Hello fellow cat moms& dads! I'm currently being a worrywart to my 4 year-old tabby. My bf tells me I'm overreacting but I can't help but be anxious. Love this floof so much. As I've said in the title, he's lost weight. He was a chonker before. From 12 lbs (November 2019) to 10.6 lbs (May 2020). The vet took his blood for some tests and the results came back perfect. He wants us to come back in a month to check if he's continually losing weight. Just a few important details, we got a kitten back in November and we can tell that it definitely stressed him out at first. Also, some changes in his feeding habits I used to feed him 1 pouch in the morning & 1 at night - which resulted to him being chonkers. So we cut his food down to 60-70% of the wet food pouch and we give the remaining to the new kitten PLUS they are free fed with dry food. I noticed the weight loss around March-April. His litter box habits are normal. He likes hiding in my closet ever since we got him 2 years ago so we don't see that as anything unusual. He also vomits his food sometimes but we chalk it up to eating too much or too fast.
So, I know that 10.6 lbs isn't necessarily considered underweight and maybe im just overreacting because he was a chonker before we got the kitten and it's possible that he's just getting a lot of exercise from running around and playing with our kitten but what really concerns me is seeing him do the gulping thing? What could be the reason for that?
If anyone has any explanation for this, I'd appreciate the advice. I love my cat so much and he's only 4 years old. I want to keep him around for a long time :(
So this all started over the summer. Smoked every night, woke up in the morning with little to no appetite. By dinner time my appetite was usually better.
More time passed and on top of the weight and appetite loss I started to get diarrhea. At first it was mild but then it became painful and crampy. I didn't take a single normal shit for like a month - diarrhea every time.
It ended up getting really bad so I went to a GI doc. They gave me an endoscopy and everything was normal except for some mild gastritis.
I took a 1 week tolerance break and everything got better.
After that 1 week I started smoking again and noticed the effects coming back.
Then I took a 2 month T-break. I started vaping again and after 2-3 weeks I noticed the preliminary stages of the effects again.
I'm not sure if this is Cannabinoid Hypermeses Syndrome since I don't have any vomiting. I think it might have something to do with how I smoke. I vape through a bong (Boundless CFX with waterpipe adapter - highly recommend btw) and I exhale through a sploofy and never really cough.
Oh well, pew pew pew.
Hey, I am a 15M, currently wanting to do crosscountry, I weigh about 156.5 lbs as of today, I want to be able to get in shape and lose some fat, mainly in my thighs and my manboobs, I play quite a bit of TeamFortress2(about 2 or so hours) I have golf on most weekdays 3:30-6 and church on sundays-9-12 what can I do that doesnt take up much more than an hour a day, but can get me to lose weight and get in good running shape
Age: 10 years
Sex/Neuter status: Neutered male
Breed: Side walk special. Black and white coloring.
Body weight: 5 kgs
History: Good health, very big and robust but nervous disposition. No serious past illnesses.
Clinical signs: Weight loss, loss of condition, slight discoloration of mouth, bad breath, constipated, possibly dehydrated.
My cat had a bad scare a couple of days ago (thanks to our neighbors) and subsequently stopped eating regularly. He's a nervous boy. That, combined with summer weight loss, meant he dropped quite a bit of weight in the last 2 days.
Having once lost a cat to liver issues, I'm always on the alert.
His urine was quite dark and his breath began to smell. He showed no interest in eating or drinking and didn't use the litter box.
To prevent dehydration, I started to dropper-feed him water regularly and he perked up immediately.
His breath is much better now, his urine is much lighter and he's more lively and playful.
He did finally have a bowel movement but the turd was hard and dry. His mouth is still somewhat discolored.
He also resumed eating - he turned up his nose at anything but Fancy Feast mixed with water (won't eat anything else right now.) But he still remains under-weight.
I don't want him to damage his liver or kidneys.
Because of New Year/ the weekend, our nearest vet is closed and we don't have a car to take him elsewhere.
How can I ensure his liver and kidneys will be okay until we can get him to the vet next week and how do I make sure he gets sufficient nutrition if he's off his feed?
Duration: 2 - 3 days
Your general location: SA
Age: 8 1/2 years
Sex/Neuter status: Male/Neutered
Breed: German Shepherd
Body weight: 70 (90-100ibs when at normal weight)
History: Giardia when he was 7 1/2. Was treated and tested negative in follow up exam. Never recovered from weight loss and later found to have possible cancerous nodules on spleen and digestive tracts.
Clinical signs: Weight Loss, Loss of appetite, Diarrhea
Duration: 1 1/2 years
Your general location: Central Texas
Soon after being treated for Giardia I had to leave for military training and placed bodey in my sisters hands. She took great care of him but he was still gradually losing weight and was unable to regain his appetite. After further tests, he was found to have several large nodules around his spleen and surrounding organs. We were given several very expensive follow on options from the specialist Bodey was taken to but was verbally told that if it was cancer (which they said it very likely was) then it was too far along to be treatable and that they didn't expect him to live past 2-3 months at the rate he was going. We decided that we would simply give him the best 2-3 months we could. It has been just over a year since then and he has been doing surprisingly well under the care of my sister. She fed him a strict diet of boiled chicken, rice, spirulina, and cottage cheese. He seemed to keep an appetite for all this food and was able to maintain an average weight of about 75-80ibs.
Side Note: He lived with 2 other large dogs for several months and regularly ate normal dog food when the other dogs would eat as well. He moved out about a month ago and is now once again with just my sister. He also has always been a very calm relaxed dog but is always energetic and excited to run or play. His attitude and energy levels have not changed. Only his appetite and weight.
He just recently has lost his appetite for all food and is once again starting to lose weight. I am returning home from training in a week now and my sister and I are considering our options. We are unsure if we should spend the money on more tests to see how bad his condition has become or if it is a lost cause and we should focus on giving him as comfortable of a passing as possible.
I was able to come to terms with my boy passing while I would be away from him but I have now been gaining more and more hope that he was somehow able to fight through everything and would be able to spend several more years with me. I am really just looking... keep reading on reddit ➡
That's it. I'm pissed, it was supposed to be a proud moment and now I'm just creeped out. Dudes, even if the picture showed my body (this doesn't justify anything but I was dressed in both pictures), it was not a fuckin invitation. That's all.
Edit : Dudes trying to make me understand that it's the internet and that this behavior is to be expected... You really don't get it do you? Read the other comments here porfavor. This is an issue girls face everywhere, even irl. And as long as it affects us to the point we don't feel safe, why should I fuckin shut up? Look at the bigger picture, go read a book or leave us alone.
Edit 2 : I am not "playing" the fuckin victim, I am telling what happened and how I felt about it.
Edit 3 : This will be my final edit. A little trilogy like Lord of the Rings. So I didn't expect this post to get this much attention. I legit just wanted to address a problem we women face every day, internet or no. As you can guess, I'm receiving lovely messages like "you fuckin whore" and "you need dick" in private. I wondered if I should just delete the whole thing, but considering how many women here resonate with what happened to me and share stories way more disgusting than mine, I will keep it online. People need to know if they don't already. Women, never stop talking. Never.
I have been noticing with quarantine/lock-down situations that we have been seeing a higher number of teens (14-18) looking for weight loss help. As most of us are adults here, we know that teens require more calories as they're still growing than what an adult with similar stats would. I'd like to use this post as a starting point for us as a community to promote and encourage HEALTHY and SUSTAINABLE habits for these teens, without shutting them down, downvoting them or suggesting deficits that are only appropriate for adults.
I honestly have like 10 more of these posts, 16F, 15F, 17F, 17F, 18F, 14M, 15M, 16M, 14F, 14M, 17M. These posts are all from just the last few days. Whether we think these kids should be asking us for help or not, they are and for some of them, we're their only option. While medical advice is actively discouraged and against the rules of many health-related subs, t... keep reading on reddit ➡
So this just happened last week and I want to know if I am the AH.
Me (22F) and my friend (23f) decided we wanted to lose weight we both decided to just naturally bring in healthy alternatives to our diet and exercise and we both tried fad diets and failed every time.
We started this around the new year and I’ve continued to make sure to do the little things and ended up going down from an obese bmi to a overweight bmi, I know there is more work to do but I’m pretty happy with my results and showed off to Instagram.
So here is why I might be the AH:
My friend hasn’t been doing as well with her weight loss through no fault of her own, I did know this and have been trying to help her with things I’ve found work for me. I suggested maybe seeing a doctor as she really cannot shift the weight and I do wonder if it may be medical related, she got defensive about needing a doctor so I left it at that.
Then came the photo. As I said I posted my results to Instagram and she calls me crying saying I know how hard it is for her and I shouldn’t be flaunting my success in her face. I just wanted to show off how proud I am but now I feel like an AH because I did have it in the back of my mind that she may get upset.
So reddit AITA for posting my progress picture even though I knew my friends weight struggles?
A guy calls a company and orders their 5-day, 5lbs weight loss program.
The next day, there's a knock on the door and there stands before him a voluptuous, athletic, 19 year old babe dressed in nothing but a pair of Nike running shoes and a sign around her neck..
She introduces herself as a representative of the weight loss company. The sign reads, "If you can catch me, you can have me."
Without a second thought, he takes off after her. A few miles later puffing and puffing, he finally gives up. The same girl shows up for the next four days and the same thing happens. On the fifth day, he weighs himself and is delighted to find he has lost 5lbs as promised.
He calls the company and orders their 5-day/10lbs program. The next day there's a knock at the door and there stands the most stunning, beautiful, sexy woman he has ever seen in his life. She is wearing nothing but Reebok running shoes and a sign around her neck that reads, "If you catch me you can have me".
Well, he's out the door after her like a shot. This girl is in excellent shape and he does his best, but no such luck. So for the next four days, the same routine happens with him gradually getting in better and better shape.
Much to his delight on the fifth day when he weighs himself, he discovers that he has lost another 10lbs as promised. He decides to go for broke and calls the company to order the 7-day/25 lbs program.
"Are you sure?" asks the representative on the phone. "This is our most rigorous program." "Absolutely," he replies, "I haven't felt this good in years."
The next day there's a knock at the door; and when he opens it he finds a huge muscular guy standing there wearing nothing but pink running shoes and a sign around his neck that reads, "If I catch you, you are mine."
I (F23) started working at my current job right out of college in September. When I started working there I probably weighed around 135 pounds (I'm 5'3"). So I was healthy but a little bit on the bigger side.
Since then, I've lost about 30 pounds. The thing is that I didn't really intend to lose weight or work towards it, my lifestyle just changed a lot. In college I was a swimmer but after I started working I started running instead. I also lost my taste for a lot of sweet and processed foods, and I started working out more too. I really didn't try to lose any weight, it just happened.
This week was my first week back in the office. One of my colleagues (F30s) is on the larger side. She's been working with me since I started.
Today I was getting a snack from the break room and she came up to me and we started chatting.
A little in our conversation she expressed that she admired my weight loss and asked me how I had lost so much in only a couple of months. I told her basically what I wrote above.
She kept insisting I tell her my secret, and I kept telling her that I didn't have one. After a couple of minutes of me politely trying to shut down the conversation, she said that I obviously had a secret, and that I just didn't want to tell her because I wanted to be the prettiest woman in the office. At this point I snapped and told her my weight was none of her business and that she needed to leave me alone.
She's been giving me the cold shoulder since, and so has one of her close friends who also works with us. AITA?
F23 5'8 SW: 325 CW 235 GW 160 (I have PCOS as well!)
I made this alt account with the cheeky name in January (started my journey 1/17/20) and it's strange how time has flown. In January I was seriously depressed, had symptoms of pre-diabetes/diabetes from the thick grey skin on my feet, itchy extremities such as the ankles, some acanthosis nigricans, frequent stinky urination, and constant exhaustion. My feet and back hurt when I washed the dishes for a few minutes. When I weighed in on the 17th, I saw exactly 325.0 lbs on the scale I felt the perfectness of the number was a call to action to start.
So yes, it was imperative to reverse potential diabetes and I feel that was what helped me really focus.
Before you ask about progress pics, I do have a starting one. BUT, the screen of my phone (iPhone) broke a few months ago. The phone works, but the screen doesn't, so I don't know if I can get my starting pics off of it unless I fix it (have a new phone) and since I don't think I backed photos up. If you have any tips, do let me know. I probably will just have to fix the phone.
Then when COVID hit, I got even more serious. I live in the Northeast US which had a lot of cases. When it was surging, I was waking up at 6 am and going for 2 hour walks before most people got up. It felt like everyday would be the last day I could go out (fearing a total shutdown) so it focused me even more for the next couple months. I was also really focused on eating healthy despite everything (froze meat, eggs, cheese, yogurt, fruit, frozen vegetables). I knew the risks of obesity and COVID and I was laser focused to get the weight off due to the increase mortality rates for morbidly obese people like me.
But I want to remark it's impossible to be perfect and it's something that ended up costing me a lot of time looking back. I have come to realize I struggle with binge eating. I am not really a spontaneous overeater and don't really have trouble with portion control, but I crave the out of control feeling of binges. I actually had two cheat days that turned into a 3 week binge and a 3.5 week binge (second binge was definitely a oh, you've bounced back from a 3 week binge fast, you can keep going). That's 6.5 weeks out of these 6 months + the collective 2.5 weeks it took me to re-lose the weight. That's when I realized being perfect rarely ever works out. Adding more balance has really helped me :)
But yeah, I have nobody I want to share this with. I'm extremely privat... keep reading on reddit ➡
Throwaway because you never know.
The other night I was hanging out with my (23M) girlfriend Erica (20F) and a couple of her friends on my deck so we were spaced out. Erica was doing an academic year abroad starting in August of 2019 and was supposed to end in June 2020, though she came back in March for obvious reasons. Her friends were asking her some questions about her time abroad and she was raving about the food and how good her host mother was at cooking.
I offhanded said something like "yeah haha I could tell you liked the food a lot" in a sort of joke-y way, nothing mean about it. She gained probably 5-10 lbs while abroad, but then almost immediately lost it when she came back to her normal lifestyle. I've never known her to be sensitive about her appearance or body, which is one of the many reasons I like her. Anyway, she kind of frowned when I said that and asked what I meant. I just said that she had gained a little weight but it was whatever to me because she still looked cute and I knew she'd lose it, and if she didn't know how I'd be willing to help her lose the weight because that's just the kind of guy I am.
Her friends then started piling on calling me an AH and how rude that was. Erica is kind of shy and timid, especially with her girl friends so she didn't say anything to defend me though obviously (to me it was obvious) she knew I wasn't insulting her but complimenting her on her motivation and perseverance for a healthy lifestyle. It was kind of awkward after that so Erica left with her friends and said she was tired and felt like she should be getting home. I texted her when I knew she'd be home but she said she didn't feel like talking and just wanted to go to bed. The next day I saw her friend's instagram story that she was in so obviously she didn't "just go to bed" and I'm wondering if I screwed up here or if she was just trying to fit in with her friends or what.
I always bought double lunches in school. If I didn't take 3 helpings for dinner my mother would ask me if I was sick, or if I didn't like it, a question that bore the full weight of her depression. I was skinny child before about the first grade, but youthful energy fades and youthful eating habits don't and by the time I was in sixth grade I was barely the right weight for an age appropriate pee wee football team. By high school I was just the funny fat kid. I saw my pediatrician for the last time after my freshman year of college and he told me that at the rate I was going my weight would impact my lifespan. I was 300lb. It was a wake call.
Before I went back school he set me up to have a quick rundown with a nutritionist. When I got back to school I started walking, first up the street, then around the block, then around the neighborhood, then mixing in a little running. I started parking in a far lot on purpose. I switched to mostly salads and crashed out the first 50 lbs. I was scared. I started letting myself eat a little more normally after that but I couldn't eat as much, my stomach just wasn't as stretched out. I spent a few years after college working in warehouses which ticked off a bunch more pounds and brought me to where I am now. I tend now to stay between 174 and 184 depending on my stress levels (I'm a teacher and in grad school, so I'm on the higher end right now).
Don't beat yourself if you slip we're all trying to be as healthy as we can. I don't think I'll ever be free of my little paunch, oh well. I've taken up middle distance running in the last few years but had some injuries due to under-stretching, which brings me to the reason for this post. For the first time in since probably 3rd grade I can touch my toes, I CAN TOUCH MY TOES!
I lost a lot of weight (over 100lbs) in a short period of time, I understand it can take some getting used to, but I'm very tired of the comments.
I am a 24 year old guy, this kind of shit doesn't usually bother me but I can't seem to go a single day at work without some comment about my weight loss. It's been non stop since we reopened after lockdown.
Here are some of the rumours about me: I have cancer, I have aids, I'm on drugs.
I'm tired of it. Yes I'm quite skinny now, but no one was "concerned" about me when I was fat! It's all fake, they don't actually care, it's just gossip to them. There are plenty other people at work that are my weight or thinner, and no one cares!
A couple of coworkers seem legitimately concerned, but they were more polite. Even then I still get annoyed because my weight is quite frankly nobody's business but mine. People will bring me food from the vending machines and stare at me when I eat and it makes me nervous. I'm on a strict diet because obviously I have to MAINTAIN my weight loss, I can't just eat chocolate bars.
Yesterday one of the more gossipy ones, an older lady in her 50s, approached me in front of everyone telling me she was concerned I wasn't healthy and I wasn't able to do my job.
I'm perfectly able to do my job. I angrily told her it was none of her business and that if there were issues with how I was doing the job someone higher up would tell me. She then asked me straight up if I was using drugs. I yelled at her "I'm not on drugs and I don't have cancer either. Is a fat person losing weight really this shocking to you?" I then I turned to everyone watching and said if they make one more comment I'm going to HR.
Since then people have been kind of avoiding me and I wonder if I dealt with it too harshly. My only friend left at work said that people felt a bit uneasy around me and they thought I was overly aggressive.
***EDIT: I'm going to HR today, will update. To people that were concerned about me, I'm going to go to a doctor and see if my weight has affected my health.
I have been growing ever more concerned at seeing the prevalence of teenagers asking for weight loss advice in this subreddit, and being offered advice from people who are not doctors or dieticians that could be detrimental to a teenagers nutrition and growth.
Yes, obesity isn't healthy, and yes there are healthy ways for teens to lose extra weight if they need to, but in a broad sense most of the posters on this subreddit are not qualified or knowledgeable in the specifics of what is safe for a growing teenager.
I have seen people recommending keto, and other diets where you severely restrict a macronutrient, to 14 year olds. I have seen posts where a teenage OP clearly mentions classic symptoms of disordered eating, getting advice on how to continue to lose weight. I repeatedly see advice that may be fine for a full grown adult but is downright dangerous for teenagers. And I see advice that doesn't take into account height, current weight, activity level, and definitely not growth.
In children and teens a severe reduction in caloric intake can be associated with growth deceleration. There are long term health risks associated with poor nutrition during teen years, such as amenorrhea, long term fertility issues, osteoporosis, osteopenia and many more. And the most common age of onset of anorexia and bullimia is between the ages of 12-25.
There is also mounting evidence in studies to show that self led dieting (especially patterns of repeat failed dieting) in teens can actually set up a pattern of disordered eating that can persist well into adulthood, and although studies on this are yet to be fully conclusive, it still seems something worth considering.
I propose that in order to stop potentially damaging, triggering and dangerous advice being offered to teens, that this sub becomes a place where only over 18s can ask for advice, and the only advice offered to posters under that age be perhaps a pre-prepared statement that recommends that they seek advice from their GP and/or a dietician, and perhaps some links to support websites for eating disorders.
I mean this post as no judgement on this subreddit. I have seen invaluable advice and support shared between members and I read here often, but I do feel very strongly that in the case of children and teens, they need very specialist advice that we are not qualified to give them, and it can potentially be dangerous if we try.
Thankyou for reading.
Stats: 5’8”F, SW:207, CW: 163, GW: 140
I started losing in mid February because I’d realised quite how overweight I had become, and I was wearing a UK size eighteen. I live alone in my own apartment and I have a kitchen to myself and full control over what I buy, what goes in the cupboards, etc.
I found it surprisingly easy. I counted calories to 1500 a day, I cooked loads, and started to incorporate some exercise, finally taking up running once I hit a healthy BMI and knew I wouldn’t be putting too much strain on my knees. I lost 40lbs in just over three months.
And then, I moved to my parents’ for a month during quarantine, to have someone to be with. I still tried to count calories. I still cooked. I took up running and began running 30mins a day. And despite all that, I plateaued. Couldn’t break 170. Then I gained two pounds. Then I got sick, and lost it again. After a while, I realised: the reason weight loss had been so easy up until that point for me was because I had the ability to be self-centred, in a way. I could focus on every nutrient, every calorie that was going in my food. I could eat whatever size meal, whenever I wanted, so some days I could ‘save up’ calories and have a big dinner. At my parents’, that all changed. Suddenly I was cooking for five people, including three big, hungry men. Suddenly, I didn’t know if my mum had added a couple of tbsp of oil into my salad without me noticing. Suddenly, there was a lot more food around. And it was so much harder. Suddenly, I had to have three ‘proper’ meals a day, so I couldn’t have a snacky lunch and a big dinner. And it turns out you can’t cook an egg on toast for a big hungry Greek man for his lunch.
All of this is to say that I think people like me need to understand that in a perfect world, weight loss IS easy: just count and see the scale go down. However, so many have complicated family lives: kids, overweight parents who don’t eat well, university or school cafeterias to contend with, less money to buy healthier food, etc. And this DOES make it so much harder. I can’t imagine how frustrating trying to lose weight must be if you’re young and your parents cook unhealthy food for you. I remember from my time at boarding school (picture a hogwarts feast! Jk, but there was a LOT of stodgy British food) how hard I tried and how it didn’t work. I’m sure this isn’t exactly a new revelation to most people. But I need to try to be kind, and thankful for the control I have.
Eventually I... keep reading on reddit ➡
On mobile, also this may be quite long.
Hi reddit, so i’m a 16 yr old and for quite literally all my life ive been overweight for my age. I don’t know what it feels like to be healthy, to be able to run fast without being tired. Any of that. I’m 5’6 and the last time i weighed myself I was close to 195 lbs, i’m probably 200+ now. I want to be at least like, maybe 130/120 pounds? I have no idea where to start my weight loss journey.
A few things to note
• I have very little self control with food, i cant really tell when im hungry and will just eat randomly. I eat very unhealthily too and dont know how to stop. Im more of a “out of sight, out of mind” type of person but it still fails. My mother also randomly buys fast food for me(even if i dont ask)and ive told her to stop buying junk food before but she still buys it, so ive given up trying to make her stop buying that kind of food
• I don’t know how to exercise to lose weight efficiently. My parent’s won’t let me get a nutritionist, or someone that can help analyze what I need to be working on. What kind of workout routines would help the most? I want to lose a ton of weight to reach my goal, but I also wanna be tone as hell lol. Also, If i lost a lot of weight, would I have loose skin no matter what?
• i have mental illnesses, one of them being depression. I want to work to change my body, but my lack of motivation and self confidence(and other, various symptoms of depression) makes it easy for me to give up way too easily. I really don’t know what to do about this.
That’s all. I don’t have many irl resources, so I was hoping I could get some help here. Any advice would be amazing. I just really, really, want to change. I’m so tired of being like this. I want to see myself being healthy
(Another note: i also read the “I don’t know where to start!” Thing that the auto mod will comment and even though it gave good advice, it felt a little too vague for someone like me. I’d still appreciate some advice from other people :D )
Edit: I wanted to say i’m still new to reddit so navigating through all the comments has gotten a bit confusing lol. Because of this I might not respond to every comment and if I don’t respond to yours please know I still read it and appreciate all of your advice!
Edit 2: hi all, I wanna apologize to the mods for not reading the rules thoroughly enough and potentially breaking a few rules. Wasnt my intention, i’ll read rules/faq more carefully from now on :(. I also read eve... keep reading on reddit ➡
GF and I been together about 8 Months. A couple years before meeting her, I used to be very overweight and unnattractive. I was around 286lbs and didn't put any effort into my appearance. Obviously dating was an area I struggled with, partly from my own self esteem issues but mostly the fact that I looked undesirable to most women.
At some point I just decided to lose the weight and work on my appearance to help my chances of getting a girlfriend. I put in a lot of effort over a long period of time to get myself into shape and make myself look presentable. I wanted to be someone that a girl wouldn't be ashamed to call her boyfriend. Any girl who was willing to sleep with me deserved better than to have to look at the mess that was my shirtless body.
And I am happy to say I succeeded in my goal. About 3 years on I now weigh 202lbs and feel great. I grew my hair out and started styling it, I put a lot of effort into my clothes, shoes, cologne, etc. And to my delight I got noticeably a lot more attention on dating apps. I definitely wasn't crushing it but I was actually getting matches which was huge for me. And ultimately that led to me meeting and dating my now girlfriend.
She had no idea how heavy I used to be, up until a couple days ago. Someone shared an old photo of me and some friends, when I was at my biggest. She was blown away by how far I had come and was so proud of me how much weight I lost. We got talking about motivation and how I did it. I was honest, and told her that my sole motivation was improve my chances with women and get a girlfriend. This didn't go down well.
She said that she found that hard to respect my weight loss for such a shallow and superficial reason. She also says she feels like she might just be a trophy to me as a way to pat myself on the back for my accomplishments, and worries if I actually consider our relationship as a genuine one or just a status symbol.
I realise now I shouldn't have said that (I got a lot of shit from a few friends about my motivation when I first started too), but I genuinely love her and am fully invested in this relationship. How do I talk to her about this and make her realise that I am sincere about our relationship? I haven't had a chance to speak to her since she found out about it, and she is currently away visiting her sister but I am going to try and see her when she's back on Sunday.
I’ve been seeing a lot of new moms posting their back to pre-baby weight body pictures up here and I remember when I was pregnant they made me so anxious, not inspired at all. A lot of them talked about the great diet they were following afterwards, but not all. I just want to impress upon people looking at these that for the most part that weight loss is random and genetic. I know people who ate terribly and were almost immediately back to their pre-baby body and I know people who calorie counted and exercised and they held onto the weight for a long time. I just want to say that either one is fine. Much like how stretch marks are mostly genetic, even though there are a thousand products out there to fix them, this post baby weight loss may not be something you can control as much as you want to either. Of course you can influence it, and I hope that those posts give people hope, but I don’t want anyone to feel like a failure if they’re not losing weight right away because it’s likely not your fault, and in a lot of cases it’s not because of strict diet and exercise that anyone looks good 1-2 weeks out - diet won’t affect you that quickly. Set reasonable goals and love yourself <3
A lot of people say that I developed a jawline from losing weight (dropped 100lbs) but that's not true. Here's some progress pics.
This pic is my drivers license photo before I lost weight. Double chin, neck rolls, and facial asymmetry (look at my left eye)
This is me after losing ~60lbs. Neck rolls are gone but no jawline and face still uneven.
This is me after the full weight loss. My skin got lighter because I started using black seed oil, home made coffee scrubs, and turmeric masks to fix the skin damage caused by my diet and environmental factors. I still had a double chin AND still no jawline! I was around 25 here.
This is after around 1 year of mewing. I saw results around the first month. My friends and family really saw a difference at 4-6 months. I get a ton of compliments now and my self esteem is pretty good. I'm less shy when it comes to talking to girls, and feel much more confident when going to job interviews and approaching professors during my post grad.
My skin is healthier and I don't get acne anymore. My only goal was to get rid of acne, hyper-pigmentation and uneven skin tone. My skin got lighter as a byproduct of my routine and was not intended. I use an all natural skin regimen and I did not use any skin bleaching products because we should all love our skin color and not try to make ourselves whiter just for a skin color change.
I have my skin routine and mewing video on my YouTube and I came to this sub because a ton of my YouTube subscribers told me to post here. Thank you for your time.
You can find my channel and my mewing/weightloss/skin video here: https://www.youtube.com/ironlionfitness
Everyone who suffers with disordered eating is valid, and does not need to 'prove' that their disorder is 'bad' enough to be considered valid.
But shoutout to those people whose weight loss was praised and they were encouraged to keep losing, which only lead to them becoming more and more disordered. Eating disorders are a mental problem. They do not have a certain BMI or weight that you have to reach for your mental illness to become serious enough for treatment. You're seen, you're valid, and you are supported in recovery.
Hi everyone! I’m a 27 year old mother of 2, 5’4 and 232 lbs. My entire life I have been overweight/obese and I am TRYING to lose weight and I’m so frustrated. In the past even with calorie deficit and increased, purposeful cardio I watch as the scale barely budges and my weight loss stalls after a few weeks. This round (round 756 of trying to lose weight, it feels like) I have structured my macros so I am eating less than 50g of carbs a day at 1700 calories. I lost 5 lbs in 2 weeks and then stalled out completely despite continuing to measure my food, calories AND macros. I’m sick of it, I feel like I will never lose weight. I have never been skinny, never been proud of my body. I hide in baggy clothing and just wish one day I will have the body of my dreams. I am taking lexapro, I started in March. I didn’t notice much of a weight gain from it but I figured I’d toss that in here just in case. Please...what else can I do about my foods that will help me lose weight. I talked to a doctor once and expressed all of this and she said I’m too stressed and the cortisol is causing me to hang onto my weight. She offered no solution other than relaxing (I was in school full time, work full time, and taking care of my first born alongside my husband). Even though I’m less busy I still am having the same trouble...thanks for reading my novel.
ETA: I am nursing my one year old, I have never had high blood pressure or diabetes even while pregnant, and currently I’ve cut grains like rice pasta and even potatoes (starch) from my diet
I met a couple of girlfriends the other night for drinks. We were chatting about whatever, and I mentioned something about having lost weight recently. Since I last saw them, I had gained probably 3 or 4 kilos, then lost 6. At my heaviest I was borderline obese, I'm now halfway in the overweight category. I have lost weight using cico and some IF, and not being hugely strict, cheat days at weekends usually. Healthy eating, cut down on alcohol and no processed food. I didn't tell these friends about fasting, I just said I ate healthier and watched what I ate and cut back on alcohol.
Earlier that night, we had pizza and I didn't say anything about not being able to have it, I just ate it and we were drinking wine all night.
So when I mentioned weight loss they totally lost it. They told me this was so wrong that I thought I needed to lose weight, I should love myself, I'd be hot no matter what size, I should accept myself and I was crazy to think I was ever overweight. I'm still overweight. I was borderline obese and I was miserable then and hated my body. Now after losing nearly half the weight, I'm pretty happy. I feel pretty confident in my skin but I want to lose more to get rid of the flab, and my back rolls. But I'm starting to wear nicer clothes again and feel attractive. I told them I'm not depriving myself, I don't hate myself, and I think I look good but I know where I want to be. I've been slimmer before and it was better. I also want to be healthier. This isn't a confidence thing. I want to be healthier, to cut my risks of diseases and my risks to do with starting a family. If there is even a tiny excess risk of having a baby that hasn't had the best start in life that I can give it, then I would feel like a total piece of shit.
They howled at me that that's so wrong, there's nothing wrong with my size, I should love myself. The fuck! I said I do love myself but I'm so much happier now that I'm slimmer. By the way, these girls are both considerably smaller than me. They have great figures and are also a few years older than me. (I'm in my 30s)
I argued and argued, and said stuff like I'm fine now and not really trying to lose more just eating healthy (a lie to shut them up, I do want to lose more but I am eating healthy). I said I never restrict my food much or go hungry (true) and that the main thing that I've done is improve my diet and decrease alcohol consumption.
They would not listen. I argued at the time and eventually gave up and... keep reading on reddit ➡
Hi all! I’m 31F, 5’8” and not feeling my best right now at around 172 lb. Last spring I was at 157 lb, felt pretty lean and good, but got a little too lax over the winter and after my wedding.
I guess my stretch goal would be to get into the upper 140’s, but I would describe myself as having a more athletic body type and don’t know how realistic that feels. For now, I would feel way better if I could at least be in the upper 150’s again.
I am a really active person (mostly running and cycling, occasionally yoga), but my issue is with eating. I have gotten much better over the past 4 years or so with mindless snacking, but I am aware that I’m an emotional eater and have used food to soothe myself in the past. I am much better at practicing moderation now, and try not to deprive myself of any specific foods. However, I am a long distance runner currently training for my 4th marathon, and for us, food is not only fuel for the body but also critical for training. In the past I have gained weight during marathon training because all the running increases my appetite.
So, my question is, how to balance weight loss while you’re also trying to adequately fuel for intense training? When I feel hungry, how do you know that your body really needs the fuel vs a craving for something that I don’t need? Any tips or advice or personal anecdotes would be appreciated!
I graduated college last year, and I used my graduation as a way to turn my life around. I had the resources to take some time off to work on myself, so I did. Since I graduated I put my 200% into my health.
I started small, simple things like removing all liquid calories, drinking water only which I now do 2 gallons a day (give or take of the activities I done in the day), then started counting calories for a deficit (from 2800 all the way down to 1500-1300), started doing more activities as I got more comfortable (walking dog 10 minutes, which later turn to an hour, then speed walking, jogging, jumping rope, and now bike riding), I tried different methods to improve my weight loss such as IF, OMAD, Prolonged Fasting, etc. I started working out at home with a pair of adjustable dumbbells, 4 resistance bands and my own bodyweight.
I never did any of the above all at once, I gradually started something as the previous became part of the norm.
Now, I understand I am SUPER lucky to be in the position where I was able to give myself much needed time to basically change my life around, no kids / responsibilities etc and able to focus solely on myself.
She has done this to me pretty much since I lost the first 40 or 50 pounds. Would give herself the excuse that I only did it because X and she cannot do it. Since the beginning I have TOLD HER I understand where she is coming from, but she does NOT HAVE TO LOOK AT ME FOR INSPIRATION.
I have seen COUNTLESS of parents, people with X amount of responsibilities lose over 100 pounds on this sub and others. I literally show her posts of people similar to her base stats / circumstance which have given me plenty of encouragement to keep going.
She knows I been applying to jobs left and right, but this covid19 thing isn't exactly doing me any favors.
I get it, I had it easy but that doesn't diminish the effort I have put on myself to teach myself things I had seriously no idea before. I gained some much needed discipline and self control, and I know for a fact OTHERS have done as well with a crap ton of responsibilities.
I think it doesn't matter if you lost 5 or 50 pounds, if your situation is worse than mine, I think we are all ultimately doing the best we can to be a better version of ourselves at the end of the day.
Happy cake day to me! It has officially been a year since I made this account, weighed myself for the first time and started counting calories!
I went from 80kg down to 63kg, 17kg lost. I learned so much about health and how to maintain not only good health but so many good habits. Here's some tips.
Track your calories. Even if it's in a gentle way. It doesn't have to be completely accurate. What I mean by that is, is that nowadays I still weigh my food, but I round it up to the closest (usually higher) number. Then I just write it down on my note app and leave it at that. Like let's say I cut up a pear and weigh it. It comes out as 100g. I look up the calories for it online, and it's 57kcals. Then I round it up to 60, write it on a noteapp, and that's it. It literally does not need to be harder than that.
Exercise. People might not realize, but even going on a walk every evening is enough to keep your body well off. Gentle movement and getting up and doing things is really the corner stone to being able to eat a bit more, not feeling too restricted and keeping your NEAT (non exercise activity thermogenesis) up and running. Adding some youtube workouts or yoga couple of times a week can be really useful for getting your blood flowing. Strength training is super useful, but I personally don't really care about the body altering of it. I have noticed so many physiological benefits from working my core and legs, from being able to walk up hill easier and squatting down to pick things up or even balance thanks to my improved core strength. I aim for 2 times a week of strength training, and it is honestly enough if your goal is just to maintaing strength and have a strong body for every day tasks.
Nutrition. After changing to eating mostly whole foods, with loads of fruit and veggies, I was able to start stressing less about only calories and focus more on the quality of my food. I still almost daily indulge on something "unhealthy" (ice cream, pop corn, chocolate) but moderation is seriously key. Other things I did was almost completely cut out red meat, eat vegeterian friendly foods for breakfast and dinner and have some sort of animal protein for dinner, aim 4 servings of fruit and 5 servings of veg a day (it's not that hard when you realize one medium carrot is a serving), 1 serving of beans a day (I literally just make bean brownies and eat two of them, and that's my serving, they're so delicious, moist and easy to make, highly recommend) a
I’ve lost ~100lbs after being obese for my entire life and am in maintenance now, but there are still little things that surprise me. I never knew that your armpits were supposed to be actual pits! Shaving is so much harder now because they’re actually concave instead of flat. And I’m amazed by how much easier it is just to do normal daily tasks now. I never realized how much effort it took to just get through the day 100lbs ago.