TIFU during shiva after my father passed away

- For those that aren't Jewish, or are Jewish but not familiar, Shiva is part of the mourning process after an immediate family member is buried.

- This happened a several years ago. I was reading a similar TIFU that reminded me of mine. I never used reddit until a bit more recently, so now's a good time to post it I guess.

My dad passed away after battling pancreatic cancer for about 3 years. During that time leading up to that point, he was living with my aunt at her home out of state since she had space and was able to accommodate his needs with nurses coming and going. So, after the burial it made sense for me to sit shiva at her house. During this week, family and friends of my father would come to visit and pay respects. Sometimes just dropping by, sometimes hanging around for a meal and chat a while (since most people would bring some food/snacks). Most of the people were religious friends from synagogues my dad would frequent.

I believe on the 3rd or 4th day of the shiva week I had the idea to set up a monitor and cast a folder of pics on google drive of my dad. It was placed on the kitchen bar counter facing toward the living room. I got it all set up and ready to go, the pictures were scrolling along just fine and after a few minutes I heard one of my dad's friends make a shocked/disgusted noise and I look at the screen in horror - one of my sexytime folders was selected and it was just cycling through those pics. I don't know who all saw, except for him, but nobody said a thing to me (to this day) and honestly I bolted to just turn the monitor around without bothering to see who was looking.

This is something that I can't not think of - usually around the anniversary of his death. It really bums me out, like I really disrespected him or something. I guess maybe getting it off my chest will help....maybe....

TLDR - While setting up chromecast and google drive pics of my dad for mourning ritual, I accidentally managed to also get porn pics added to the slideshow.

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LPT: When someone is mourning a loved one, don’t send flowers. Send food.

When someone is mourning the death of a loved one they have to deal with a million details while suffering terrible grief. The last thing they are thinking about is cooking balanced meals. When someone in my life suffers a loss and I can’t be there in person, I send them a box of steaks. It sounds weird, but hear me out. Flowers are pretty for a few days, then they’re gone. A big box of steaks costs about twice what a flower arrangement does, but instead of being eye candy for a few days it’ll provide a dozen or more meals. That’s a massive help when your whole life just got turned upside-down.

Observant Jews often sit shiva after the death of a loved one. For seven days the immediate family mourn the dead and do no work. It is the responsibility of their extended family, friends, and neighbors to bring them food. I submit that my tradition is in line with that. I can’t be there in person but at least I can make sure you’re eating something besides chalupas and Oreos.

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Might have to travel soon

Hi everyone. It's been a little while. We've had some stuff wrap up at work, and I started going back to the gym but overdid it and have been exhausted. I took the rest of the week to rest and regain some strength, and I'll probably go back at a slower pace next week. In the meantime, no N-stuff. I take that back, I got a call from Ndad about Father's Day, but that's another post for another time.

So here we are. A few days ago, Fiance got a call from NMiL. Of course, he was at work, so he didn't answer. She left a hysterical voicemail, she's screaming and crying and all we can make out is "your grandma" and either hospice or hospital. Fiance calls her back, and not only is she still hysterical, she's also driving. Fiance nope'd out of that situation and told her to talk to him later. We talk about it, he isn't quite sure what to think. On one hand, his grandma is 92 years old and is suffering from dementia, so it could be her time. On the other hand, his mom has a history of blowing these kinds of things out of proportion. Fiance also added that if his grandma was dying, he'd be hearing it from multiple people, and only NMiL has contacted him. We decide to sit tight and see what kind of information we get in the coming days.

Last night, he gets an email from her. "It'll probably be a few days before grandma passes. I'll send you a plane ticket. I hope twoweekvacation will be able to make it as well." WTF? The email continues on, saying that she's so proud of him, he's about to turn 30, he's going to have a beautiful marriage, and she's proud of his courage to move from his hometown to his (and my) current city several states away (???). Definitely made him raise an eyebrow.

So, I ask him if he wants me to go. Fiance asks me if I want to. I tell him that it's his decision, if he wants me to go I'll have to round up the money for a last minute flight. He says that he can ask his mom to pay for one for me. I say NO. Knowing her, she'd probably use it as leverage for something, probably to invite her FM sisters to our wedding. He says that she never said she wouldn't pay for me to come, and that I'm reading too much into the email (am I? I feel like her message was pretty clear but...I don't know). I tell him that I'm still not letting her buy me a ticket. Fiance writes back and tells her that we might not come because tickets might be too expensive. Her response? "You can say its for your grandmothers passing." That pisse

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Are all pagan gods (particularly religions Judaism never had contact with in the Tanakh esp during the Torah) shedim? For example would Shinto spirits and Hindu deities be considered unclean false gods in opposition to Yahweh?

One of the predominating thoughts in fundamentalist Christianity is that pagan gods of the Old Testament were demons in disguise. Its gotten to the point that any time discussion about religion gets involved with cultures that Moses and his descendant Prophets heck the Jews never got into contact with during the Biblical period such as say the Chinese, there is immediate accusation that these cultures' deities are demons posing as humanoid divine beings.

I cannot tell you how many blogs there are out there by Christian fundamentalists accusing Shiva and the Hindu gods as demonic entities or videos on Youtube proclaiming Buddha is a servant of Satan (under the wrong assumption that Siddartha Guatma is worshipped as the God of Buddhism), etc with frequent citation of Deuteronomy 32:17 and Psalm 106:37 as proof.

With that said I am curious on the Jewish pov? Is Shedim correctly translated as demons like most English translations of the bible state the verses?

Or is there so much misunderstanding on shedim and "demonology" of Judaism by Christians? If shedim is correctly translated as demons, do they apply to all other Gods including Amaterasu, Mithras, Ganesh, Zeus, the Trinity of Christianity, and Allah (even if Muslims and Christian believe they are the same as Yahweh)? Or are they only region-specific around Israel and the border countries around her today?

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Translation of a Korean Genshin Impact User's Theory on Real World Religion & Mythology in Genshin

Disclaimer: I have absolutely 0 contribution in this discussion as the only thing I merely did is to translate (as close to word-to-word as I could) the thoughts of this user. Also, the discrepancies between English and Korean translations may cause some confusion, which I tried to mitigate by revising certain parts/omitting unnecessary parts.

This post is a little different compared to other ones in that instead of analyzing lore in Genshin, we are going to be looking at religions and mythologies that Genshin was inspired by.

Original Link: https://gall.dcinside.com/mgallery/board/view/?id=onshinproject&no=546256

1st Post (Mondstadt and Venti): https://www.reddit.com/r/Genshin_Impact/comments/mr7tem/translation_of_korean_genshin_impact_users_theory/

2nd Post (Khaenri'ah and Teyvat): https://www.reddit.com/r/Genshin_Impact/comments/mm54yl/translation_of_a_korean_genshin_impact_users/

5th Post (Alchemy and Khaenri'ah): https://www.reddit.com/r/Genshin_Impact/comments/mmgh9y/translation_of_a_korean_genshin_impact_users/

1. Norse Mythology

1-1. Khaenri'ah

As mentioned in the second post, Khaenri'ah seems to be based on dwarves of Norse mythology.

Coupled with the fact that Kaeya is heavily hinted at being a descendant of a royal family, as shown by Mona's voiceline on Kaeya.

>Kaeya Alberich? He's a Pavo Ocellus. Destined for greatness and grandeur... and to hide ugly realities behind a layer of charm and elegance. He believes he has made a clean break with his past, but one day fate will catch up with him. When it does, he will have a major decision to make.
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>- Mona, About Kaeya

Mona mentions that Kaeya will have to make a major decision in the future, but we'll talk about this some other day.

1-2. Mondstadt

Mondstadt relation to Norse myths include Dvalin, Durin, and Dainsleif.

(Translator's Note: Yes, Dainsleif hails from Khaenri'ah, but the original post was made back in early November, so author probably didn't have much available information on Dainsleif at the time.)

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Sitting Shiva for someone who isn’t dead?

I’m hoping that this is the right subreddit for this post! My apologizes & I will delete if that’s not the case. I tried posting this before but it was removed due to me making a new account.

I was raised Orthodox and recently learnt from differently-minded relatives that my parents decided to sit Shiva for me, in response to me coming out as gay a few months ago. I remain a proud Jew, but it goes without saying that I haven’t been a part of the world I was raised in for years now, and have always felt detached from frumkeit growing up.

Although I disagree with and feel deeply hurt by their decision, I respect the finality which it symbolizes for them and as such, recognize that I can’t directly reach out to them for answers. The relationship was never really a great one, I went through a series of “corrective” therapy efforts as a teen, talks with religious leaders and community members who “formerly” struggled with same sex attraction and were now in heterosexual marriages like things were supposed to be. Even so, I’m honestly just at a loss for what to make of this, and how to cope with it.

I just want to know if sitting Shiva for a living relative is ever prescribed in such a case, whether it be in rabbinic literature or reputable contemporary opinion, — or if this is just an extremely radical and even halachically uncalled for decision. I really just want to understand. I can’t find much on the topic online, except that some leading rabbis in Israel apparently endorse this practice for parents of gay sons or daughters. I’ve recently moved to a new area, so I’ve not yet made the acquaintance of a masorti rabbi, for example, who would be comfortable discussing my situation. So any input is appreciated, thanks.

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Virtual Shiva Questions

My best friend’s father died of COVID last night. She and her sibling will be traveling states away to bury him tomorrow. She told me that they will be sitting shiva virtually.

I was raised Buddhist and our mourning traditions are different from my friend’s.

I have observed holidays with my friend and her family (Yom Kippur, Hanukkah, Sukkot) but my friend always tells me what to do or wear. I don’t want her to have to tell me how to be respectful for this.

The information I can find online, primarily, is for those who are sitting shiva and not for the visitors. What I can find seems to indicate that I should not initiate conversation with those in mourning and that I should not wear leather shoes. Is this correct? Is there a specific way to dress respectfully?

I would like to send meals to my friend and her sister. Are there meals that are traditionally sent to those in mourning? They are not kosher.

Is there anything else I should or should not do? If they are sitting shiva for a week, do I go every day? Only once? How long do I stay?

Any help or advice would be appreciated.

Edit to add: I posted this first in r/Jewish but it was removed. I’m really sorry if this is a bad question in some way. I read all of the rules and don’t think I broke any.

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Shiva Question

Has anyone ever heard of a custom that states you can't hug/touch family members that are sitting shiva? For example, if a cousin loses a parent - can I hug/touch said cousin during shiva?

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PC game "The Shiva"

https://www.gog.com/game/the_shivah

Discovered last week that there is a point & click adventure-type game (like King's Quest) with a Jewish story.

It's on sale for $1.49

It has good reviews, just that it's somewhat short.

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Shiva for living people?

Heyo. I'm a big lurker and fan of this sub, and some time ago I came across a comment saying that shivas (?) for living people, mourning their intermarriage, are no longer acceptable. I unfortunately can't find the comment, but it had me thinking for a while. Would anyone here happen to know if this is true, and if so, why this came to be? Furthermore, were there any discussions or rereadings that led to this change, if it happened?

I ask because I have the fortune of being Jewish (ish) but through the wrong half. In Hebrew school at my reform synagogue I remember my teacher telling a story about this, around 2010-11. I'm curious if this happened in my family, too. I'm also unaware of any ritual/process that treats living people similarly, so it'd be interesting to hear more about this.

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TIL - Extremist (Orthodox) Judaism has its own set of problems and is fucked up.

Like any bored person on Quantentine, I was aimlessly scrolling through Netflix when I came upon Orthodox. Finished up the 4 part mini series in one night and then spent a few good hours in watching YouTube documentaries of Ultra-Orthodox Judaism (Haredis)

Some important points,

  1. They are concentrated in New York where they settled from Eastern Europe after the WW2. Their average birth rate is 8 children per family. They are educated to make up for the people lost during the Holocaust.

  2. They follow the Torah (book of Judaism) to the tee. They till now think that the Torah was written by God. Women were traditionally not allowed to read the Torah.

  3. Extreme gender segregation - they go to their own schools, avoid public schools and the children are gender segregated till their marraige which happens when they are 18-21 years old.

  4. They avoid usage of internet, smart phones, television and all other aspects of pop-culture despite a major section of their present day population living in New-fricking-York.

  5. They are a minority within a minority. There is disdain for anyone who is not an Haredi Jew. Meaning that they actually don't support Israel and they are anti-zionist. Long story short, the Torah says that when the Messiah comes, Israel will be handed to the Jews. The Messiah didn't come so Israel shouldn't exist.

  6. And as with any extremist religion, you cannot just leave the community, get educated and have your own life. Your Rabbi (your community's leader) controls every aspect of your family. If you leave or marry outside, you are practically dead. Your family will 'sit Shiva' meaning that they will consider you dead and mourn your death for a week.

  7. Rules - there are strict written rules for every single thing - diet, purity, modesty, dressing, hair styles and whatnot.

  8. Gender Roles - Women are treated as modern baby machines. Haredi leaders have time and again said that the gender roles that women must follow according to the original texts are 'timeless' and cannot be affected by contemporary social changes.

Well, yeah, my expertise in this topic is only 12 hours old so I am not expert and there could be many factual mistakes in what I wrote. Please correct me.

But I thought that in India, we know very little about Judaism let alone Orthodox Judaism so it will be a nice topic to discuss about.

And of course watch Orthodox in Netflix, it is eye opening.

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Salvia and "The Wheel"

The Psychedelic Scientist

Salvia and “The Wheel”

 thepsychedelicscientist

2 years ago



Hello! If you’ve come here from my Breaking Convention talk looking for references and sources, you can find them in the list below. The talk itself is right here, and after the sources you can find the full-length article based on this talk. 

Sources (in order of appearance):

Wheel art: u/HorrorFrank and SalviaDroid Casselman (2016). Genetics and phytochemistry of Salvia divinorum. PhD Thesis, Southern Cross University. Casselman et al (2014). From local to global – Fifty years of research on Salvia divinorum. J Ethnopharm 151, p.768-783. Maqueda (2018). The use of Salvia divinorum from a Mazatec perspective. Chapter in “Plant Medicines, Healing and Psychedelic Science: Cultural Perspectives” by Labate & Cavnar. This is a wonderful overview of Salvia, lots of information and highly recommended. Contact me for a copy. VICE: Hamilton’s Pharmacopeia (Salvia episode) Gardening on Salvia (YouTube video) Salvia experience reports:

Extradimensional Wheel

Astral Highway

Behind Existence

Marbles

Rolling Up

Singh et al (2006). A combined ligand-based and target-based drug design approach for G-protein coupled receptors: Application to salvinorin A, a selective kappa opioid receptor agonist. J Comp-Aid Mol Des 20(7-8), p.471-493. Peckys & Landwehrmeyer (1999). Expression of mu, kappa, and delta opioid receptor messenger RNA in the human CNS: a 33P in situ hybridization study. Neuroscience 88(4), p.1093-1135. Crick & Koch (2005). What is the function of the claustrum? Phil Trans R Soc B 360 , p.1271-1279. Koubeissi et al (2014). Electrical stimulation of a small brain area reversibly disrupts consciousness. Epilepsy & Behavior 37, p.32-35 Watts (1957). The Way of Zen, p.138. Alexandra David-Neel & Lama Yongden (1967). The Secret Oral Teachings in Tibetan Buddhist Sects. Huxley (1962). Island. Ezekiel 1:15-21 (Hebrew Bible) Flammarion (1888). L’atmosphère: météorologie populaire. (The Flammarion Engraving is found in this book). Near-Death Experiences Involving The Wheel:

Knocked Out

Surgery

Heart Attack

The Cosmic Sorting Waterwheel

Ram Dass (1995). Miracle of Love. The stories of Neem Karoli Baba come from this book. Recommended Books:

More Than Allegory

The Idea of the World

Engaging Buddhism

The Way of Zen

Salvia and “The Wheel”

Salvia divinorum is a unique psychedelic plant that has mainly escaped the gaze of the Global North. Whe

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[SPOILERS] What other Mythology could Assassin’s Creed Explore?

With Assassin’s Creed focusing heavily on fantasy and mythological aspects currently, I wanted to discuss a few other myths that AC could take on in the future being set in India, China, Japan, Greece, and Mesopotamia. Be warned, there are Valhalla spoilers and references.

Vedic India

In Hinduism, there is the cycle called the Yuga Cycle, which is comprised of 4 ages. The first age was the Satya Yuga is when Gods rule the universe and over Humanity, lasting for nearly 2 million years total. The Treta Yuga followed it up for another 1.25 million years but is when the Gods' power starts to decline. However, it’s also the age of triads, and the God Vishnu has three incarnations of Vamana, Parashurama, and Rama. This age ended about 900,000 years ago, followed up the Dvapara Yuga, which ended 5000 years ago when Krishna left the mortal realm. Beginning the Kali Yuga. The Kali Yuga is the age of strife and sin, lasting for 360,000 years. While the years don’t match up at all, it feels similar to the ages in Assassin’s Creed. The Satya was when the Isu ruled and humans were slaves, only for the great war and catastrophe during the Treta Yuga, and with the decline of the Isu, the last incarnations dying during the Dvapara, allowing mankind to take control, which they’d see as an age of sin.

There are a few famous stories that could be told from Hinduism. The first is the Ramayana, taking place hundreds of thousands of years ago. In the Vedic tradition, there are three gods part of the Trimurti, the Hindu triumvirate of Gods, comprised of Vishnu (the preserver of the universe), Brahma (the creator of the universe), and Shiva (the soul of the universe). Vishnu is one of the more commonly written about gods, having warned the first man, Manu, of an impending flood and advising him to build a great boat to survive. According to the Ramayana, Vishnu’s 7th incarnation was born to King Dasaratha of Ayodhya with brothers Lakshmana, Bharata, and Satrughna. Rama was named successor by Dasaratha but was opposed by Queen Kaikeyi who exiles Rama for 14 or 16 years (translations vary) and made Bharata King. Bharata was supported by Satrughna and Lakshmana followed Rama into exile where they met Vishvamitra who trained Rama in celestial weapons and had him kill the demons of Tadaka, Maricha, and Subahu. Nearby, the goddess of Lakshmi had been born into the Avatar of Sita to King Janaka, and wh

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I FUCKING HATE PEOPLE

First off, this is not a sympathy post, I just need to vent. For context, I’m 17 and Jewish and I live in America.

I really nice man who I knew and was might call a family friend died of COVID a couple days ago. He was a really great guy. Tonight we held a shiva service on zoom(In Judaism, Shiva is where the community is supposed to gather and remember a persons life and comfort the family).

A few minutes into the zoom call, a guy joins the meeting and starts making weird sounds, at first at thought that it was a random loner, but then more assholes showed up. Before I know it, these fucking idiots were screaming daddy, blasting porn, yelling Jewish cocksucking bastards, and other shit. Even after we kicked out them, more people starting showing up, some disguising themselves with names like “David Goldberg” and doing more shit. So, though it’s probably obvious now, people got the zoom password and probably posted it to 4chan and started entering it.

Like this is just the worst shit. I feel terrible for the widow who had to hear all of that while trying to mourn her husband, that’s completely awful. At least most of these guys knew that this was a time of mourning and still did this. I’m so fucking enraged, especially since I can’t track them down or anything.

I just fucking hate people. First off, if it wasn’t are former President Donald Trump, the guy who died would probably still be alive. And then while people were trying to mourn him, a bunch of assholes zoom-bombed the meeting. I’m just so fucking mad right now. People are just the worst.

Edit 1: hey after looking through comments I realized that my line about Donald trump made little sense without context. The United States, where we are supposed to be one of the world leaders in in infrastructure, disease control, etc, has suffered the most from COVID. We were grossly unprepared and the president initially seemed to pretend that COVID was not a problem in the most crucial moments to prevent the outbreak from becoming a nationwide epidemic. So anyway that’s why I mentioned trump.

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Everything you wanted to know about the Afterlife and Burial

Happy early Purim, I’m Robin Meyerson, the volunteer west coast director of the National Association of Chevra Kadisha (burial society) and the co author of Amazing True Afterlife Miracle Stories - From this World to the Next

Ask Me anything about the Afterlife, near death experiences, burial vs cremation and how to maintain a spiritual relationship with your departed loved ones at 4pm EST!

I can tell you an Amazing True Miracle Story of Azriel Mordechai Born on Shushan Purim

I have been helping Jews get buried for more than 15 years.

My website is www.peacefulreturn.org

I have spoken to more than 10,000 people in the last four months globally on zoom.

My articles have been read by hundreds of thousands of readers around the world

Here are a few questions to get your juices flowing:

  • Is the Afterlife real? How do we know?
  • What is a tehara?
  • Why do we sit shiva for 7 days?
  • What are the Torah sources for Burying someone?
  • What happens to my body and soul when I die?
  • What does science say about the body and soul and the afterlife?
  • I miss my dad, how can we maintain a relationship with departed loved ones
  • Is a 25 million dollar funeral worth it?
  • What if I don't have the money for burial what can we do?
  • It’s in my moms will to be cremated what now?
  • Isn’t the Land for the living?
  • I Want my grandma’s ashes near me?
  • I am Claustrophobic I dont want to be buried?
  • Can I donate my body to science?
  • How many Jews are cremated in the USA per day?

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here's more about me:

Robin Davina Meyerson is a community activist and builder of many groundbreaking Jewish projects. She does strategic planning and life coaching for the Machon HaAdam HaShalem, is the co-founding director of Project Inspire Arizona, Vice President of the National Jewish Education Foundation and volunteers as the West Coast Director for NASCK, running Peacefulreturn.org which assists families in end-of-life decisions. She has a bachelor’s degree in Marketing from Arizona State University and a master’s degree in International Management from Thunderbird Graduate School of Business. She has 25 years sales and marketing experience at both profit and nonprofit organizations, including serving as communications director for Avnet Inc., a Fortune 200 company, publisher of Jewish Spirit Magazine, and adjunct business faculty at Scottsdale Community College. An award winning author and public speaker, Robin has entertained and

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Quick question from a gentile - “shiva” or “the shiva”?

Would you say, “We went to their house for shiva” or “We went to their house for the shiva”? Need to know for something I’m writing. Thanks in advance. 🙂

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Unreached People Group of the Week - Adi Dravida of India

So I was reading about sloth bears being the most dangerous bears per capita:

>Over the past two decades, sloth bears have mauled thousands of people, killing hundreds. Though the Indian government doesn’t tally up attacks at the federal level, it’s fair to say from state data that the sloth bear is one of the deadliest animals in India, and is responsible for more human fatalities per capita than any other type of bear.

Anyways, that made me think about doing India for the UPG post this week.

Region: India - Tamil Nadu

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Stratus Index Ranking (Urgency): 18 (India)

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Climate: Tamil Nadu is mostly dependent on monsoon rains and thereby is prone to droughts when the monsoons fail. The climate of the state ranges from dry sub-humid to semi-arid. The state has two distinct periods of rainfall:

  • South west monsoon from June to September, with strong southwest winds;
  • North east monsoon from October to December, with dominant northeast winds;

The annual rainfall of the state is about 945 mm (37.2 in) of which 48 per cent is through the northeast monsoon, and 32 per cent through the southwest monsoon. Since the state is entirely dependent on rains for recharging its water resources, monsoon failures lead to acute water scarcity and severe drought. Tamil Nadu is divided into seven agro-climatic zones: northeast, northwest, west, southern, high rainfall, high altitude hilly, and Kaveri Delta (the most fertile agricultural zone).

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Terrain: Tamil Nadu covers an area of 130,058 km2 (50,216 sq mi), and is the eleventh-largest state in India. The bordering states are Kerala to the west, Karnataka to the north-west and Andhra Pradesh to the north. To the east is the Bay of Bengal and the state encircles the union territory of Puducherry. The southernmost tip of the Indian Peninsula is Kanyakumari which is the meeting point of the Arabian Sea, the Bay of Bengal, and the Indian Ocean.

The western, southern, and the northwestern parts are hilly and rich in vegetation. The Western Ghats and the Eastern Ghats meet at the Nilgiri Hills. The Western Ghats traverse the entire western border with Kerala, effectively blocking much of the rain-bearing clouds of the south-west monsoon from entering the state. The eastern parts are fertile coastal plains and the northern parts are a mix of hills and plains. The centra

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What to expect during Zoom Shiva?

A relative recently passed away and they will be holding shiva on a zoom. Has anyone attended a shiva on Zoom? If so what was it like and what should I expect? Obviously it will be very different from a normal one.

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Has anyone ever been unable to sit shiva due to their loved one dying before a major holiday?

We had to remove my mother from life support in 2016 following a massive cardiovascular surgery. It was right before Pesach. When the orthodox rabbi (he worked for the hospital) came to speak with our (reform) family I was floored when he said we would not permitted to sit shiva for my mother because she died right before the holiday.

I am a secular Jew, but I grew up active in all things at my synagogue. I studied for my Bat Mitzvah and had my confirmation. I held leadership positions in youth group all through high school. I sat shiva for both of my grandparents on my mother's side. While I am not a religious person, I found comfort in this beautiful ritual during these times of loss. Having people who cared come to visit, sit and talk about my loved ones was such a major part of the healing process. Until Mom died I never realized there were times it was not permitted.

I felt then that I was being robbed of my chance to properly grieve. And coming up on the three year anniversary of her death I still have a bitter taste in my mouth when I think of how much it hurt not being able to honor her the way I felt she deserved.

I go to temple every year to say kaddish for her, but whenever I hear anything about Pesach I feel sick to my stomach.

I'm not here to suggest that ancient rules should be rewritten or anything to that effect. I'm just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and if it had a major impact on you and the way you felt about Judaism in general.

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Buddhist tantric elements of law in smtII.

If you look at satan in II, you notice that he actually looks very close to mahakala. In fact, he looks closer to the religious artwork of mahakala than the actual mahakala in-game does. Which may be to keep him from looking too similar to satan. He has the six arms, scary face, and most importantly to make it obvious its not an accident, he has the third eye, which is a buddhist / hindu symbol. In interviews they even suggest that satan's appearance is because he is more of a composite figure here.

https://images.fineartamerica.com/images/artworkimages/mediumlarge/2/6-armed-mahakala-in-union-images-of-enlightenment.jpg

https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/megamitensei/images/f/f6/SatanSMT2.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20080808004019

https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/megamitensei/images/4/49/MahakalaSMT.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20080706001642

Now, mahakala is a tantric vajrayana Buddhist interpretation of Shiva. I already talked before about how satan's role in II closely resembles shiva ending the world at the point it becomes too corrupt to start a new pure one. But this thread is more about the buddhist tantric side.

Tantra is about a few things, but one aspect of it is a shift in focus from viewing divinities as external to a kind of mental image of self and deity as one. To identify with the gods as if you already achieved liberation in order to rush along the goal of paranirvana. And to try to actualize this, acting in the way these gods would.

Now if we look at II there are some noticable parallels here to look at. When you fight satan, he is identified as godly race, rather than as an angel. At first glance this might just look like they didn't want him to stand out among the godly final bosses. But in the added scenes of the gba version it gives additional context.

https://lparchive.org/Shin-Megami-Tensei-II/Update%2050/

In the visionary items for II, "mysterious voice" tells zayin several things. That god in a sense doesn't exist, that god is not good, that god doesn't just have one face, that you shouldn't consider following god to be about following orders, and that you can be a face of god yourself.

These things obviously aren't drawing from standard christianity or judaism. The language implied immediately calls to mind mysticism traditions. But if we view what the voice says which implies a kind of empty take about what god is (note that this is also kabbalic in tone) in conjunction with satan looking like mahakala we get a kind of collective

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As a Jew, how can I support a non-Jewish friend/relative who lost a loved one?

A very close friend lost her father unexpectedly this past Friday and it got me thinking about how I can use some of our customs to help support her through it. Obviously I am not talking about sitting shiva for him but the way Judaism approaches morning is so fluid and natural I though maybe some of that could help guide the way I support my non-Jewish loves ones.

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Abusers be gone

MIL WANTS ME TO FORGIVE AND FORGET!!!!!

Trigger Warning: Death of abusers and COMPLEX grief.

Please don't share my stuff.

In my last post, my Dad, was on life support. I was a mess. I had just gotten my head out of water from a suicide, and I didn't mention this, but I also had to miss my best friend's wedding. JNM was being a selfish twit, and demanding DH attention, because she a knee replacement (last post). DH took her side, we fought, he got the hint, and everything he needs to say about that can go through the therapist.

So far so good. No mention of JNM. She has called and texted me, as well - and did not mention herself once. So, maybe growth is happening on their own terms, without my involvement. Wouldn't that be great? Except I did have to put her in her place a little, but I did it successfully. Read below.

I didn't mention this in the previous post, because it was messy enough without adding that the Dad in my life that was dying, was a monster, and in the midst of him leaving earth, I still felt like I had to cover up for him. I was still carrying around and cleaning up his bullshit. JUST LIKE I COVER FOR DH AND MIL.

This story does involve itself with the freedom I found with JNM (and other abusers). It’s all simultaneously coming together. So backstory is important for emphasis.

Backstory: My Dad married my Mom when I was 3 and promised to care for us (my brother and myself) as his own. He promised this when I discovered my birth certificate when I was 8, and they finally had to answer my "why do I have a different last name, AND now why a different father on my birth certificate?" I was told that bio dad was no good and that we were better off. I was in love with dad - you could say I was a Daddy's girl. I was molested in my sleep when I was 10 going on 11, by the babysitter's boyfriend, during a 4th of July party at my house. Not only did I move that man from my bedroom, I marched downstairs and told Dad. He told me to go back to bed. My Mom heard me crying and that is when I heard the ruckus downstairs, but not another word was spoken. Several months later he turned my tragedy into his tragedy and told everyone he was diagnosed with lung cancer. Imagine being 11, knowing your first Dad split, and your second Dad that you love is going to die. Fast forward through so much more, but he never did adopt us and HE NEVER did have cancer

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Unreached People Group of the Week - Balinese of Indonesia

I've been in a fairly beachy mood so I thought I would use that today to find a UPG. Meet the Balinese of Indonesia!

Region: Indonesia - Bali

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Climate: Indonesia lies along the equator, and its climate tends to be relatively even year-round. Indonesia has two seasons—a wet season and a dry season—with no extremes of summer or winter. For most of Indonesia, the dry season falls between May and October with the wet season between November and April. Indonesia's climate is almost entirely tropical, dominated by the tropical rainforest climate found in every large island of Indonesia. More cooling climate types do exist in mountainous regions that are 1,300 to 1,500 metres (4,300 to 4,900 feet) above sea level. The oceanic climate prevails in highland areas adjacent to rainforest climates, with reasonably uniform precipitation year-round. In highland areas near the tropical monsoon and tropical savanna climates, the subtropical highland climate is prevalent with a more pronounced dry season.

Tectonically, Indonesia is highly unstable, making it a site of numerous volcanoes and frequent earthquakes. t lies on the Pacific Ring of Fire where the Indo-Australian Plate and the Pacific Plate are pushed under the Eurasian plate, where they melt at about 100 kilometres (62 miles) deep. A string of volcanoes runs through Sumatra, Java, Bali and Nusa Tenggara, and then to the Banda Islands of Maluku to northeastern Sulawesi. Of the 400 volcanoes, around 130 are active.

Being just 8 degrees south of the equator, Bali has a fairly even climate all year round. Average year-round temperature stands at around 30 °C (86 °F) with a humidity level of about 85%. Day time temperatures at low elevations vary between 20 to 33 °C (68 to 91 °F), but the temperatures decrease significantly with increasing elevation. The west monsoon is in place from approximately October to April, and this can bring significant rain, particularly from December to March. During the rainy season, there are comparatively fewer tourists seen in Bali. During the Easter and Christmas holidays, the weather is very unpredictable. Outside of the monsoon period, humidity is relatively low and any rain is unlikely in lowland areas.

Terrain: The island of Bali lies 3.2 km (2.0 mi) east of Java, and is approximately 8 degrees south of the equator. Bali and Java are separat

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New in my conversion. My rabbi's had a death in the family. What should I do?

I've only recently started the process of my conversion with my local Ashkenazi Conservative rabbi. I've been attending Fri and Sat services for about 2 months and have had 1 meeting with the rabbi so far (scheduling has been a conflict). I found out that there's been a close death in his family and that there is a funeral on Wednesday over Zoom. What is the general protocol here? Do I attend, cuz I'm part of the congregation? I know I'm not obligated by any mitzvot yet, but I would like to show my support and not make any social errors. (And of course Covid complicates things, as usual)

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A few shiva questions

My mom was buried on Sunday and we have been sitting shiva. However, we are not very religious although my father at one point in his live was orthodox.

To give you an idea, we go to shul on all holidays, usually an orthodox one. We don’t keep kosher per se, but all the rest of my family lives in Israel and doesn’t intentionally mix meat and milk. But the house isn’t kosher.

That being said, we’re not sitting on low stools, sleeping on the floor. I do take a shower, and I have made myself some food when I wanted not to be a burden on anyone. I also walk the dog sometimes and get on reddit. We don’t have a minyan here so a family friend who goes to shul three times a day is doing so for us.

We stay home throughout the day, wear our torn clothes. We share stories about and mourn my mother heavily. I don’t shave or cut my hair.

Some religious people have said it’s very important that I do the things I’m not doing. It feels like they’re insinuating that by not doing them my mom won’t get to heaven.

My mom wasn’t very religious. She ate on Yom Kippur (not in front of fasting family) but she loved the idea of Shabbat dinners. We did seders but didn’t maybe scrub all the chametz (although we refrained from it and separated it). We understood and usually celebrated every major holiday.

I think that after shiva, if I were to want to have a dinner party in a few months, my mom would want me to. She would hate that life stopped for her death. She loved parties and people.

It’s not like I won’t be mourning her. I will be every day. I can’t imagine not doing so.

With all that said, what if I’m not doing the right thing here? The rules are the rules. Will my mom never find peace? Are we causing her soul undue suffering? I want to honor my mother, and also since I was never religious, the only reason for me to do anything so strict it’s just for my mothers sake.

Thanks for reading.

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Unreached People Group of the Week - Brahmin Hill of Nepal

I was thinking about this Nepalese place that my wonderful fiancee and I are dying to go to and decided to go to Nepal for this UPG post. Meet the Brahmin Hill of Nepal!

Region: Nepal - Middle Hills

https://preview.redd.it/kqy5tu39kfk61.png?width=425&format=png&auto=webp&s=c6f8a5f48af28313bbdf95e78dcf34c394b45fd3

Climate: Nepal has five climatic zones, broadly corresponding to the altitudes. The tropical and subtropical zones lie below 1,200 metres (3,900 ft), the temperate zone 1,200 to 2,400 metres (3,900 to 7,900 ft), the cold zone 2,400 to 3,600 metres (7,900 to 11,800 ft), the subarctic zone 3,600 to 4,400 metres (11,800 to 14,400 ft), and the Arctic zone above 4,400 metres (14,400 ft). Nepal experiences five seasons: summer, monsoon, autumn, winter and spring. The Himalayas block cold winds from Central Asia in the winter and form the northern limits of the monsoon wind patterns.

Hilly is a mountain region which does not generally contain snow. It is situated south of the Himal. This region begins at the Mahabharat Range (lit. Great Indian, trad. the Lesser Himalaya) where a fault system called the Main Boundary Thrust creates an escarpment 1,000 to 1,500 metres (3,000 to 5,000 ft) high, to a crest between 1,500 and 2,700 metres (5,000 and 9,000 ft). It covers 68% of the total area of Nepal.

Terrain: The hilly region lies in the central part of Nepal and is less developed than the Terai but more developed than Himalaya. South of the Himalayan Mountain Region lies the complex zone of hills, valleys, basins and low tablelands of varying altitude and magnitude.

Middle Hills

Environmental Issues: Water pollution, Air pollution, Pesticide pollution, Deforestation, Waste

Languages: Nepali (Gorkhali), Limbu, Maithili, Nepalbhasa, Angika, Tharu, Majhi, Doteli , Baitadeli, Gurung, Bajjika, Tamang, Magar, Sherpa, Dzongkha, Kiranti, Sunuwar, Rajbanshi, Bhojpuri, Awadhi, Urdu

Government Type: Federal parliamentary republic

People: Brahmin Hill - Bahun

Population: There are 3,067,000 Brahmin Hill in Nepal.

Beliefs: Most modern Brahmans do not espouse a doctrine of their superiority by birth above other peoples. It was also noted that many are now secularists. But most Brahmans respect the ancient (and many not-so-ancient) traditions of their forefathers. Some work to synt

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A close friend’s mother just passed away, I got an email with a schedule for when Shiva will be held. What is the best way for me to approach? What should I be aware of? How can I be most respectful in this custom?
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Attending shiva just one night, or multiple nights

A friend's relative passed away. I'm planning to attend the shiva but wasn't sure if it's appropriate to come on 2 of the nights, or if I should just come once. What is the etiquette on this? Thank you.

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Are all pagan gods (particularly religions Judaism never had contact with in the Tanakh esp during the Torah) shedim? For example would Shinto spirits and Hindu deities be considered unclean false gods in opposition to Yahweh?

One of the predominating thoughts in fundamentalist Christianity is that pagan gods of the Old Testament were demons in disguise. Its gotten to the point that any time discussion about religion gets involved with cultures that Moses and his descendant Prophets heck the Jews never got into contact with during the Biblical period such as say the Chinese, there is immediate accusation that these cultures' deities are demons posing as humanoid divine beings.

I cannot tell you how many blogs there are out there by Christian fundamentalists accusing Shiva and the Hindu gods as demonic entities or videos on Youtube proclaiming Buddha is a servant of Satan (under the wrong assumption that Siddartha Guatma is worshipped as the God of Buddhism), etc with frequent citation of Deuteronomy 32:17 and Psalm 106:37 as proof.

With that said I am curious on the Jewish pov? Is Shedim correctly translated as demons like most English translations of the bible state the verses?

Or is there so much misunderstanding on shedim and "demonology" of Judaism by Christians? If shedim is correctly translated as demons, do they apply to all other Gods including Amaterasu, Mithras, Ganesh, Zeus, the Trinity of Christianity, and Allah (even if Muslims and Christian believe they are the same as Yahweh)? Or are they only region-specific around Israel and the border countries around her today?

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Are all pagan gods (particularly religions Judaism never had contact with in the Tanakh esp during the Torah) shedim? For example would Shinto spirits and Hindu deities be considered unclean false gods in opposition to Yahweh?

One of the predominating thoughts in fundamentalist Christianity is that pagan gods of the Old Testament were demons in disguise. Its gotten to the point that any time discussion about religion gets involved with cultures that Moses and his descendant Prophets heck the Jews never got into contact with during the Biblical period such as say the Chinese, there is immediate accusation that these cultures' deities are demons posing as humanoid divine beings.

I cannot tell you how many blogs there are out there by Christian fundamentalists accusing Shiva and the Hindu gods as demonic entities or videos on Youtube proclaiming Buddha is a servant of Satan (under the wrong assumption that Siddartha Guatma is worshipped as the God of Buddhism), etc with frequent citation of Deuteronomy 32:17 and Psalm 106:37 as proof.

With that said I am curious on the Jewish pov? Is Shedim correctly translated as demons like most English translations of the bible state the verses?

Or is there so much misunderstanding on shedim and "demonology" of Judaism by Christians? If shedim is correctly translated as demons, do they apply to all other Gods including Amaterasu, Mithras, Ganesh, Zeus, the Trinity of Christianity, and Allah (even if Muslims and Christian believe they are the same as Yahweh)? Or are they only region-specific around Israel and the border countries around her today?

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Are all pagan gods (particularly religions Judaism never had contact with in the Tanakh esp during the Torah) shedim? For example would Shinto spirits and Hindu deities be considered unclean false gods in opposition to Yahweh?

One of the predominating thoughts in fundamentalist Christianity is that pagan gods of the Old Testament were demons in disguise. Its gotten to the point that any time discussion about religion gets involved with cultures that Moses and his descendant Prophets heck the Jews never got into contact with during the Biblical period such as say the Chinese, there is immediate accusation that these cultures' deities are demons posing as humanoid divine beings.

I cannot tell you how many blogs there are out there by Christian fundamentalists accusing Shiva and the Hindu gods as demonic entities or videos on Youtube proclaiming Buddha is a servant of Satan (under the wrong assumption that Siddartha Guatma is worshipped as the God of Buddhism), etc with frequent citation of Deuteronomy 32:17 and Psalm 106:37 as proof.

With that said I am curious on the Jewish pov? Is Shedim correctly translated as demons like most English translations of the bible state the verses?

Or is there so much misunderstanding on shedim and "demonology" of Judaism by Christians? If shedim is correctly translated as demons, do they apply to all other Gods including Amaterasu, Mithras, Ganesh, Zeus, the Trinity of Christianity, and Allah (even if Muslims and Christian believe they are the same as Yahweh)? Or are they only region-specific around Israel and the border countries around her today?

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