I’m 28F, 50.5kg/111lbs (average while I’m naked and have just woken up), 5ft 4/163cm and BMI of 19. I currently look like this.
In December 2020, I was 54.5kg/120lbs. I was unhappy with how I looked. I set a goal of 51kg and hit that at the end of Feb by increasing my daily steps and going from maybe 2,500 to 1,500 calories per day.
I’m now at my goal weight, but I’m all body fat with no muscle, and I have the core strength of a newborn. I’m now eating 1,700 calories per day, but I have no idea if that’s right. I’m burning between 1,700 and 1,900 per day.
I’ve been doing more at-home bodyweight, but I’m kind of going blind and playing it by ear. I’ve been doing a growingannanas YouTube video 4 times per week, but they’re reeeally decreasing my motivation as they’re so advanced and I finish it feeling like I’ve just spent the whole time taking breaks. I finish feeling unfit, fat and unfulfilled. It’s lead to me not doing bodyweight exercises as frequently as I’d like to.
To give you an idea of where I am, I max out at 3 good form, strict, elbows-tucked-in press ups. There aren’t any body weight exercises (plank, mountain climbers, crunches, leg raises, side plank) on growingannanas videos that I can do for the full 50 seconds, except squats or squats crunches.
Anyway, I’m totally lost as to where to go from here.
Any advice please to burn this fat and build more muscle please?
Edit: I also walk at least 10,000 steps at least 5 days per week and job at least once per week. I forgot to mention that! I
Edit 2: thank you everyone for all of your detailed and thoughtful responses. I really really appreciate it and am working through them one by one taking on your advice ❤️
My hair is about 5-6 inches long when stretched, been waiting for a haircut for about 6 months.I normally use As I am Co wash, and Shea Moisture Curl and Shine conditioner every 2-3 days. To style I use cantu curl activator cream + eco styler gel.This ends up giving me somewhat curly texture, but there is still a lot of stray hair and it's not very defined. I tried a technique from another poster with my sorta 'target' hair, mixing Jamaican black castor oil with curling cream, it didn't really change much.I want to find out how to get better curl definition than I am currently getting, and make the hair look less 'wild' and like a birds nest.Also post lockdown I'm looking to get a haircut, but because it's been so long idk what to ask for, i want the top shorter, but still enough to have proper curls if that makes sense? And the sides to be short, maybe a fade or a bit longer.
Pictures: These pictures are fresh, wet out of the shower. The only thing I did was attempt the shake method. I've tried using t shirts to 'plop' as well as different types of towels, just gently patting makes my hair lose all hope of definition or volume, just becomes like a felt tip pen.
I've set up the community tag for one of the subs I mod, specifically /r/HondaCB (a series of motorbikes by the manufacturer Honda).
According to this:
"Amateur advice" is a mature theme. I answered no to mature content, as I assumed this specific topic category was referring to subreddits such as /r/legaladvice, /r/relationshipadvice, /r/personalfinance, etc. But there are occasional questions as part of a discussion in my sub about how to repair or diagnose a fault, or questions about general fitment of a specific model for riders (e.g. seat height). Which makes me wonder now if I should have answered yes to this question.
But then I started thinking wouldn't amateur advice be offered in almost any, if not all, subreddits? Can we have some context with which to judge if our subreddits fit into these more vague topic categories?
I'm struggling in deciding where to put math definitions, theorems, lemmas, formulas, etc, in my ZK. In my case is about math and statistic stuff, but I think that we can generalize to any knowledge area.
If I read a research paper, I always create literature notes because these try to solve a very specific problem and it depends a lot of the author's vision to solve it. So I decompose their line of thought in small pieces and try to learn exactly what is all about.
However, If I grab a textbook and there are a lot of basic introductory concepts (e.g., definitions, theorems, lemmas, formulas), I don't know if I should put those notes into a permanent note or go to write a literature note and then create a permanent note about it.
I think that for basic stuff we can go directly to the permanent notes and for more complex ideas we can create the literature note and after create a permanent note with my idea and possibly other related ideas about the topic.
What are your thoughts about it?
Seriously. I always hear about people being scared of the words 'diet' and 'budget', as if they're evil words. Like, are you crazy? You're already on a diet and a budget! It's just not a good one and is mostly controlled by your impulses.
You know what keeps people on a plan? Make it fun and feed your impulses PLUS your goals. You like chocolate? Fine, have a serving of chocolate dipped banana slices every day. Can't sacrifice vacation every summer? Fine. Put some money aside every month and save for it.
There is just so much stigma against these to words. Yet, 90% of people who are on planned diets and budgets are having MORE fun than the people with no plan. Change your impulse diets and impulse budgets to planned diets and planned budgets that include the joys of life.
I'm frustrated that my mom keeps calling me greedy. Yes, I'm less willing to financially contribute to family than my sister. But my brother does way less and he never gets called greedy. I also do a lot more than my friends, but I was told that they're outsiders and different.
I'm now wondering if I need to see a therapist to fix this... Or I should just see a therapist for having an AP. But where can I find a therapist who understands the cultural background of an AP? I have Kaiser if that matters.
My background is game design, mainly 3d modeling, so I'm well versed in sculpting in Zbrush but I find that some of the sculpts I've been making and printing lose details no matter what settings I do. I also lose small details like chainmail and scales.
Should I try making the details deeper into the sculpt? Some tips for sculpting for minis would be great is what I'm asking for.
The night before my last shift I broke two weeks of sobriety and downed an entire pint of vodka. Then I went to bed at 2am got up for work at 5am (to work my regular 7am-7pm shift as a nurse). I took a nap in my car during my break which isn’t technically NOT allowed but def a very weird thing to do and entirely off brand for me. Apparently I seemed odd enough and altered that someone mentioned something, and security came to breathalyze me.
Failed it so hard, had to call my husband (who did not know about the midnight pint and was understandably livid) to come pick me up as security escorted me off premises.
I have a call with my boss in several minutes (she’s been out of town since incident but is aware). I am ready to accept all and every consequence/action per protocol. Obviously I’m desperate to keep my job but I also feel like absolute shit for potentially endangering patients, the unit, staff, myself by drinking that pint. Truly no idea it would still be in my system after so many hours but that’s also a conveneinetly naive through process.
ANYWAY. I am ready to try sobriety again- it’s been two days and I haven’t drank and I’ve promised to get real help. I’ve been so “functional” for so long I’ve always had that “I can just stop drinking hard alcohol and be fine” mentality in the back of my mind. That may very well be the case for some people, but it’s very clear to me I need entire sobriety from all alcohol in my life. My biggest sadness, as lame as it sounds, is losing my “best friend” of 16 years, booze. I’ve had so many wake up calls I should have heeded but this one I’m gonna try to listen to. That means switching up my approach and entering a higher level of care that outpatient therapy if need be.
My question for y’all is- as I go about this journey a different way this time- anyone else feel at the time of getting sober they were losing a friend (as effed up as that sounds)? And after gaining significant sobriety (in however you personally define it), what have you been pleasantly surprised by/enjoying without booze in your life?
I’m trying to look forward to the benefits of this new “bottom” in that it’s a true wake up call- it’s just hard to keep that focus right now, especially as potentially compromising my job/license is causing me a ton of panic and I can use my good ole friend vodka to help me out.
Sorry for the long diatribe, love this group, would be happy to hear any advice/stories of things that are new and awesome when... keep reading on reddit ➡
I have a mix of 3a/3b curls, I haven't heat treated it in over 2 years and never bleached or coloured my hair, so it's extremely soft curls to the extent where I lose definition within 10 hours. Should I use harder gels? All my hair products are curl friendly. Please give me suggestions for long lasting definition and if I could make my hair less soft yet healthy. XD