLFs, could we get some Utility Fighters (C
I get it. People are very passionate in what they believe in, as they should be. Also, a lot of political issues significantly directly affect a massive amount of people. You have a right to care, and to want others to care. However, no matter what your stance, how can you expect to change the mind of someone who disagrees with you by losing yourself emotionally(and usually personally attacking their morality).
Even if the other person is the one who turned the discussion/argument into a yelling fest, why encourage their stupidity? It’s like yelling at and insulting a toddler. Congrats. You spent half an hour screaming like a banshee, and for what? All that is accomplished is both sides hate each other and both have been even further engrained in their views.
My parents(specifically my dad) argue with my siblings(college age) about politics all the time. Both parties are ridiculously stubborn, and both parties are ridiculously loud and insulting. It’s really frustrating listening t... keep reading on reddit ➡
I know, I know, it's a stale discussion I'm sure, but hear me out.
I've been playing Minecraft for about a decade now, and I think it's safe to say it's been an amazing creative outlet and coping mechanism for me. One thing that always bothered me though, was the lack of vertical slabs. I noticed this before I even knew it was already a highly spoken topic.
I stumbled upon Mojang's official statement on the feedback website regarding slabs, stairs, and other partial blocks, and let me say, its bulls**t.
The common argument against them is just a simple "It's not Minecraft." Which is ridiculous to say for sure. Look at how far Minecraft has grown since the Alpha days. I guarantee you if you showed the modern version to a Minecraft player in 2011, they would say "It's not Minecraft." as well.
Some say it inhibits creativity, which is Mojang's reasoning, which doesn't make sense either. Adding to the mountain of a block palate only widens the playing field for creativity to thrive.... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have had so many times where I’ve complained to someone about why I’m upset. This usually is followed by them saying “I never do that!? Name one time.” From then and there I just can’t compete because how am I supposed to remember that? Then I start to doubt whether they actually are even at fault and beat myself up over it. Even when I KNOW it’s happened before
I'm thinking about making a whole comprehensive list of "bad/overused liberal arguments." For me, the argument that bothers me the most is the whole "if you criticize Joe Biden, you're helping Trump" argument. I'll make a legitimate criticism of Biden and they'll act like I've just handed Trump the election. And it's frustrating because there will always be a Republican boogeyman who will allow them to continue using this defense. In 2024 we'll likely be facing off against Tom Cotton or Nikki Haley or Dan Crenshaw. What do they all have in common? They're all fucking horrible, and come 2024 if a corporate democrat wins again, we're going to hear the same thing over and over again whenever they hear criticism of the nominee.
I am a non-black POC who has been with my white SO for around 8 years. I moved to the UK from a multicultural area in Canada, so have been brought up in a community with all ethnicities . I have experienced racism first-hand and have seen many instances through my friends and family's experiences as well. My SO and I fully support the BLM movement.
I am the only person in my partner's extended family who is non-white, and my in-laws also live in a rural area of the UK that is very, very, white, so I don't think they interact with anyone who is POC on a regular basis. I do know for a fact that they do not have any POC friends or co-workers either. Despite this, they have always treated me (as a person) with great kindness, and have never shown any racist tendencies in the full 8 years I've known them, which is why the following incident was so shocking to me.
My in-laws were visiting us over the weekend and I don't know how we ended up on the topic,... keep reading on reddit ➡
If you have a piece of paper folded up in your pocket or some fake laminated card trying to justify this, then the chances jump to 100%
Fairly short one: I have autism, as does my son. A friend/neighbour has made casual comments for years about how autism isn't real, it's over-diagnosed, only children have it and teens/adults with autism are just using it as an excuse to not grow up, that autism is the result of bad parenting, the list goes on. The closest I've seen to him backing down is when one of his teenage son's called him on it in front of me and told his dad what autism actually is, listing symptoms, at which point his dad declared that "in that case we're all a bit autistic" and spent a few months telling anyone who'd listen that he's autistic too. Anyone who's dealt with someone like this before, sorry, I know you blood pressure already hit the roof, but earlier today I was straight up done with it.
Anyway, my son and a few other neighbours are outside, all appropriately distanced and having a chat. My son is stimming with one hand, a sort of one-handed clap he does when he's excited, which helps him manage... keep reading on reddit ➡
This simply is not the case in the vast majority of the US and continuing to push that narrative is doing major damage to already fragile relationships between cops and citizens. If you look at almost any case of ‘police brutality/racist cops’ fairly and with a truly open mind, almost all of them started with someone either committing a crime or being accused of committing a crime by someone else. Almost every case also involves the ‘victim’ resisting and/or fighting with the police once they arrive and it’s that confrontation that eventually leads to the horrible outcomes that get framed as another example of police brutality/racism.
Here’s where I add the caviat that of course there are some examples where the cops are completely out of line and engage in unnecessary violence. In those cases, the cops involved should absolutely be brought to justice. However, to act as if there’s this overwhelming wave of race-based and unprovoked violence against minorities is a dishonest and lazy... keep reading on reddit ➡
Every time I get into an argument with my mother, it seems like no matter how she treats me or the words she says, she expects me to be fine right after, like it never happened.She gets even more mad when I’m not in a good mood or don’t want to talk to her. My father’s excuse for her behavior is that “that’s how mom is, you know the the drill.” As the years pass by, I get less impatient with that excuse and I’m mentally drained whenever I’m around them now. Like I’m not gonna be fucking okay right away after you yell and call me names and just start stuff outta no where. This makes me contemplate on saving up for an apartment instead of saving up for a used car. I want to be able to feel comfortable and mentally relaxed whenever I step out of my room. I’m never in the same spot with my parents for too long because it’s just gonna stress me out and no matter what I do. I’m just less enthusiastic with living with my parents as the years go by.
This happened a few years ago. It will never leave my mind.
My girlfriend wanted pizza delivery. We ordered from one of the biggest chains in America. We got two large pizzas. Hers was bacon and extra sauce. Mine was just cheese. Pizzas arrive and I immediately notice that my cheese pizza is off. I barely see any sauce on it visibly. I take a piece out and break it in half to confirm that this cheese pizza DID NOT have sauce. No sauce. Not exaggerating. I wouldn't classify it as a pizza. It's just chewy cheese bread at the price of a large pizza. So now I get to skip eating and leave to get this pizza remade. I wasn't even planning on leaving the apartment for the night but off I go.
For context on how I handle these situations: I try to be as civil as possible. Being polite and not cursing is a fool proof way to get what you paid for. This is my philosophy. It's no one's fault. It's just a mistake that can be corrected and I understand that. Oh boy was I so wrong.
I walk into th... keep reading on reddit ➡
We all know how destructive, dangerous and harmful alcohol is, to individuals (physical health, mental health, addiction, lack of control, expensive, use as a maladaptive coping mechanism...) and to society (domestic violence and abuse, sexual violence and rape, major disruptions near pubs every Friday/Saturday night, peer pressure...). It's the most harmful drug to society.
So when people say, "Well tobacco and alcohol are legal so why isn't weed?" they're shooting themselves in the foot. There is no doubt that if alcohol were discovered today, it would be a Class A drug. There are many arguments why legalising weed is bad, but this one seems to be used to support weed, when really it's an extremely strong argument against it, and it's an argument towards criminalisation of alcohol (which we can all agree would make the world a much better, safer, cleaner place). Honestly, making alcohol and in... keep reading on reddit ➡
I introduced my girlfriend to my parents, siblings and extended family on a family get together a few days ago. This was the first time I had seen them since the start of the pandemic and it started out really well with everyone getting along and having fun. That would change as more alcohol was consumed.
My girlfriend and brother got into a heated political argument that suddenly escalated to violence resulting in substantial injuries for both of them. Accounts of who throw the first punch differ and I frankly don't care as they both actively contributed to the fight and antagonized each other. The fight was eventually broken up when my girlfriend had the clear advantage. My mom screamed at my girlfriend to leave so we left.
I love both my girlfriend and my brother and I don't blame either one of them for the fight more then I blame the other. My girlfriend also doesn't seem to hold any grudges and is embarrassed by her behavior during the incident. My brother and parents on the oth... keep reading on reddit ➡
I mean you shouldn't be using it as an argument at all but if you are American and say something along the lines "you can't talk about this topic because your white straight male privileged ass can't understand the problem" you don't understand how fucking privileged you are.
A black gay female is orders of magnitude more privileged than some white straight male in some third world country struggling to find some food for his children for example.
If you are using privilege for your argument and you are from the US you are the one to not understand the real problems because of your privileged ass.
In my opinion, everyone should be able to have their opinion on any topic, no matter their "privilege" but as I said, if this is your belief and you are from Wester world you are the privileged one.
Whether with a partner, friend, or in the workplace, this shift in perspective can massively shape both how cordial and how effective you are at tackling the issues that cause disagreement. If you are at odds with another person, it can turn conflict into resolution, and build friendship from hostility.
Take a step back. Identify the root of the friction. Lay out your opinions on it, and come up with a solution together.
This should be common sense, but it isn't - if you ever find yourself attacking someone's character, making an argument from authority, or criticising someone behind their back, then you're doing it wrong.
It's not always easy, but it makes life so much easier.
EDIT: Blown away by the feedback and my first award! Thank you so much! From the comments, I feel one thing needs to be added:
Lots of people are asking about what happens if you adopt this perspective and the other person does not. My advice: stick to your guns. Let them insult you and make irrelevant po... keep reading on reddit ➡
Ya boy is still on that unemployment wave and bored as shit. And what alleviates boredom? Getting into meaningless arguments on the internet! Now while the cathartic feeling of arguing and debating someone over some bullshit like professional wrestling is great I don't want this to turn into actual name-calling and toxicity so keep it lighthearted, yeah? More things like "Actually Kazuchika Okada looks superior in pants as opposed to trunks" than something like "AEW deserves to fucking die", you know? So whether it's in kayfabe or not I'd love to hear that one thing you've been fired up about but have had nobody to argue about it with
Or I guess just Hellmann's the company, which will be running an event through the game to raise awareness of food waste issues and solicit donations for hunger charities. Players can come to a newly created Hellmann's Island to drop off spoiled turnips (long fucking story), and the company will respond by donating a meal to a given charity for each turnip brought.
Already struggling beneath the iron yoke of Tom Nook's extortionate mortgage practices, the animal crossers cry ENOUGH:
> "Who cares if they're contributing out of the goodness of their hearts? A starving family gets to eat a meal." Lots of people care, apparently.
> One user's protest that the company should do more is met with replies that they do; nobody is happy. This comes up [a couple of times](https://w... keep reading on reddit ➡
I see this relatively often on reddit. Two people argue, someone posts a link to a random research paper that supports their point, following which the other person is downvoted to oblivion.
I'm a researcher and it doesn't work like that. You have tons of shitty papers everywhere in shitty journals and conferences that are bullshit, probably way more than good papers. Just googling and finding a paper means nothing if you are not familiar with the field and know how reliable the journal/conference it was published in is. And even it's a good one, science isn't just studies that tell the truth that follow each other, you often have papers that contradict each other until a consensus is reached.
The ability to google research papers makes everybody think they're essentially scientists, they're not.
EDIT: missing word
“We are all atheists about most of the gods that humanity has ever believed in. Some of us just go one god further.” ― Richard Dawkins, The God Delusion
In my conversations, I've experienced atheists presenting this observation as an argument against the existence of God or the credibility of monotheistic beliefs (which in my case, happily, is Christianity). However, this statement is simply an observation of what atheism is when compared to monotheism and there is no argument (implicit or otherwise) contained within it. If there is only one true God, then it is perfectly reasonable and cogent to reject all counterfeits and frauds. In fact, it would be unreasonable not to do so.
Update: Thanks to all who engaged civilly in the discussion. It seems that the intent of the observation is to prepare an argument that (in my case ) a Christian would reject all other Gods for the same reasons that atheists do, which is a lack of evidence, so I should simply go one step further. As I've trie... keep reading on reddit ➡
No you didn't. Shut the fuck up and come back to me when you learn how to have a normal conversation, you useless fucking piece of shit.
I wouldn't necessarily say this is an "unpopular" opinion, I would say it is more split if anything. But when you are in an argument, using passages from the Bible or other religious scriptures/beliefs are not valid points.
Bank Holiday ends next month, Job keeper ends next month (unless you’re unfortunate enough to still meet the newer requirements for job keeper in which case you couldn’t afford one let alone two mortgages anyway if you had an investment property as well) and current jobless rates data where I’m positive quite a few home owners are in that data.
Personally I believe many home owners of both personal and investment properties are hanging on by a thread. At current interest rates the Job Keeper is probably just enough to cover a mortgage (maybe) early super withdrawal got you covered for a little bit as well maybe, but September the bank holiday ends your loans will be calling with compounded interest, a lot would have been living on credit and borrowed time to cover the difference but once the banks come knocking for their money I’m certain a lot of defaults and a lot of “investment” properties will hit the market at the very least.
I have close friends that work within the big 4... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throwaway title sounds bad but here me out
I have a wife who has birthed our son. Unfortunately my wife would not let me help name our kid and told me she was the one who created it thus she gets to name him and she does not care about how I feel. My wife uses this argument all the time and treats me second rate even when I try to help or speak out my mind on opinion. I am kind of sick of this and I tried having had a proper conversation but wife refused and told me since I did not birth the child I don't have an opinion on her parenting.
So today my son had a temper tantrum and my wife told me to fix it because she was busy drinking alcohol. I said no and told my wife to fix it her self and that I then told her she birthed the child and that she can parent the child. Wife told me I am not allowed to parent our child multiple times. I left and played on my console. My wife was furious and yelled at me for not parenting our child and telling me I am a bad husband for not following her... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have tried to address some common arguments put forth by pro-Hindutva folks and why I think they are wrong. Please feel free to disagree with me or add some more of your own points and arguments.
· Hinduism is not a religion but a way of life: There is some truth to this one. Hinduism does not fit the bill of religion as Abrahamic religions like Christianity or Islam do, and the religious tag was added by the west. There is relatively much more freedom granted within this sum of ideas and values; one can be a Hindu Atheist for example. However, all this is only good on paper. Practically speaking, Hinduism is as good as it is practiced. And majority if not all Indians treat it as a religion. Its customs and values are held sacrosanct and not guidelines (even toxic ones like the caste system), worship is an integral part of the practice, and political forces use it to purely religious effect. The Ram Mandir issue is enough proof how Hinduism is currently a religious force.
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So to start (I promise this is relevant), my husband is 240 lbs, close to 6’4” with a very large frame, size 13 shoe, and a big, coarse beard.
We’re having a baby boy in October - I’m 29+2 today. We’re sitting on the couch together and he, pretty randomly, says something like, “I’m worried Hank (that’s what we’re calling our fella) will be transgendered.”
I pause and try not to react emotionally. I know my husband, and he is typically very supportive of the LGBTQ community. He will correct staff who misgender his patients, and he is always a big advocate for trans men and women in his care.
I ask him what he means and why he’s worried about that. He tells me, “their shoes will be so expensive and I can barely find dress shirts that fit me - where will they find dresses?“ He starts going on and on about how he’d be so worried about if they look like him that they’d never feel feminine and struggle with that.
You guys, I was laugh-crying at his concerns as I tried to reassure him. I... keep reading on reddit ➡
When someone says this, the actually mean “read and watch news that goes with my opinion and not yours” This isn’t directed to both sides but this should not be said in any argument.
What are the arguments for keeping marijuana illegal for personal use/consumption?
Pro-lockdowners, when confronted with the indisputable fact that this virus, from a mortality standpoint, is at most two or three times worse than a bad seasonal flu strain, often pivot to the "long-term effects" angle - namely, that those who don't die might suffer long-term or permanent damage to various parts of their body. This proves, they say, that this virus is most certainly not "just the flu."
Here's an article from 2014, reviewed by a medical doctor, detailing complications that can arise and have arisen from cold and flu viruses. Some choice examples:
Just the flu? Tell that to the... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have tried to address some common arguments put forth by pro-Hindutva folks. Would appreciate some serious rebuttals, where you think I've got the facts wrong. Was originally posted in r/India.
· Hinduism is not a religion but a way of life: There is some truth to this one. Hinduism does not fit the bill of religion as Abrahamic religions like Christianity or Islam do, and the religious tag was added by the west. There is relatively much more freedom granted within this sum of ideas and values; one can be a Hindu Atheist for example. However, all this is only good on paper. Practically speaking, Hinduism or any faith is as good as it is practiced. And majority if not all Indians treat it as a religion. Its customs and values are held sacrosanct and not guidelines (even toxic ones like the caste system), worship is an integral part of the practice, and political forces use it to purely religious effect. The Ram Mandir issue is enough proof how Hinduism is currently a religious force... keep reading on reddit ➡