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AITA for not deleting my post about parenting when I have full custody of my kids?

Hi. I'm 26F. My ex is 30M. Our children are 4F and 4M. I made it clear from before we got married that I wanted an equal distribution of household responsibilities. We agreed that he would cook, I would clean, etc., and that when we'd have kids, we'd take care of them equally.

It started off fine, but when our kids were born, he just...stopped. One day he was tired and I was cooking, and then that became every day. I left him alone with them once and he "didn't notice" when they both separately had soiled their diapers. He told me he'd improve but it was honestly too late at that point. It just got worse and worse. I felt like I was parenting three kids. Some women told me marriage is "just like that" but I couldn't do it.

Not only am I working from home this quarantine, but I have to take care of two small children...this morning they surprised me with very sweet "best mom ever" cards. I guess quarantine has been rough for me because they just made me start bawling. I posted a picture of the cards on Instagram later with a big cheesy caption about how all the hardships of parenthood are worth it, I love my kids more than life, they're the best things that have ever happened to me, etc.

I got an angry call from my ex a few hours later, telling me that I can't brag about my relationship with our kids while having full custody, saying that it's not fair and I'm just rubbing it in his face. He also mentioned that it's "really funny" that I think all the chores are worth it now, but not when I was married to him. I tried to explain the difference in the situation, but he said I could never understand how he feels because I have full custody and I basically "abandoned him when he was at a low point." He told me to delete the post, and I told him I don't have to do anything I don't want to. It was admittedly an immature response and he called me out on it, but I still haven't deleted the post despite how it makes him feel. AITA?

EDIT: Wow. Thank you for all the kind responses. :) I didn't think so many people would reply!

To answer a question I'm seeing a lot, I haven't blocked him from my Instagram because I think it's only fair to him to see pictures of our kids, no matter how much of a jackass he is sometimes.

For people asking about the custody situation, he gave up custody.

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AITA For telling my little sister parenting isn't all sunshines and rainbows?

My little sister (26) has been thinking about having children with her husband for a while, but has been really unsure. Our parents and his parents have all been pushing it, and I finally decided to step in to tell them what parenting was actually like.

I basically explained that while great things do happen, there's a hell of a lot of rough stuff too. I also explained that they have to be prepared for everything. We have twins in our family (I have two sets, and we have brothers who are also two sets of twins), so they have to make sure they could handle two babies at once, or even three as there's a couple sets of triplets here and there.

As well as the fact that autism is fairly common in our family. Three of our brothers are diagnosed, four of my children are and I'm currently working on getting my youngest daughter some form of help. Would they be able to cope with a disabled child?

I want to be clear I wasn't trying to steer them away from children, but so many parents go in expecting only good things and then become resentful of their children when they do normal children things.

I also asked them if they'd researched any form of parenting. There's several types and you really should have an idea of how you want to raise your child. Communication is important and all of these things need to be discussed before the baby is created. Other things to take into account like, are you financially stable?

Another thing I find is that people don't realise how much children cost, because they cost a hell of a lot. You don't get to cop out of being a mother as soon as they turn eighteen. You will always be a mother, no matter how old your child gets.

After our in depth discussion they've decided a dog would probably be better. They don't think they have the time, and have admitted they wouldn't be able to look after two babies at once or give a disabled child the support they need. I'm so proud of them for coming to this conclusion, because we seriously have to think about the potential life here. Too many people have kids because that's 'what they're supposed to do'.

My parents think I've scared them off and are basically calling me a monster because I've terrified them into never having children. I don't think I have, but I do feel a little bad because they're almost totally averse now. I didn't think I was being harsh, just truthful, and I made sure to mention all the amazing things about parenthood too.

I'm unsure, though. My husband is glad tha

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AITA for snapping at my wife about her parenting

Me(47M)and my wife(52F) have 16 year old son. My wife is very...overprotective mom. This particular incident happened 2 days ago. Our son got home with a pink hair dye and when my wife asked what that was about he said he was going to dyes his hair pink, of course that was followed up by 3 hour fight. My wife’s reasoning is that he’ll ruin his hair color(naturally he has really light,almost white hair and it’s pretty long). I think it’s fine, it’s hair, it’ll grow again it’s not gonna run anywhere.

They argued for hours and our son ended up locking himself in his room. This is not the first time something like this has happened and I’m honestly just as tired as my son is, he has to argue with my wife about everything. I mean if 16 year old wants to wear some ripped shirt and spiky necklace he shouldn’t have to fight with her mom about it. Everyone wore dumb shit like that in their teenage years. When I stand up for him my wife berates us both and acts like I’m against her. I’ve talked to her multiple times calmly but it doesn’t seem to work.

So after they finished fighting I told her she was just acting ridiculous now and it was getting to the point that her own son doesn’t want to talk to her anymore. I told her that I’m his parent too and if she has say in his decisions I have as much of a say. She got extremely upset and started crying about how I should always stick up for my wife.

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My wife just owned at parenting

So our kid is a bit under 3y/o. We don't really limit his PC/console/TV time because we don't believe it's not detrimental to his education/development.

However, after a whole day of Portal, Super Smash Bros. and funny cat videos we had enough. We were bored out of our minds, but he wasn't interested in quitting.

My wife wanted some mother-son board game time. Instead of suggesting the game, she offered our kid the blue piece (his second favorite) and she said she'll take the purple one (his favorite).

My kid, who moments before was fully into Super Smash Bros., Promptly dropped the remote and declared he'll be playing purple. They're still at it.

When I pointed out the pro reverse psychology move to my wife, she gave me a sideways glance with a smile and said "I only use it on him"... Now I'm questioning every decision I've made in the past decade

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MIL keeps undermining my parenting - is this more serious than I thought?

TLDR: MIL is passive aggressively undermining and disrespecting my parenting (almost to a dangerous point), and isn’t being receptive when my partner tries to explain this to her. Any experience or advice? A bit of a rant too.

CW: brief mention of traumatic childbirth

Sorry about format and extra length and errors etc, no time to spellcheck with a small child around.

I’m at the end of a really long tether with my partner’s mom, who I’ll just call MIL for ease, and am in desperate need of advice on how to handle this.

The main issues revolve around my four month old daughter. Because of the pandemic, MIL is the most obvious person to have as an extra pair of hands considering she was made redundant last year, so doesn’t really leave her house and lives alone, and is almost neurotic about everything health. She has had the vaccine too. Baby has awful reflux so we’re really struggling on our own.

Whenever she’s around, I feel like my parenting is constantly being undermined and she’s disrespectful in really passive ways. I can deal with singular incidents but they really compound during her visits and because of her journey, it makes sense for her to stay for longer periods of time. I’ve spoken to my partner about these issues and he’s tried to get her to understand but so far, nothing’s worked.

I’ll write a few examples below of situations that arose during her last visit. (Sorry this turns into a bit of a rant.)

  1. Baby woke up screaming about 20 mins into a nap that usually lasts over an hour. I was in another room sorting out laundry and MIL was with her. I waited for a minute to see if it would stop but it only got worse, to the point where it was very panicked screaming. I go and check it out and find MIL with her arm wrapped around baby, trying to awkwardly rock her back to sleep on the bed. I could tell it wasn’t going to work so picked up baby, who stopped crying immediately, and started rocking her myself to see if she just wanted a cuddle from me to go back to sleep. Nope, she was wide awake at this point, which was no biggie. I said to MIL, β€˜oh well, she’s wide awake now but I’m sure she’ll go down again in half an hour or so.’ MIL was not having this. She walked over, grabbed both of baby’s waving arms and pinned them to her body, as having reflux makes her thrash her arms around and rub her face a lot. I make another comment about it’s only going to get her more agitated but she counters me saying she always pins her arms down in he
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I don't need to be a parent to criticize your parenting

The number of times I see parents comment something like "oh the childless have an opinion, let me just wipe my ass with it" grows everyday. This has less to do with the quality of criticism than it does with the parents insulating themselves from valid criticisms.

I am capable of synthesizing the many nuances and norms of the society and culture I've been living in my whole life--the one that we share--and objectively judging if your parenting decisions in a specific moment are good or not. It's also not a stretch to hear about the repeated behavior of your child or children and make a relatively accurate assessment of whether or not you're a good parent.

It's not like it's none of my business either. Everyone in the communities you are part of are indirectly--if not directly--impacted by the kind of children you raise. The best analogy I can think of is driving. I don't need to be a licensed driver to know that someone is driving badly, dangerously, or normally. Furthermore, just because I take the bus doesn't mean your reckless driving doesn't impact my life at all.

I'm an adult with a normally functioning brain, I and everyone else like me are capable of judging if you're a good parent or not regardless of whether we have kids. In fact, we are all at least marginally invested in how you raise your kids, so we are also entitled to speak our minds if we feel you're letting your crotch goblins get away with murder. You're not required to take our criticisms to heart or respond positively, but if you think they're worthless just because they're from non-parents, you're just being lazy.

EDIT:

Reading the comments there seems to be a miscommunication so let me clear something up.

I did not say I was qualified to give advice and I am 300% sure that I am not. I do not consider "criticize" to be synonymous with "advise." My post is saying that the following is an acceptable statement from a non-parent:

"That guy/gal is being a bad parent right now" or "That guy/gal is a bad parent"

The following is not acceptable from a non parent:

"Hey, have you tried telling your kid not to scream in the restaurant?"

Advice from people who are not even experienced in the subject is unwelcome and I agree with this. To return to my car analogy, if I've never drove a car before, I have no business telling a licensed driver how to drive, I can only tell them that their driving appears to be bad.

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FYI - a lot of baby things parents brag about have nothing or little to do with parenting.

First time mom here. I heard this from my therapist recently and think it needs to be shouted from the mountain tops.

When I first had my baby, I was inundated with questions and comments from well-meaning friends, coworkers, etc.

β€’ β€œis he sleeping through the night?” Followed by β€œOh mine slept through the night at 3 weeks!”

β€’ β€œIs he a good nurser?” Followed by β€œMy baby ate so much he went up 20 percentiles in weight!”

β€’ β€œIs he turning over yet/holding his head up yet/babbling yet?” Followed by β€œMine did at ___ month”

(Actual things parents said to me.).

It made me feel like a shitty mom and like something was wrong with my beautiful baby. But, get this - these things that parents LOVE to brag about are honestly beyond your control and they have more to do with the personality of your baby. Yes, you can establish good sleep habits and work on sleep training when it is age appropriate, but some babies are just better sleepers than others. There isn’t really anything you can do about it. Yes, you can see a lactation specialist and work to help your baby be a better nurser, but at the end of the day their breastfeeding ability is their own. There’s nothing you can do about it. You can do tummy time and exercises and everything you’re supposed to do and still have a baby who lags behind developmentally.

My point is this. As a new parent, people made me feel shitty as a mom OR they made me resent my baby because β€œso and sos baby did it, why can’t he?” When these things that they were bragging about have LITTLE to NOTHING to do with parenting. You can’t parent your child to sleep through the night. You can’t parent them to be a better nurser. You can’t parent them to be advanced developmentally. All you can do is the best you can in conjunction with research and your doctor. Don’t feel shitty about things you can’t control!

I’m not saying to give up or to not try to reach those goals, but give yourself and your baby some grace.

I needed this today. I hope someone else does too.

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I sent my dad a print and a self-help parenting book for lesbian parents. He didn’t appreciate it very much... reddit.com/gallery/ko624c
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My unpopular parenting opinion of the day...

Age gaps don't really matter. You have little to no control over your kids relationships as siblings and in the end it doesn't really matter if they're friends or not.

I have a couple of friends who are struggling with this now. Wanting another child because they think the age gap would be perfect, but also wanting to wait because it's not the best timing in their lives. Have a kid (or not) when you want to, when it's best for you and your life, not because you think your kids won't be friends if you wait. Whether or not your kids are friends has more to do with personality than how far apart they are. Don't put that pressure on yourself, or your kids.

I have a brother close in age (2 years apart) and we're just not close. We fought as kids and then our relationship morphed into indifference during our teen years. It's clear we just have absolutely nothing in common, other than being related and that's not enough to nurture a friendship, especially a lifelong one. And that's ok! I'm not missing out by not having a sibling friend. I have wonderful friends. I have a great relationship with my parents. I have a happy family.

Anyone else?

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from a β€˜gentle parenting’ group. no teeth brushing, hair care, bathing or treatment of medical conditions because it goes against this toddler’s autonomy reddit.com/gallery/kgtix1
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Funniest things childfree people have told you about their idea of parenting?

This is not a post about something nasty or hurtful you've heard, but about something that was so hilariously, obliviously off-point, that it's actually funny. You can even add a thing or two that you yourself thought / said while you were childfree.

  1. When I was on maternity leave, my boss at the time called to ask me if I can write an article for our website. My baby was 2MO at the time, latched to my boob permanently and crying inconsolably whenever not either breastfeeding or being rocked. When I told my boss I have to hold her all the time, the response was: "Ok, so hold her with one hand and type with the other one."

  2. Back in the day when I was child free, I said something along the line of "well, can't they just roll off to the other side" when talking to my acquaintance about her newborn being uncomfortable while sleeping on their back. I can't even believe myself now.

  3. Recently, we were visiting our friends, who are child free by choice, but they really love my kid. When the guy heard my kid is into puzzles, he brought her a 1000 pieces Kiss by G. Klimt set. She is three years old.

  4. My husband thought kids start taking at around 3 months. He even asked our friend joyfully whether her little fella at the time was already saying something funny, when the fella was like 4 MO.

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AITA for not using "abstinence-only" parenting techniques in regards to my child's interest in pyrotechnics?

This situation has been building for months, and the conflict recently reached a head. I'd like to get an unbiased opinion.

I was gifted a smartTV towards the beginning of quarantine and I ended up using it to play music on YouTube when cleaning/ working/ doing school at home. I don't bar my kids from the room, but they're not sitting in front of the TV, either.

One day, my youngest came in during a music video that featured pyrotechnics and was very interested. I knew that I couldn't go, "fire bad never touch it," because this band was literally standing in an on-fire field. One shot made it look like they're all standing in the fire.

So I explained that there were A LOT of people on that set with A LOT of training and education and experience to ensure a safe environment for actors and musicians. She wanted to know more, so we looked up how to become a pyrotechnician, school requirements, etc.

All the while, I stressed the importance of safety. I told her about the Station Nightclub Fire, we looked up safety gear, and I took her to my local FS for a fire safety talk.

Then she hung out with her cousins and oh boy. She told them that she was going to become a fire scientist. Now everybody wants to become a pyrotechnician and now I'm in deep shit with the extended family. They say I'm irresponsible, immature, an unfit parent, and a whole host of other unkind things.

I have ASD, so I don't know if my approach was appropriate or not. I honestly don't see how ignorance is preferable to education, but, well. It is fire, and, safety precautions or not, I told my daughter that she could go to college to learn how to play with it.

AITA?

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Sure, parenting is cool and all, but have you ever considered a more *practical* use for your kids?
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My 8 year old SIL taught me the most important thing I've learned about parenting.

My husband and his siblings lost the parent lottery, big time. 2 divorced narcissists who are too busy caring about their image to care about their children. When my husband was a teenager, the responsibility of caring for his younger sisters fell on him because their parents either weren't around or didn't care.

This story happened a few years ago, but I think about it all the time.

Lauren (10) had lost a tooth. She stated very clearly to her father that night, "I lost a tooth, so the tooth fairy is coming tonight". I'm not sure if he wasn't listening or he didn't care, but the next morning, her tooth was still there and there was no dollar in sight. My husband asked his father if he wanted him to leave the money instead, but his father said no and that he'd get to it. This repeated for about 4 days, every day Lauren was getting more upset that the tooth fairy had forgotten her.

Until the 5th day. Lauren woke up and her tooth was gone. In its place, was around $1.20 in change, mostly 10 cent coins. She was momentarily confused, until Alice (8) told her maybe the tooth fairy took so long to come because she couldn't get the right amount of money. Lauren seemed to accept this, and went on her merry way.

After Lauren had left the room, Alice told me that it was her who had left the money. Alice had figured out that there was no tooth fairy and that their father had dropped the ball, but she didn't want Lauren to be disappointed, so she gave Lauren the change from her piggy bank.

Like I said, this was years ago, and I have a 1 year old now. But every time I start to feel tired of congratulating him for putting his shapes in the sorting bucket correctly, I remember 8 year old Alice having to pick up the slack for her father.

Then I say "Yaaaaaay!" and give my son a great big hug. Because I never want to be so jaded that I don't prioritise leaving him his tooth fairy money.

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My BF's lack of parenting skills and boundaries are destroying me

My BF (45M) and I (25F) have been dating for 2 years. We have been living together for 8 months. He has a 4 year old daughter, who I very much adore. I have fantasized about becoming a permanent part of this family.

We have some severe issues, though. I quite my job as a medical assistant during COVID because it was overwhelming, to become his sort of assistant/housewife and finish my RN. He pays for everything, and often complains about how "lazy" I am, and how I "don't earn my keep". He says these things despite me putting forth 24/7 work to keep the house clean and have everyone fed and taken care of in other ways. I am literally exhausted.

Our original arrangement asked me to focus on school and keep the house clean. It has now become my responsibility (without my full consent, without him fully communicating this), to be available to entertain his daughter whenever he decides it. Many times it is for several hours. He often leaves the house unannounced, and leaves me at random to entertain. I say entertain because any of my parenting skills or suggestions are shot down hard, leaving that as my only option.

Last night was a reoccurrence of what usually happens: I waited all day for her to get tired enough to fall asleep (BF refuses to make a bedtime for her), but it was 1030 and I had an assignment due at midnight that I hadn't started, and she was in no rush to go to bed. I was about to leave the room and just let him deal with it, but one of his business partners randomly stopped by for a drink. Before BF left with him, I stood up and told him that he would also have to watch his daughter because I had things to do before bedtime. This made him FURIOUS. He threatened to break up with me because he needed a "capable" partner, and I should've been able to finish my homework throughout the day (with what time though lol). How dare I do that to him??

I am absolutely beside myself. I have very little time to complete any school because I'm spending so much time taking care of my needy BF and his needy daughter. It is full time school too, I cant just do that in my *spare time*. I feel as though I'm going to flunk out of college because a 4 year old is controlling all of my time, clear up to controlling my bedtime.

I've tried communicating this but he refuses to listen. He takes massive offense to any parenting suggestions I have, and spoils his daughter beyond reason. I love them both and see his decisions affecting everyone

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MIL said that our parenting style will lead to my son needing antidepressants like I do and I’m beyond upset. Not sure where to go from here.

This is going to be long. Bear with me. Crossposed in another sub.

My husband is an only child. His parents, particularly his mom, are very overbearing. To give you an idea of what I mean, she had access to his bank account until we were married. She would watch his debit card to the point of texting him while he was with friends and saying, β€œI see you’re at Taco Bell and spent $6. What’d you order?” This was in high school. It hasn’t gotten much better since.

Here is a list of everything they’ve said about us as parents since he was born:

He sleeps too much (he was a week old) His swaddle is like a straight jacket We burp him too hard We don’t play with him enough I get home and put him to bed just so I don’t have to play with him We give him too much medicine (Motrin when he’s teething..) We let him cry too much (we did the Ferber method)

Among many other sly and passive aggressive comments.

He’s 28 and I’m 25. We are homeowners, parents to our precious baby son who is 1, and we both have full time jobs. We are normal, everyday people.

We see them at least once a week, if not twice.

I suffer from depression and anxiety and I take celexa. I’m not ashamed of this at all. Medication saved my life. This will be relevant later on.

The other night, they came over to help us do some minor construction in the house. She brought over some soup and I made guacamole, and we were about to have a family dinner. I had been working all day and got home around 4.

My son stayed at their house the night before. He cannot sleep anywhere besides his own bed, so he was up ALL night, and then took a 1.5 hour nap the day after. He needs at least 3 hours according to his pediatrician.

Anyway, he was exhausted. Eye rubbing, yawning, etc at 5. We were all commenting on how tired he was. Around 5:30, I went and gave him a bath.

Around 6:15, I went to brush his teeth. This is where shit hit the fan. You see, my son is 1 and obviously can’t make his own decisions. He is a very active boy who hates getting his teeth brushed, getting dressed, or getting a diaper. And when i say hates, I mean he hates it with a burning passion. He cries a lot, and because he was particularly exhausted this day, he was screaming while having his teeth brushed.

So I take him to the changing table to brush his teeth (I can’t do it in the bathroom because he plays with the faucet.) Meanwhile, my husband and his parents are in the living room. So while my son is screaming while getti

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AITA for telling my brother he can't comment on our parenting choices if we can't comment on his?

I (30f) am mom to three kiddos ages 7, 5 and 3. My brother (45m) married his wife Elaine (40f) and became a stepdad to her daughter Belle (16f) when she was 6 years old. Elaine was a widow and Belle's dad died 18 months before they met. My brother considers Belle his daughter and our family has always treated her as such. But she does not consider my brother her dad or any part of her family. She does not consider any of us her family and she openly shares this with anyone who assumes or makes the connection between us all. About a year ago my oldest asked me why Belle says they're not cousins and why she doesn't like us. I explained it's not that she doesn't like us but she's hurting because she lost her dad and then I explained that my brother raised Belle since she was 6 but he's not Belle's blood dad like my husband/her dad is her blood dad and that Belle doesn't want people to forget her blood dad so sometimes she gets angry when people forget. I explained that not all families are the same and even when we love someone they might not want to be part of the family and it doesn't always mean somebody is wrong it just means they have their own feelings and that's okay.

So my brother was Zooming with us kinda recently and he was venting a little about Belle not coming to say hi and he made a comment about being rude to her aunt, uncle and cousins and my oldest told him that it's okay if she doesn't say hi because she doesn't see us like that and it's not wrong. My brothers demeanor changed and he asked what my oldest meant. She said I explained that he wasn't Belle's blood dad and that Belle didn't like people to think he was, or that we were her blood family and that it wasn't wrong if she felt that way.

My brother grew visibly more annoyed and my husband took the kids into another room which is when my brother went off about me saying that to my oldest and how they are Belle's cousins and I'm Belle's aunt whether we like it or not. He then ranted on about how I should make better parenting decisions with my kids which was when I shut him down and told him he made it clear he did not want us commenting on anything relating to him and Belle so he had no right to comment on how I parent my children and try to help them through what is an uncomfortable and potentially upsetting family dynamic. He said it was different and he's still pissed more than six weeks later.

I think more than anything he might be mad that my kids know Belle isn't his biological

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"Nobody told us parenting would be THIS hard!"

I grew up the second oldest of seven. My older sister and I spent our childhoods raising the younger ones. My mother of course did the brunt of the cooking and cleaning but we helped some. My father was working long hours for peanuts, would come home and would also help cook and clean and help with child rearing despite being dead on his feet. I saw my parents struggle. Doing my little part raising my siblings, changing diapers, having to provide for them: I hated it. When I grew up and I was old enough to understand the world better I listened to other parents complain about how tired they were, how they never had any peace, never had any money, they were no longer them, they are "their kids parent". I saw how my father quite literally worked himself to death to provide for his children. I sat down, did the math weighed the pros and cons. And I said "that doesn't sound like a good time, no thank you."

So when I hear parents saying the above I just have to laugh. All the signs are there. People did try and tell you. But your hubris and your ego got in the way and you decided it would be fine, or you could handle it. That things would just "work out". Or "it will all be worth it." Now that reality has set in, and it's everything they told you it would be but worse, you're surprised? Give me a break.

So yes, I will continue to say "you signed up for this when you became a parent" because you literally fucking did. It's not my fault you weren't smart enough to listen to all the warning signs.

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Bringing a child on Omegle is the epitome of bad parenting v.redd.it/8pyy6ocgr3i61
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Well, I spent most of the day recovering from what I now see was gaslighting by a power-tripping admin of a "science-based" FB group for having the audacity to state that toddlers don't require cow's milk as a part of their diet. What parenting-related war crimes did you commit today?

Ugh, why did I let this bother me so much?

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Simpsons season 1 episode 6 has the best example of good parenting I've seen in media. Marge helps Lisa tackle her depression. youtube.com/watch?v=r5WeA…
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Enjoying SO getting bitten by his own lack of parenting

I don’t know if this really qualifies as a win and it probably means I’m a terrible person, but I genuinely enjoy seeing SO have his lack of parenting come back to haunt him.

As some background, SO and I buy groceries separately because I changed my diet for a medical condition. We’ve had ongoing issues with my SKs taking my food without permission. Not only is it an issue because it’s stealing and interferes with my meal plan, but it also violates SO’s rule requiring them to ask permission before snacking (and they usually eat it in their bedrooms, which is also against SO’s rules). Yet there are no consequences for any of this, and I finally had to resort to locking away my food.

I got SO a dozen cupcakes for Valentine’s Day from our favorite small business over 80 miles away. He let the kids each have one for dessert last night. I just heard him discover that the kids have apparently eaten all but one of the leftover cupcakes without permission, and someone ate the topping off of the last cupcake.

It’s petty, but damn does it feel good.

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Parenting Part of our Concept!🀩 reddit.com/gallery/l4mvqc
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Does anyone else not really like parenting?

I adore my son, he’s amazing. I do what I can to give him the best life possible under our circumstances. But I hate it. Absolutely hate this. We do the sports and kids shows and all that, and honestly I enjoy that stuff. What I don’t enjoy is the waking up early on weekends, fighting about dinner, tantrums, not being able to go on vacation or move where I’d like.

I feel horrible for it but I look forward to having grandkids and then sending them back to him Sunday night for 18 years more than I look forward to the next 13 years raising him. He’s great but being a mom is hard and I just don’t love it. I love him, but I don’t understand the women who say being a mom is the best thing they’ve ever done. We will never be exactly like friends because I’m his mother, but I look forward to him not needing me as much.

My own mother in law hates that her son has started his own family and I feel like that’s how I should feel but I’m so excited for him to grow up. Everyone says I’ll miss this but with each passing phase, growing out of bottles and potty training and now starting school, I like it more because he needs me less and less. He’s becoming his own person. I feel like I should be sad to see my baby grow up, not rushing it but I can’t help it. Having someone entirely dependent on me sucks.

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Ex-MIL is pissed at my daughters hair and my "overly PC" parenting

So backstory, I dated her son for 4 years, for some reason had two kids with him, all the while I wasnt allowed to have friends, did all the housework and child care while he smoked weed 24/7 (I don't smoke). She was... fine during the relationship. She was a bit controlling but always helpful and kind to my face.

As soon as we split (there was another woman) I became the devil in her eyes. Every thing I do is wrong, despite her son still being an absolute drop kick who only sees his kids once a month.

Aaaaanyway, the current feud is my daughter for 6 months has been asking for short hair. I have a mohawk and she hates brushing her hair so not surprising, I told nana around 3 months ago and she said "no, shes not allowed, she's only 3, she needs to know nana and mommy are in charge." She's 4 in april and very independent and strong willed. Probably gunna be a CEO one day. So that afternoon I showed my girl some pics of long mohawks and that's what we did, kept the length in the middle and shaved the sides, she loved it so much but after a few weeks was still asking for really short hair. So today we did it. It was a reward for toilet training, and it looks so so good, she adores it and her smile honestly makes it all worth it. So I sent some photos to Nana, at my girls request. All she says is "you dont want my opinion. It's an inappropriate cut for a girl."

So I've told my husband to be home next time she comes over cause there is a storm brewing and I am ready for it.

Along with the hair she hates that I let my kids choose a meal each a week, they pick all their own clothes (and sometimes it ends up my son in a dress or my daughter in "boys" clothes) and for toilet training I just let my daughter lead instead of forcing it. Basically just that I give my kids as much bodily autonomy as they need, they still know I'm the boss and they're very polite and kind kids so clearly I'm doing something right.

Any advice on nicknaming her or on the coming battle is welcome.

Edit: thank you for all the support on my free range parenting, I was starting to doubt but I think I'm good now. The winner of the nickname is Nana Nohawk, that's gold. Also my daughter after her haircut was giggling "nohawk!" So that wins haha

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[SERIOUS] I'm a parent with two kids under 2. What is/are your "I wish I would have... and your I'm glad I did..." things for parenting?
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