I’m trying to make sure my apartment isn’t woman-repellant. Before you ask, I keep the place extremely clean. But I was wondering if there’s anything else that would turn a girl off?
Update: Thanks for the advice everyone, it went really well!
So this has happened twice. My sister has unlocked the door to my apartment and taken my dog to show him off to strangers(He's a Corgi and he's the only Corgi in our town so people get weird about it). The first time, I was so shocked that I just watched her take my dog away(he came back 20 min later but still) The second time, I was in the shower and didn't hear her come in so obviously, when I came out of the shower and my dog was nowhere to be found, I freaked out. My sister left the door wide open and I thought he had gotten outside or someone had broken in and taken him.
I called my mom, who then told me that my sister was at her place with her friend and my dog. I call my sister screaming through the phone to bring him back asap. I am recovering from a painful back injury and I have to limit my movements to a minimum. I am also in a lot of pain from walking in general and even standing for a 20 min shower(I had a chair but it broke and I'm waiting for the replacement) is difficult so I couldn't just go and get him myself.
Six hours and many irate calls later, she comes back with him. I go off on her, telling her that she can't just take my dog to meet strangers(My dog is friendly but still) and that she can't just barge into my apartment without knocking or letting me know ahead of time. She argues that because of my injury, it would be good for him to get outside and do something else. She completely ignored the fact that I have friends who help me walk him and that he does spend three out of seven days a week at my mother to give him some space while I recover but he's fine and at his happiest when he's with me and that my injury does not excuse her from taking him from me without my knowledge and or my permission.
I then tell her to hand over the keys,get the hell out and leave me alone. She leaves and I get texts from her, her friends and my parents saying that I was overreacting. I know my sister wouldn't do anything to hurt my dog but she oversteps my boundaries, something she and my brother does all the time but that's another story.
Was I the asshole here?
: I was not expecting so many answers and advices and the response to this post! My building manager has agreed to changed it this morning and now, only I have the keys.
I want to explain further a few things I've noticed I might not have explained properly.
1: My accident was truly a freak accident. It had rained the previous night and it was at the same time a cold... keep reading on reddit ➡
I actually fucked up 8 years ago, but time has worn down my pride enough that I'm willing to finally share this story with the world.
It was recently suggested to me that I leave my Christmas tree up a little longer in order to further enjoy the cheeriness it brings to the living room. This is an easy thing to suggest when you haven't seen the things I've seen. When you haven't done the things that my boyfriend and I have done. You see, when you have one year when you leave your tree up until May, that experience changes you. It changes Christmas forever.
We have always used real trees as opposed to artificial ones, which means they need to be disposed of after the holidays. Back when we lived in an apartment they had a small window of time when you could leave the tree by the curb and they would haul it away for you. Unfortunately we missed that window, which turned into weeks and weeks of pretending the tree just... didn't exist. Sure the ornaments came down, but the skeletal remains of Christmas stood in our living room as a monument to our evasion of basic responsibilities.
One day, in late February or so, we realized we could be having friends over for dinner. We thought, "Oh my god. We can't let people know we still have this tree!" So we did what any logical couple would do and we hid it in the closet with a white blanket over it. You can imagine how terrifying it was in the beginning when you would get up to use the restroom in the middle of the night and see an 8 foot tall Christmas tree ghost looming in the doorway.
I don't know what the final straw was. Maybe it was the storage space we were losing by having a massive cloaked Douglas fir in our closet. Maybe it was that we missed using the blanket that had taken on a new purpose in life. Whatever it was, we knew we couldn't avoid this issue any longer. The problem of how to dispose of the tree still existed. We couldn't leave it at the curb, and we knew wherever we took it, it was going to leave a breadcrumb trail of humiliation straight to our doorstep.
That's when the saw came out.
Into the wee hours of the night we carefully disassembled the tree until it was compact enough to fit into a cardboard box. By 2am we were covered in sweat and sap, but we were able to stealthily discard the box in a nearby dumpster. On that day, we vowed to never again let the disposal of the Christmas tree become an episode of Forensic Files.
And now my shameful past is out in the open for the internet... keep reading on reddit ➡
So my boyfriend (M25) and I (F25) have been together for six months. When talking about New Years Resolutions, he mentioned that he'd like us to move in together at some point this year. I thought this was very sweet, so in the past few days we've discussed the logistics of what that transition would entail. Because of the pandemic, I lost my job (service industry) and had to move back home with my mom, while he (software developer) has kept his job/income, just works from home now. As we live in the suburb of a larger city in the US with major dining restrictions, I don't see myself being able to go back to my normal work until the COVID crisis is over (come on vaccines!). So, I figured maybe I'd just move into his 1 BR apartment with him. He, however, says he'd rather have a 2 BR to give us more space for if we want time apart while living together. I see no problem with this. I figured maybe we could turn the extra room into an entertainment room or some other kind of "chill" room, so one person can be in the living room or bedroom and the other can be in the spare room.
The problem came when I brought this up to him, and he said that he would want the spare room to be his office/"man cave." I said, okay, no problem, but if the extra room is specifically going to be *your* space, I don't think we should go 50/50 on rent. The more I thought about it, he makes a lot more money than I did when I was employed (think 40k vs 70k), so I said going 50/50 on rent doesn't make sense anyway. He said that it was ridiculous, and that in an equal partnership, we should contribute equally. He also said that because we'd be looking for a place with a bigger kitchen than his current tiny kitchen and I enjoy cooking, that's equivalent to his man cave. I disagreed because the only time I cook is to make both of us food, so just making me a little more comfortable without running into things isn't the same as having a whole room just to myself. I haven't thought of what I'd consider to be a fair percentage of who should pay how much of rent, but AITA for insisting he should pay more?
EDIT: Thank you all for your comments/judgements! This received a lot more attention than I was anticipating! And the awards on my very first post?! I'm speechless. Thank you, kind strangers.
I will be speaking to my boyfriend about this next time we get together. For all of you who are concerned, this plan to move in together would be executed in summer-fall of this year, so don't... keep reading on reddit ➡
How does a company not know that the fucking presidential inauguration is happening? Putting that aside, the stream does eventually go live aaaaand... it's just some guy ranting? Was it recorded on his phone?
Is Citron an actual thing? Is there a brick and mortar office building, with revenues and services, or is it literally just some guy making tweets with a lemon picture? I'm so confused right now.
And why aren't they bullish on $LMND? What's the point of manipulating the market if you aren't going to make memes or inside jokes? Gourd, what a waste.
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I am moving out for the first time and don't know anything about apartments. I have a few questions that I ask about the buildings but not much more.
I have heard that there are lots of hidden fees that are on top of my rent and they seem not want to tell me those fees besides the rent and I need to know what are some typical fees so I can ask about those directly and get an answer so I know how to budget so they get their money on time and I live comfortably
Please let me know. Any bit of help goes a long way for me right now since this is my first time.
For some context I am in California
so my apartment unit is on the first floor of my building, which is the same floor that the parking garage and main stairwell are on. the door to that main stairwell is next door to my unit - and while they are the same color, they do not look alike in any other way. my unit door has the apartment number, a welcome mat, doorbell, and a REGULAR doorknob, while the entry to the stairwell is one of those push bars, and is literally located in the middle of the pathway from the garage.
the problem i’ve been running into is that people try to open MY door in place of the stairwell several times a week. i’ve already added some additional bolt/lock measures just in case it’s not as harmless as i assume, but even my maintenance guy laughingly said he had mistaken my door before and that he’d seen other people in the complex do it too. while i understand that people might be able to make this mistake once while distracted or on their phone or whatever, SEVERAL times a week i hear someone literally shoulder multiple times into our door, rattle the knob, or push against the bolts and it scares the shit out of me. it’s an awful sound at night and literally makes it seem that people are trying to enter our home (which they are...)
i’ve become increasingly frustrated that people haven’t learned to double check which door they’re opening (even though this shouldn’t really be difficult to mistake) and i told my boyfriend i wanted to put vaseline on the knob after locking up at night, and while he thinks this would be well-deserved, he is scared of someone getting upset or retaliating against us or our cars, etc. while i can understand how it might be upsetting, i think it’s a relatively harmless approach. i’m still compelled to see if this is a good deterrent, as it’s our doorknob... and i think it would be difficult to defend without admitting you tried to open our door. but anyways, would i be the asshole here?
TLDR: people mistake my unit door for the main stairwell door even though they don’t look alike, i’m compelled to butter our knob to try and deter people from trying to open it
edit: thanks for all the responses, i wasn’t expecting to get so many opinions, haha. i’ve calmed down and walked myself off the vaseline ledge, i’ve already had things on the door before and was really looking for something to deter people without them having to look (considering they ignore all the other tell signs...) i have a meeting with the landlord tomorrow and will bring up ap... keep reading on reddit ➡
We’ve been together for 8 years but got our first apartment together in January 2020. MIL was annoyed about us moving out because she liked having access to extra money. She’s very controlling, a bit manipulative and tries to act innocent 24/7.
My grandmother has Stage IV colon cancer and I have been her sole caretaker. I was up all night caring for her and went to rest my head at 8am. At 8:45am, I was woken up by her VIOLENTLY banging on my front door, saying “I know you’re in there!!!” She also had her 9yo son banging on the door and even tried to get in with a card!
We simply stayed quiet and ignored her because she knows better... and we do not accept the breach of privacy. We also do not accept potential COVID exposure to my ill grandmother...
So she goes the back door and started banging too! Like mad! And then... she bangs on our neighbors door... and then after a little bit, the police are on our lawn and so they begin knocking... We ignore it because the police can’t just demand us to talk to her, you know? What the heck?!
And so I called the police station and I explain a little bit like... “she’s been knocking like crazy, she probably wants money or something, which is a usual, and she knows not to show up. We’re fine.” The officer asks if we’re “anti-cop” and says we need to show our faces out the window because MIL said we weren’t okay—to try to get us to come out—which my bf did not want to do that... because it’s a game to her, you know?
And finally, after a while, he showed his face from the window and the cops walked away immediately and she just walked away crying.
Now she’s texting me trying to act like she’s concerned when she was being vicious at the door, saying stuff violently like, “I FUCKING HEARD YOU IN THERE.”
Should I just tell her straight up that she’s not welcome here?
I dislike her for many reasons, I mean... he’s 26, I’m 24... and she wants access to our bank accounts like... what? I’m paying my own way through college, she isn’t getting money from us. I just don’t get it.
Just heard in the elevator someone showing people units. They said a one bedroom is going for 1200. I'm in a ALCOVE a fancy word for studio for 1424. Anything I can do? I just signed for second year lease back in October.
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Throwaway account. I am in Louisiana. I don't want to say which city, but I don't think it matters.
All residents of our complex recently got this notice by e-mail, and I would like to know if it is legal.
We have recently had a few incidents and several parents are concerned about the safety of their children in the recreational area. Accordingly, effective February 1, a new policy will be in effect. Males who are over the age of 18 will not be permitted to use the pool or hot tub, or enter the pool deck area, unless accompanied by a female household member. Males who live alone and wish to use these facilities may request an exemption to this policy, which will be granted solely at the discretion of management, after completion of a background check.
This policy does NOT apply to the gym or clubhouse.
Please note that your lease agreement clearly states that the use of amenities such as the pool and hot tub is not guaranteed, and is subject to such regulations as management may implement from time to time. We have been advised that this policy is not discriminatory because it addresses a safety issue, but nonetheless, if any legal complaints are filed, we will have no choice but to simply shut down the pool and hot tub completely.
We realize that this may pose an inconvenience to some residents, but we thank you for your cooperation as we work to keep our community safe.
Moved into my apt about a month ago now, and when we had our tour of the place everything looked great. It has been a nightmare since we've moved in. The neighbors are screaming and blasting music every night until midnight.
The landlords will just think you're lazy and never bothered to replace the old ones.
Edit: It's more of a convenience thing than a money thing for me. I always forget to buy bulbs when I'm out and about.
And when I say unbelievable I literally mean it.
You supposedly become a hot shot merc, driving nice cars, wearing nice clothes, yet you still live in a shit hole!?
It breaks immersion because it’s so unrealistic. I know they said they wanted the story to take place at one apartment but ffs at least add in different apartments once you beat the game.
Even this trailer talks about getting a big house... https://youtu.be/6a8f1TbYb2w