It's something I've always wondered.
Is there a plastic surgery surgery procedure that can actually shrink ears instead of just making them stick out less?
I’ve struggled with body dysmorphia for years.
It began slowly with hating singular parts such as my nose or face shape. I thought plastic surgery was the answer and coughed up the money. That’s when things took a turn for the worse.
I was convinced my face had been “botched”. I would sit for hours crying in front of the mirror touching the areas on my face where surgery was performed. I felt completely deformed and sick to my stomach.
I saw about 5 different surgeons who would hold mirrors to my face trying to convince me that I was not deformed. I refused to listen and got more work done. If they refused to operate on one area I simply got work done on another. My chin, my forehead, my nose. I felt worse each time. Like something out of a horror movie.
If I could get my old face back I would. I look back on pictures of when I was a little girl. Of when I was happy. I cant see that face in the mirror any more. I’m no longer me.
Please, if you genuinely have this disorder do not go through with plastic surgery.
Surgery can’t fix your mind.
Edit: Thank you all so much for your comments and support. They mean more than I could ever say.
I know just how badly many of those with BDD want surgery. At the very least please disclose your diagnoses to your surgeon or talk with a therapist prior to going through with any work. I wish I had.
Hello! I figured I'd post here because my friend group is split on this one. For a bit of context, I (21f) have some sort of condition where flexing certain fingers is painful. It can get to the point where my finger "locks" and doesn't move. Most notably, whenever my finger bends there's a loud pop followed by pain. I've been looking into this for years, and no one seems to know what to do besides putting it in a splint and hoping.
I finally got a call from my doctor that she got me a referral for a plastic surgeon that specializes in hand/feet and I'm extremely excited. Basically the procedure that's going to be done is similar to botox, where they try to stiffen the finger to prevent my tendon from snapping.
I told a few of my close friends about the procedure. I guess one of their girlfriends overheard that I was getting botox and misunderstood. She started messaging me how beautiful I was and that I shouldn't mess with my natural beauty. I was offended because she kept making the comments, even after I told her to stop.
Everytime she saw me she would mention it, or bring up how important it is to be yourself in this "plastic" world.
We were on a large group call the other day to hang out, and she made a comment to me in front of our friends saying "not everyone has mommy pay for botox." I. Was. Pissed.
My parents are not paying for any part of the procedure, it's covered by my country's healthcare. I asked her where she thought I was getting botox and she replied that it was obviously a facial surgery.
I went off on her. I told her about my health issues and how the procedure gave me so much hope that maybe I could literally hold a pencil without pain. I told her she was being judgemental and that she had NO RIGHT to judge me, even if my surgery was cosmetic. I told her to get off her high horse and reevaluate herself before trying to shame other people. I also called her a judgey b**** at one point. She ended up logging off the call. The call got really awkward, and we ended up just hanging up a few minutes after.
She messaged me later saying she felt alienated from the group and that I didn't have to call her out in public like that, I could have told her privately. She also blamed me for not telling her the surgery was medical earlier, leading to this misunderstanding. I don't think she was entitled to any information, and even it it was cosmetic, she had no right to act like she did.
Her boyfriend and one of my mutual friends thinks she's... keep reading on reddit ➡
Ok I feel pretty silly asking this, but I (29F) honestly don't know what to think about this message I received from a guy (35M) I've been texting over Bumble.
We've been texting for a little while, mainly smalltalk up to now. Before Easter I had a lot of work in the office + minor surgery, so I didn't text him back for a week.
Me: Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. I was really busy at work, plus I had a minor sugery [bla bla bla].
Him: No problem [bla bla bla]. What kind of surgery did you have, if I may ask?
(Asking about the surgery is fine by me.)
Me: I had to have a benign tumor removed, nothing serious, but I was still a little nervous since it was the first surgery I've ever had, but all went well [bla bla bla].
Him: Oh ok, glad to hear it went well. At first I figured you had your boobs done, because you made it [the surgery] sound so mysterious.
I don't know why, but I'm super weirded out by his boob-surgery remark... While I'm not opposed to plastic surgery in general, it seems pretty inappropriate to ask a total stranger something personal like that. (Plus, who the heck classifies boob surgery as "minor"?!).
I don't know if I'm being unfair/paranoid now, but judging by his remark, I feel like he would be the kind of person who thinks it's ok to criticize another person's body. I don't know, it just gives me strange vibes.
Fwiw I have full body photos, but nothing that "highlights" my boobs specifically, and while my boobs are on the smaller side, I'd say they're pretty proportional since I'm also petite.
Anyway, what do you guys think?
Long story time. But please bare with me. A little bit of background - I’m a 19 year old girl that grew up pretty fit and had my dream body. I went from a triple varsity athlete in high school, to an obese BMI in less than 2 years. From a 26 inch waist to a 32 inch in that time span.
At first, I loved my body, I loved my shape. A trimmed waist I worked hard for and a booty (thanks mom for that one!) After all, I worked out daily, I ate clean, I could buy cute clothes and wore a bikini with pride! Even got to model for an up and coming bikini line. Life was good.
But my mind started changing. No matter how much people told me “I wish I had your body!” Or “Girl, you look great!” A little inkling at the back of my mind started telling me that it wasn’t good enough. I wasn’t good enough.
Soon came freshmen year of college. I grew up surfing, so when I had the chance I surfed all day, I swam constantly. I started looking better and better. But then I turned 18. I was able to go out and eat with friends and my mom couldn’t tell me no. I went to parties, drank 800 calories in liquor 2-3 times a week. Waking up with a headache meant I would devour the breakfast buffet on campus. Very quickly... the weight came.
I grew up with a fit dad, who despised the thought of his children becoming fat. I could tell he was disappointed with each pound that became apparent on my little 5’2 frame. So I hated myself more. My tiny bodied Asian family members (grandparents, aunts, uncles) never ceased to remind me I had gained weight.
My college-sweetheart is a gym rat, a six pack and muscles fill his shirts. The more weight I gained, the more I hated standing next to him. I couldn’t take it anymore. I hated hearing my family and friends say how big I had gotten. I had put on 30 lbs in 6 months. I stopped surfing and swimming because I became so embarrassed to be in a swimsuit. On my short stature, the 30 lbs were so obvious.
I would lose a pound every week, but it wasn’t fast enough for me. I wanted my old body back. I didn’t want to be shamed anymore.
I secretly got full abdominal liposuction that cost $6000, months of painful healing, and feelings of guilt I could not overcome. But, here’s the kicker.
Despite a surgery that took off 15 lbs of fat from my midsection, I still got called fat. I was still reminded daily that I need to lose weight because it’s obvious how much I’ve gained.
I fell so depressed that I said - you know what? F*ck it. I’m gonna... keep reading on reddit ➡
Gardaí object to free legal aid for woman refusing to enter hotel quarantine after plastic surgery trip (via @IrishTimes) https://www.irishtimes.com/news/crime-and-law/courts/criminal-court/garda%C3%AD-object-to-free-legal-aid-for-woman-refusing-to-enter-hotel-quarantine-after-plastic-surgery-trip-1.4528274
I've been on this subreddit for the past year and I've read it nearly everyday since I've found it. However, I've never gotten cosmetic surgery and do not intend to in the near future. Personally, I find extreme body modifications interesting and am curious about the impact of social media / celebrity trends on body image & dysphoria.
Sometimes I see comments that discuss how they've had minor / significant work done, so I'm curious what brings folks to this subreddit. Feel free to comment your thoughts or let me know if I've phrased anything poorly.
Everyone here knows that Khloe's social media behaviour is negative but everyone also seems to always state ok this is bad but Kris told her to get an nose job, she's always been bullied as a child and people used to call her 'ugly' in comparison to Kim and Khloe and then we have Lamar and Tristan. I fully understand and I need to remember that but also know that what she does is wrong.
However, I've always felt like this sub is quick to come at Kylie for her lip fillers and various surgeries and it's the same people who are calling her social media content tone deaf, boring and saying she has no personality and is always trying to look sexy, Years ago, Kylie posted all types of fun content on Vine, Dubsmash and was just having fun when everyone on the internet bullied her for her paper thin lips and various other things and ever since she's turned to surgeries and fillers people attack her for being plastic. She got so much hate for being just herself in the past so it doesn't surprise me that she tries to post her luxury items and is always trying to look sexy cause unfortunately people haven't been accepting. If we can acknowledge Khloe's background, why can't we acknowledge Kylie's?
For full clarity, Khloe needs to stop doing anything to her face and needs to stop gaslighting her audience. It would be nice for Kylie to open up and show some personality.
..no one even raises an eyebrow.
RIP Hana #BeKind
People often use the excuse "�my body my choice" to justify getting plastic surgery for purely cosmetic purposes. Lip injections, botox, eye lift, BBL, etc. And while it's true, I think this excuse has been thrown around so much that we've become desensitised to plastic surgery, and to what it entails. I find it really sad to think that some people (mostly women) are changing their bodies to fit in the ideal (white and thin) beauty standard. Pretty privilege is a thing, and it is definitely easier to go through life with a perfect body and face, I get that. But it's sad that this is a thing in the first place, and I feel like normalising plastic surgery has taken us back so much.
The "my body my choice" excuse makes criticising plastic surgery almost impossible, because if you call out someone who's had something done, people will jump at you with this sentence. But you have to think about what made the person make that choice in the first place, what influenced them, and the plastic surgery community never addresses this. I think it creates a toxic environment, where everybody is magically shielded from any kind of criticism.
Attention: This topic might be controversial [TW]
As most of you probably know, a lot of idols had plastic surgery and it is very obvious. I am not saying that there are not any natural beauties but most of the time this change in appearance is not connected to a natural puberty glow up. I especially dislike reading comments such as ,,puberty hit him/her hard'' because they are not true . To clear one thing up, I do not shame Idols who have done plastic surgery, I think that it is their choice as it is THEIR body. I understand why some people choose to undergo such procedures and I am happy for them if they feel more comfortable afterwards. I just wish people would stop pretending that plastic surgery is not a thing.... It can have harmful consequences such as a distorted view of oneself, especially concerning younger people.
Edit: This does not mean that you should hate on an idol for having done plastic surgery. Their decisions should be respected!
I am a 4th yr DO med student who just recently heard the great news that I matched Plastic Surgery. As I went through my 4 years of med school, always knowing I wanted to go into plastics, I always looked for someone on Reddit who had done it before me. I wanted to see that it was possible and how they did it. I know a few DO’s have made it into palstics before me but I never found a post. So, I told myself if I ever was lucky enough to make my dream come true that I would create my own posting. I am here to say it is possible! I just want to share what I believe was vital to my ability to match.
Scores - As a med student we are always looking to compare ourselves, not to one up one another but to see what is possible. So for comparison sake I will say I got a 250+ on both Step 1 and 2. I believe this is key to get your app at least not instantly thrown out. I think its very essential for anyone to aim for >250, but definitely even more so as a DO.
Research – This is SO important. I did not take a year off for research, but I believe it is very important to consider doing so, and it is definitely necessary to do so once they change USMLE to Pass/Fail. Coming from any DO school, research opportunities especially in plastics is most likely not available. You have to make any connections you can and reach out to as many doctors as you can in plastics to get yourself research. I started by shadowing a doc who led me to another who did research, which then opened the door to other docs who do research. It is all about connections and effort. Work you’re a** off and get as many pubs as possible. Its tough but people unfortunately keep cranking out more and more and drive up the average pub # every year. This is why the year off for research is almost necessary. (I was very lucky to have dodged this).
Connections – This is just as important as the other 2. Research will help significantly with this area. You need to make connections with plastic surgeons. They all know each other, and they all talk with one another either personally or at conferences. It will also be very important come time when you are applying. To have a well-known plastic surgeon go to bat for you at a program can be “rank-changing”. I think I made very strong connections with many docs and I know they wrote strong letters and made phone calls for me.
There are obviously other important aspects that will help you match, such as crushing aways, but I believe the most important are t... keep reading on reddit ➡
Okay so I see SO much of this shit on Reddit – saying shit about people’s plastic surgery like “this is what you will end up like, I can tell you’ve had shit done!” Let me tell you right off the bat – they can’t tell. They feel themselves being experts at plastic surgery because they can spot the botched jobs. That’s like me saying I’m an expert at Formula 1 because I can tell when a tyre is blown.
The whole idea of plastic surgery, fillers, all that, is that no one can tell unless they know you really, really well or it’s done bad, or you overdid it to the point that people can spot the difference.
So, ladies, let’s stop listening to that shit online and if you feel like getting anything done do not hold yourself back because Thomas from Wisconsin said he notices when the penguins turn pink. Find the right plastic surgeon or filler/Botox nurse, and go for it.
So this convo happened on an Easter afternoon last week.
Mother and I talked a bit about the entertainment industry, specifically about what appearances are attractive. She said of my face having a fairly smaller nose and noticeable cheekbone. Nothing new with being told about my appearance. However, mother went and said something that frankly threw me off. Almost verbatim:
>You have a small nose and good cheekbone.
>You see how Asians (Korea or Chinese) don't have those features. They look good because of plastic surgery. Their real faces are ugly with small eyes, round heads, and flat noses.
Here I was puzzled, so I questioned and addressed my mother's statements. My questioning led to us having a back-and-forth debate about Asians having robust features. She then brought an example of BTS having plastic. I refuted with better examples such as Yao Ming, though I can't use Godfrey Gao (or others) because my mother frankly doesn't know squat.
She said that Yao Ming's situation is different, again misunderstanding my point that Asian men can have naturally attractive features without being MIXED. After a short flurry, the mother finally retracted the statement, saying that she wrongly described the East Asians.
I thought (actually hoped) that a different scenario may happen, but the conversation went just as I expected. Knew something absurd will come up, and she didn't disappoint, disappointing as it sounds. But I remained silent. My mother unfortunately can have some absurd notion; however, the fault is NOT on her. What would I expect to happen?
One of the users brought a good point.
>Maybe, but I’m not so sure. A lot of Asians over a certain age went through some kind of attractiveness dysmorphia. Basically believing that attractive and Asian don’t belong in the same sentence.
Think about the implications. The absence of good representation and intentional misrepresentations in media affect how people perceive others. It's one thing for other people to not see Asian men as appealing; however, we are some other level shit if even one's parent believes such notions.
I see a lot of new faces here today!!