AITA for refusing to do the household chores during my parents in law visit?

Update: thank you all for the comments, DMs and awards. My husband found this post and has read all the comments so he said thank you as well. We have discussed it and it turns out parents in law detest me and has chastised husband for not marrying his ex who was more submissive. They are still in contact with this ex and often compare me to her in my absence. They have called me horrible names , said I’m a bad wife and have said I’m selfish for pursuing a graduate degree. FIL has even gone to the point of calling husband a “sissy” for changing diapers, feeding his son and basically being a parent. I didn’t know any of this and I was saddened to hear that husband has been defending me to his parents for years. He claims he wanted to shut them up once and for all by showing them I can be a “good wife.” He apologized for requesting this and explained that he was desperate. I apologized for shutting him down and not digging deeper into the issue. We called parents in law this morning. I was livid. I confronted them for the verbal abuse they have subjected my husband to over the years. We explained that we run an equal household where everyone pitches into the best of their ability. I added that I expect the both of them to pitch in if they do decide to come. They were quiet and abruptly hanged up. They called back a few minutes later and MIL is now claiming that she is not feeling well and they won’t be able to come. I’ve encouraged husband to seek therapy to rebuild his self confidence. I’m so glad I posted here. Thank you all for your input.

Original post: Throwaway, apologies for grammar and formatting issues. Husband was raised in a very conservative family with traditional gender roles. When husband and I started dating, he didn’t even know how to do laundry, cook or clean properly. I immediately told him this wouldn’t fly and he expressed a willingness or dare I say enthusiasm to learn. He’s now a great cook, cleans like a pro even to the point where he covers about 60-70% of the household chores in addition to equally raising our 9 months old son. I am unable to contribute equally to the household chores since I started graduate school full time and also has a full time job.

Here comes the issue, we had the baby at the height of the pandemic in our state, MIL and FIL lives about four hours away but we were taking extra precautions and prevented anyone from seeing our son. Both states now have less than 5% infection rate, both FIL and MIL have quaran

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AITA for saying all gifts came from Santa, even if it upsets my parents in law?

I'm a widower. My late wife's family was very rich and my family growing up was borderline destitute. I've made something of myself but it doesn't compare to my parents in law who were both petroleum engineers. I have two kids, 3M and 4F.

Christmastime is hard on my mom because she cannot compare her giftgiving to my parents in laws. For example, this year her gifts were all either handmade or knickknacks from the dollar store. She just can't afford much and refuses my help (I've wanted to pay off her mortgage for 10 years now). Compare this to my parents in law who got them a PS5, two Switches, a new Xbox, and $250 cash each. My mom might have spent $50 in total for each kids.

Last year I wanted to say all of the gifts were from Santa, so my mom doesn't feel left out. This charade didn't last long when my parents in law made it clear to them what they got them. They don't do Santa, or maybe they're malicious, I don't know. This year I put my foot down and told them months ago that there'll be no names on gifts, it's all from Santa.

They told me I'm diminishing their grandparenting impact and I should just be straightforward. Am I the asshole if I don't? We of course appreciate their gifts but this is even making me depressed, seeing even my own gifts pale in comparison. I got them new coats, new boots, and bikes for spring.

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Parents' attempts to saddle their kids with ridiculous names. Imagine the state we'd be in if there wasn't a law against child abuse in this form.

Last year's attempts have been released. What is the fixation with justice and royalty?

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Does anyone else's parents/in-laws have an entire room in their house dedicated to storing food that expired 10 years ago?

This Mormon virtue-signaling mindset of "the more food I have, the more righteous I am" drives me crazy. It drives Mormons to fill a room with food and then forget about it.

My in-laws are constantly feeding us food with an expiration date from 10+ years ago.

Most of it is fine but you can definitely tell some of it has an expiration date for a reason. It just drives me crazy that this kind of thing isn't just okay in mormonism, it's celebrated.

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Just want to visit my parents with my husband without an entourage of in-laws

Please do not reproduce this anywhere

Hi all, I need some advice. I (30f) have been married to my lovely and considerate husband (34 m) for one year and 4 months. My family is in a different country and his family is a 7 hour drive away from us. Prior to us getting married, I would visit him (as I also lived in a different country from him at that point) and we would take 4 trips a year (at the very least) to visit his parents. I spent one Christmas with them in the 4 years we were dating and didn't mind it, but also didn't love it. I just find Christmas in the US very focused on gifts and consumerism and not enough on people and christ's birth (I prefer thanksgiving). It's also always struck me as unfair how much work my MIL has to do in preparation for the Christmas Eve dinner they have every year with family and friends. In my humble opinion, she does too much with nobody else's help and makes the whole thing really stressful for herself. It stresses me out just being there and watching and quite honestly, I am used to going on vacation with my own family over Christmas to a sunny beach somewhere and not slaving over food preparation and hosting like she does. Anyway, I didn't mind then, because my in-laws are ok people. But most importantly, I always took time out to see my own parents in my own time especially during Christmas. I treasure meaningful time spent with my biological family because I live and work in a different country from the one where they all live in. I should also mention that my in-laws also came to see my parents in my home country one Christmas and it was by far the least relaxing time I had at home and the shortest time I spent with my actual family because there was so much fanfair about their presence. At that point, I was happy to do it because it was the initial meeting of both families and I wanted everyone to get to know each other, but I remember flying back to work exhausted from all the co-ordination and planning and also felt that I hadn't spent any meaningful time with my biological family as I was baby sitting my in-laws in my home country as they toured sites etc.

Fast forward to last year Christmas, we spent it with them as I couldn't travel back due to restrictions beyond my control and also because we figured we would spend Christmas with my parents in 2020. Well, the freaking pandemic hit and we couldn't go, so my husband and I spent Christmas by ourselves. I happened to mention to our in-laws th

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Anyone here dealing with Desi parents and in-laws?

My cf boo and I (early 20’s) got married a few months back. We’re still professionally qualifying etc so no pressure there as of yet, but there definitely have been some sly comments about ‘getting busy’.

My mom didn’t take it too well when I suggested we won’t be for a million reasons and one, going as far as saying she will move to us and quit her job/life/etc to care for my partner when she’s pregnant and we can leave the kids with her (you know the type).

I know the questions are coming in a year or two, and I’m not too phased but would like to handle it better if I can (nip in bud vs slow reveal). So just wondering if other older Desi have dealt with in-laws and parents re this, how you’ve gone about it and how that’s ended up? If it’s at all relevant, our families are Muslim as well (so often very anti abortion etc).

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What impact would paying for a parent visa and supporting in-laws have on FI in Australia?

My boyfriend is thinking about bringing his parents here from Europe at some point. A parent visa can cost quite a lot, depending on which visa it can cost ~$90k for the application. Jointly we would be making $110k post tax.

I see that we'll struggle with FI since we would essentially be supporting another family. We won't be investing much as regularly, less salary sacrifice, possibly raising kids and costs associated, being out $90k would help contribute to a deposit, ongoing costs to house and feed them.

Are there any implications of doing this that I haven't thought about?

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There is a hole in my Parents in Law's backyard that was not there before. What is it? and should we be worried?

First, I want to apologize wholeheartedly if this is the inappropriate place to post this. If someone knows the proper place to put it, kindly please direct me to it. I did not know where else to post this.

Pictures of hole here: https://imgur.com/a/6IDQQzr

So a few months back, I was at my Parents in law house, and helped them cut the grass in their backyard. I did not see a hole in the yard then.

Just yesterday, my mother in law cut the grass and found this hole in the ground. It does not go directly downwards. That is to say, completely perpendicular to the ground. Rather, it is more like a 30 degree angle relative to the ground. I was at the house this morning and took a five foot mop and tried to see how far it goes. I would say the mop went in about halfway before stopping. I'm not sure if it stopped because that was the end of the hole, or if whatever dug the hole changed trajectory midway. I tried jumping on the hole to see if the parts directly above it gives way and collapses, but there was no budge on the soil on top.

Around the last time I cut the grass in the backyard, my father in law wanted to wash some decor around the backyard. He used a type of soap that was toxic for the grass around it. It killed the grass. The greenery around it is what grew later. I am not certain if that has to do with anything, and while I doubt it, I want to give this information in the event it is pertinent.

What could have made this hole? We have shrews in the neighborhood (they look like rats). Are they known to make holes like these? Could a snake have done this?

Thanks guys!

My parents in law live in Singapore, so it is an extremely city setting. They live in a house with a yard, but the backyard is pretty small.

This came to mind, and I'm unsure how to exactly describe it. So every house in the neighborhood has these drainages that go directly into a "sewage" area that is exposed and not covered. This sewage area is right behind the backyard.

A picture is worth a thousand words, so here is my best attempt to draw it on paint. Sorry. I konw it sucks.

https://imgur.com/tIswbMq

Basically, if we go behind the backyard, there is a sewage area that receives all the house's junk. I know this invites cockroaches, but I think cockroaches wouldn't be able to make that kind of hole. Or maybe they can.

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Parents-in-law on their wedding day in 1971. Both passed unexpectedly this year. RIP.
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Parents in law GET IT

I (F21) was having dinner at my boyfriend’s (22) house last night with his family, and it was just us two and his parents* sitting at the table.

I had walked away to put my plate away and over heard my boyfriend’s dad start talking about my boyfriend (and I by extension) having kids. When my boyfriend responded to him, “I don’t want to be a parent” and as I was coming back to the table I started to brace myself for some bingos that ... never came.

My boyfriend said, “I’d rather just have pets instead,” and his mom turned to me and asked if I wanted kids, to which I said no. I told her the reasons why (beyond just “I don’t want them,” because I figured a little rationale behind why might make her more accepting of the idea) and in the middle she said, “You don’t have to have children. Everyone has their own path.”

As we were talking about it, I said that I felt there were so many other directions that my life could go in, that I didn’t want the responsibility of it (having babysat, having a younger brother, seeing what he was like when he was a baby, and of course having read all the stories across subreddits, but I didn’t mention that last bit), and last but not least, having seen the vaginal birthing video in eighth grade sex ed was the straw that broke the camel’s back. No thank you. No way that’s ever going to be me.

His parents made me feel heard, made my choice to live childfree with my boyfriend validated, and didn’t push back on the idea that I’d ever change my mind or that I’m missing out on some great thing.

I feel like I’ve really had to push to make my own parents/other family understand that I’m not having kids, and so when my boyfriend’s parents so easily accepted what I was saying at face value and nothing else, it made me feel so understood. I’m so glad they get it.

TLDR: Had dinner with my boyfriend’s parents, talked about being childfree and wasn’t met with any bingos! Just support for whatever we want to do with our lives. It made me feel seen and heard, that what I want to do with my life isn’t dependent on popping out a responsibility for a lifetime!

*Technically they’re not in laws yet, but we do have plans to get engaged/married after my boyfriend finishes his masters program, they call themselves (and my parents call them) my in laws so it’s all good.

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Am I wrong to think my mother in law doesn’t have a place to “parent” me?

I (27F) have been with my husband (29M) for about 5 years, married for 2 now. His mom and I have struggled with each other since he and I began shopping for my engagement rings, so I honestly can’t tell if I’m just overly sensitive to her criticisms.

We’ve had boundary issues and struggles in the past, and while things have improved, I still sometimes have an issue with how she inserts herself. The most recent issue is that she thinks I shouldn’t be posting my political and religious opinions on Facebook. With the recent events in the US, I have been outspoken with how it makes me feel and the issues I have in our religion’s role in it. On Monday she decided to text us both and tell me that she thinks what I post is a red flag of sorts, and passed it off as concern for how it could affect my job or future employment for both of us. I told her I appreciate her concern but that I’m pretty careful with social media and my coworkers who are connected with me on there have never said anything.

My husband agrees with her take and thinks I just have a bias against her, but I strongly feel like we don’t have a relationship built for her to have that kind of place in my life. My own mom will not say things to me unless I ask her advice or insight so I’m accustomed to more freedom without chastisement as an adult closing in on 30 years old. Am I wrong to want to tell my MIL to back off?

TL;DR my MIL thinks she has a place to give me parental advice, and I disagree.

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Parent-in-laws wedding present. Le Creuset 5.3L dutch oven and 26cm grill pan. So stoked!
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Need to take that out of my chest : I loved having an excuse (covid rules) to not be able to go to my parents and in laws for the holidays. It makes me happy to not bring into the world a children who would have the social burden to come every christmas.

I slept so well during holiday break. I am also very lucky to have the two whole week off. Going at my parents and in laws would take around 12h ride, sometimes in a snow storm, they live about 5 hours away each other. I am single child so there's not big party at my parents. And my bf have his parents and one sister and one adolescent nephew. It is just a gathering like the others we can do all year long at this point in my opinion.

I know it is unpopular opinion but I would like to be this the new tradition. We will see each other during the year (I hope), no need for the holidays stress!

edit : spelling. English is not my first language

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FTM waiting to tell parents and in-laws

Any other first time moms here waiting on telling their parents?

I am currently 6+0 and found out myself about a week and a half ago. My husband and I have told a few close friends and my sister, but that’s all.

At first I said I wanted to wait because I want to get fun grandparent gifts for MIL and FIL to tell them (their first grandchild), but now I just sort of want to wait...awhile.

Am I a bad person for feeling the need to wait until after NIPT results? What does it say about me that I am putting so much weight on that test? (I’m not high risk as far as I know). I normally am very open with my parents about health discussions so it’s strange to be completely hiding this from them.

Appreciate any thoughts from you guys. Thanks for being the coolest group of future parents around ✌️

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Both my parents and in laws are putting the pressure on me

My significant other and I have been together for four years. He and I are super young (both 20) and our parents are already strongly hinting at grandchildren. We can't have a conversation with either set of parents without the topic of us having kids coming up. We both still live at home. I'm in college and only work part time. Why the hell would they think now is a good time to have kids?

Note: If you're gonna make a snarky comment about our age and that we won't work out/should break up kindly don't bother.

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My parents and brother-in-law really delivered for the holidays.
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Finally got an A in law school. My parents: “so you had the ability to get A’s, why couldn’t you get A’s before?”

Aghhhh. Can’t blame them for being annoyed I didn’t do great before, they’ve sacrificed a lot to get me here and I’m very grateful for that. But it’s not that simple, there’s a curve, so even Einstein would still only have like a 20% chance of getting an A...and getting all A’s is statistically almost impossible. Tbh just getting a B and being average in a group of very smart people is kinda impressive. How do you explain that curves make it way harder to get an A? Feeling pretty down rn, I wish I did better but I also want them to be proud of me and I’m sick of feeling like I disappoint everyone.

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My parents and mother in law got their Covid shot today.

They live in retirement apartments. The auditorium was set up for the delivery and chairs were set up two meters apart for the residents while they waited. They said it was quick and efficient and all the residents were smiling. I must say, it is a great load off my mind to know that they have gotten the first one and will be receiving the second in a couple of weeks.

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Complicated in-law retirement plans (and my parents are on the same track)

My in-laws and my parents haven’t planned well for retirement despite giving well over 200k per couple to the cult. I love them all very much and I don’t lament the idea of helping any of them as they age.

That’s said I’d like to get as much as I can out of the cult as I can vicariously through these aging folks as they have a good reason to get the money and have donated faithfully/ignorantly forever. When I say “I”, I do not not mean for me but to cut down my costs and the costs of the other siblings.

My wife’s siblings have proposed a trust fund to cover housing costs for my in-laws. I understand that that means the funds go right to the intended thing (housing) and nothing else (church donations). I love the idea except that I know how much they’ve given to Mormonism and i can only assume The church could help them out a great deal.

I don’t think they’ll ask for church help for several reasons:

-pride -their kids can help them -they’re about to move so they won’t know the ward well enough to come in and ask for cash

I’m curious if any of you have dealt with a similar situation. I’m the only exmo on my wife’s side and we all get along great and they all know I’m out. My wife also doesn’t attend and they know that but unlike me she still claims to be Christian.

If you’ve dealt with this what did you do? How did it go? My in-laws currently don’t know about the plan for the trust fund. Again I’m fine helping them and I can, luckily.

Thanks in advance

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AITA For telling my parents they don't have the right to control who my sister in law brings over?

Me, my wife, and daughter live with my parents. We moved in recently when my father was diagnosed with cancer.
Shortly after moving in, my parents gave permission for my sister in law (SIL) and her daughter to move in so we can help her and her daughter. We live in the in-law suite. It has it's own bedrooms, kitchen, and entrance. It's like an apartment attached to house.

Today, SIL had a boy over who stayed the night. SIL is 32yo. Also today, my parents said she can't have boys over without asking. Their argument is that they have a right to know who is on their property and she should have asked. If anything were to happen, it would be their property, their liability, their insurance and they don't want strangers on their land without their knowledge.

I argued that SIL is an adult and they can't control who she invites over. She has a right to have a friend, boyfriend or other, over.

They countered that they don't trust her or her judgement. And I said then trust us because we know what's going on.

We argued a bit, which wasn't pleasant and then the conversation was interrupted.

So, AITA for telling them she can bring over whoever she wants?

Edit: Thanks for all the feedback. I'm going to stop monitoring since every time I answer a question, even ones just asking for more info, it's gets down voted into oblivion and then someone else asks the same thing. It's very counterproductive.

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What does the "chain of command" of care look like in your family? My brother in law is high spectrum autistic and his parents passed away last year.

I love my brother in law, but my husband is asking me for some responsibility for him and I'm not sure if I'm really the right person he should be asking. I am a stay at home mom to my 13 month old daughter and I want to support my husband, but I don't want to do so if it is at the detriment of care to my daughter. Please excuse the weird lingo, as this is all coming from my husband's sometimes inaccurate description of his home care situation.

My brother in law was just approved to have a family member to be paid by a home care company to take care of him for 40 hours a week. My husband has another, non autistic, brother, who lives with the autistic brother, and is going to be the person being paid to take care of him. My husband, me, and our daughter live in a separate home a few minutes' drive away. The home care company needs a back up "second worker" in order to complete this process. My husband asked me if I can be this person. It involves signing paperwork and going for a medical examination, which I am reluctant to do because of covid and taking time away from my daughter (it would only take 2-3 hours I think, but we are still breastfeeding and she is very attached to me). Is it wrong of me to have reservations about signing up, and should I just step up? There are more family members, one aunt and one uncle, and a few cousins, who are about an hour drive away. Should they be the ones going through this process as the second worker? I want to help take care of my brother in law but I also want to make sure my own boundaries are respected.

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Parents in law expecting too much? AS reveals they are in their 80's!!

https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4152338-To-not-accept-these-demands?watched=1&msgid=104215700#104215700

AIBU?

MiL and FiL have offered to form a childcare bubble with us, so long as they have had both covid jabs, in order to look after DD aged 3 when I go into hospital to have her sibling in a few months time. A very kind offer.

But today we've woken up to a string of requests of how they intend to do this. 1) they cannot stay in our spare room as the (standard sized) double bed is too small for both of them and will need to use our own bedroom along with the spare so they each have a bed. MiL is approx a size 10 and FiL is underweight so they're not big people needing a lot of sleeping space, i would think. We have a house with only 1 spare (guest) room. Why can't they share? I'd really rather not have one of them sleep in my bed, not least at it'll mean DH (6ft 2, large build) sleeping on the sofa if he returns from hospital late evening/during the night. Plus it would be an upheaval to have to wash and dry 2 sets of bedding (spare and our room) when I've just come out of hospital after having a baby. 2) alternatively they will have DD at their house but will not be able to take her to preschool on the 3 days a week she normally attends as its "too far to drive" (30 min drive from their house, 2 min from ours). We are reluctant to change her routine as she is about to have a huge upheaval with an new baby, and she loves and feels secure at preschool. Plus its open 7.30am to 6.30pm so would give MiL and FiL a days break from parenting her, if I were to be in hospital on a preschool day. Plus we have a cat that we would ask them to feed, enroute to preschool 2x a day, but they wouldn't be able to if they were at their house and unwilling to make the journey to and from preschool 3) they would like us to ensure there are meals prepared for them in the fridge to simply heat up. Obviously we will do our best to ensure everything they need is there but I can't help thinking meals in the fridge is a bit excessive?! I've no idea when I will go into labour so am unable to prepare things "just incase". Can't they cook or get a takeaway? Obviously I will leave meals prepared for DD as we have a supply of those always in the freezer, but to do the same for my inlaws is surely a bit much, considering

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I accidentally called my baby daddy’s parents my “in-laws” to the Home Depot guy.....

Friday my baby daddy (bd) went to Home Depot because we are re doing our toddlers bedroom. I live with his parents. I have for a year and I spend everyday with them. I call them mom and dad and they say I’m there daughter. They are very open arms type christians. So they took me and my daughter in no problem.

So. Like the title says. I referred to my bd mom as my mother in law to the paint guy at Home Depot. I have never used that term but my bd parents often call me there daughter in law. They aren’t comfortable saying baby mama. They think it’s demeaning to me and to there grandchild. Which I agree. I don’t really like the term.

Anyways. Here is what I said for context.

“ can we get this colour but a little lighter.” Guy: “ well how much lighter? .” Me “ blah blah blah it’s for my mother in law blah blah blah .” He goes oh okay. I come back and he tells me what he did.

Whatever. It’s been 3 days.

Today we are doing more room work and my bd goes why did you refer to my mom as your mother in law? I said well because if I said my mom was a turquoise room on the darker side. And if the colour is off most likely my mother would let it slide. By saying it was my mother in law it gives the impression of a green hairy monster who will freak out if the colour isn’t correct.

I explained that to him and he goes on about how he doesn’t want to lead people to believe we are in a relationship. AS WE ARE WALKING AROUND HOME DEPOT WITH OUR CHILD. Who is calling us “ mama and dads” Like why the freak does it matter how I refer to his parents to the old guy at Home Depot.

He and I are not together and never have been. It was a one night stand and I got knocked up. We decided to co parent.

I feel like this wouldn’t be a problem if I was prettier. I don’t think it has anything to do with people thinking we are a couple. It clearly has to be about my looks. Because if I was super hot, who cares but since I’m not he is scared that people think I’m ugly and he is dating down.

I got really upset and I just shut down. Idk what to do or say to him.

Feedback please.

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If your spouse's parents are your parents-in-law that would make you and your spouse siblings-in-law
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Hello couples I would like ask how often do you guys fight. I have seen my parents fights and then my brother and sister in law and then my uncle and aunt. This happens once a month atleast.

Btw I am 22 and this idea of marriage is nauseating when all people do is fight after getting married. Do people actually have a stable post wedding life or fights are common and always happen ? No offense but I can't concentrate on studies when I see my folks fight and extrapolate a simple issue into a fallout

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Gift for my parents in law

Hi everybody I hope you have a peaceful day/night, My parents in law offered me a very generous gift and I would like to offer them something in exchange. I would like something that they would use or see everyday as a reminder. They are wealthy enough that they can pretty much get what they wish for hence why I have not clue what to get them. Any ideas welcomed !

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I'm afraid my Sister-In-Law is going to kill my parents
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“Don’t try to swindle me because I like cake!” Cake server for my sister-in-laws Christmas parent.
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Wife and parents in law are playing mind games with me since the birth of my child. Please help me understand this?

My wife and I had our first child almost a year ago. I am the bread winner in the house and she is the "housewife" or at least pretends to be. Most of our fights have been going on over bad roommate issues, where she doesn't want to do any chores. Her parents are extremely leech like and don't want us to have a life of our own. Now things have become so bad that she keeps on threatening me with divorce, but she never actually wants it. My parents in law also coddle her continuously and make me seem like I'm a bad husband. She has been very abusive towards me (verbally and physically) and walks out on me whenever we have the smallest argument and takes our kid with her. When I started taking a stand and not let her take the child, her parents forcibly took the kid and I couldn't do anything because my wife was with them.

Now they want to make things good again but they never admit to her faults and always make me seem guilty despite the fact that I have never been mean to her (she herself admits that). I need someone from this sub to speak to me in DM so I can explain the situation more clearly. I really need help and want to understand their psyche before I go crazy myself.

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Anyone in Orwigsburg able to shovel out my parents-in-law?

My father in law is no longer able to shovel snow and lives in a fairly secluded neighborhood technically in Schuylkill county. You would be paid obviously!

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Parent In-Laws got these custom Vans for me. Family friend painted them.
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My mother in law & only parent figure I've ever had just tested positive for cancer.

Colon Cancer. They just did a biopsy. She goes in for a scan in the near future.

Like many others, this is my first experience with someone who has cancer. I guess my first go-to question would be;

What can I do right now outside of the normal help her with rides, etc? Are there any....materialistic things I can buy to help? Other than spending more time with her, what else can I do?

This woman is the same one who took me in (along with her late husband) when I was homeless. I'm doing so well solely because of them, and this absolutely destroys my heart.

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AITA for limiting the number of guests my future parents in law invite to my wedding?

EDIT TO CLARIFY: I live in Australia, we have no Covid restrictions at all in my state, zero cases, zero community spread. Its an outdoor wedding and reception and its not until 2022.

My fiance and I are getting married soon and are writing up our guest list. We both come from large families and friendship groups so have around 210 on the list so far, 60 are from his family, 40 from mine and 100 combined friends. We are struggling to cut the number down and also struggling with costs. My parents are putting in 15k and his parents are putting in 10k. His parents did the same for his sister and also explicitly told us that the money is for a wedding only ie if we eloped we didn't get the money. I offered to them that if they had a special person they wanted included on the list as I wanted to be inclusive and show my respect to my new mother and father in law. They then came back with an additional 14 of their friends they wanted invited, who I have never met and my fiance has only met a couple of them.

I want to say no and limit them to a smaller number like 6 but I appreciate them giving us money for the wedding in the first place so I feel rude. Their additions are another $1400 and I don't want a bunch of people at my wedding me or my fiance have never met. I also really wanted to elope anyway as I didn't want a huge wedding bur my fiance didn't and now I feel like its going to be over 225 people, which is a lot. This is stressing me out and making it hard for my fiance and I as we feel we now need to cut our friends to make room for these extra people.

So AITA for telling them 14 is too many friends for them to invite?

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What if there's a law that you need a higher IQ than your parents to have children, would we get superhumans in a few centuries? What else would happen?
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How did you all handle your soon to be parents in law at first

Im asking cause i remember me and my wife are in our 20th year of marriage and we never saw each other during our first few anniversaries cause her mom was a control freak . She always said im the perfect fit for her daughter but i could never see her on my birthday,or during Christmas or our anniversaries when we first started dating. Did you all also get mixed weird feelings from your not yet parents in law

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My parents and brother-in-law really delivered for the holidays.
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When a couple gets married, they call their partner's parents in laws, so technically they have the same parents, just not genetically. Then they are siblings in a way.
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I see a lot stories like these, but the question is, WHAT SHOULD A TEENAGE GUY DO IN THIS SITUATION ? NO ONE HAS EXTREMELY SUPPORTIVE PARENTS, HUGE MONEY FOR LAWSUITS AND NO LAWS EXITS FOR FAKE LIFE DESTROYING ACCUSATIONS. Have seen one low-key case in my school, was pretty fucked up for the guy.
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If your defacto partner's parents are not your in-laws, what should we refer to them as?
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Is there an unspoken, mandatory law between parents to ruin any good mood we're in?

I swear, it happens every time. You start the day feeling as good as you can for having to get out of bed, you get ready, your parents wake up, you happily say good morning/hi to them and what do they do? The respond with bringing up a sensitive subject that you already know about, have already talked about, hate talking about, and they know it will start an argument. I feel like they do this so they can feel some sort of power over you. They know that there is no chance of you winning the argument because they can do whatever the hell they want and no matter how right you are, no after how great your points are, you're wrong. Do they just love "winning" arguments at the expense of their kid's mental state. It takes a huge toll on you when you're forced to stay silent while they scream their heads off and berate you for literally nothing. It's usually something that might have happened a long time ago or didn't happen at all. I wanna know. Is it some unspoken rule between them, if not, why the hell do they do it?

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Nesting behavior? Basically my family (parents and siblings) was pet sitting my bird while my husband and I were visiting my in laws. My sister would hold my bird like this while he/she slept (literally rocking them like a baby) the habit has obviously not stopped, would this create issues later? v.redd.it/8e9zcbp495b61
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A butcher block for my parents in law. During summer we spend time on a island. Fishing and playing cards. reddit.com/gallery/ktxjva
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There is a hole in my Parents in Law's backyard that was not there before. What is it? and should we be worried?

First, I want to apologize wholeheartedly if this is the inappropriate place to post this. If someone knows the proper place to put it, kindly please direct me to it. I did not know where else to post this.

Pictures of hole here: https://imgur.com/a/6IDQQzr

So a few months back, I was at my Parents in law house, and helped them cut the grass in their backyard. I did not see a hole in the yard then.

Just yesterday, my mother in law cut the grass and found this hole in the ground. It does not go directly downwards. That is to say, completely perpendicular to the ground. Rather, it is more like a 30 degree angle relative to the ground. I was at the house this morning and took a five foot mop and tried to see how far it goes. I would say the mop went in about halfway before stopping. I'm not sure if it stopped because that was the end of the hole, or if whatever dug the hole changed trajectory midway. I tried jumping on the hole to see if the parts directly above it gives way and collapses, but there was no budge on the soil on top.

Around the last time I cut the grass in the backyard, my father in law wanted to wash some decor around the backyard. He used a type of soap that was toxic for the grass around it. It killed the grass. The greenery around it is what grew later. I am not certain if that has to do with anything, and while I doubt it, I want to give this information in the event it is pertinent.

What could have made this hole? We have shrews in the neighborhood (they look like rats). Are they known to make holes like these? Could a snake have done this?

Thanks guys!

Edit 1: My parents in law live in Singapore, so it is an extremely city setting. They live in a house with a yard, but the backyard is pretty small.

Edit 2: This came to mind, and I'm unsure how to exactly describe it. So every house in the neighborhood has these drainages that go directly into a "sewage" area that is exposed and not covered. This sewage area is right behind the backyard.

A picture is worth a thousand words, so here is my best attempt to draw it on paint. Sorry. I konw it sucks.

https://imgur.com/tIswbMq

Basically, if we go behind the backyard, there is a sewage area that receives all the house's junk. I know this invites cockroaches, but I think cockroaches wouldn't be able to make that kind of hole. Or maybe they can.

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