I recently went through a short-lived but intense romance.
A random, one night stand turned into a month of chatting daily, only for the guy to essentially "love-bomb" me and return to his ex-girlfriend (they had broken up just a couple weeks before). Not only that, he had the audacity to ask me to lie to his now girlfriend who was thinking of reaching out to me to see how far things got with us. Apparently, he only told her a watered down version of how we met, and that there was no physical contact when in fact he we had an amazing hook up that night and he was smitten with me for a month afterwards.
Basically, his message to me about getting back with his ex felt incredibly cold. And I hated how he acted surprised that I was hurt, as if just a few weeks ago he wasn't telling me about how he wanted to travel with me or how much he missed me. It was as if I meant nothing to him.
It sucked, and it was a slap in the face. I was hurt, I was miserable, I was in shock.
So I went to my therapist. And I asked her - did he mean anything he said to me? Was he lying when he told me he wanted to see me again, that he thought I was perfect, etc? Did I essentially just let myself romanticize something that never existed? Am I going crazy here?
She helped me to see a few things.
But that's the easy part. The difficult things she helped me to do were to reframe the situation and give it my own narrative. That perhaps he reconnected with his ex in the week prior when I felt him pull away, that he felt guilty and told her as much as he could, that perhaps she was devastated and jealous and he went into panic mode and sent me the message that he did to try and salvage what was left. That perhaps he did feel the exact things he felt with me at the time, but as a way to cut off his own emotions and return to the ex, or perhaps the guilt he felt for hooking up with someone so soon after a break-up (that could have very well been a "we were on a break!" type of scenario), his message was written in a cold way for his own emotional self-preservation, at my expense. Perhaps when you're with someone for a decade, like he was with his ex, the first few months after a break-up are a whirlwind of emotions and while he genuinely did feel the way he felt for me and the experience was special to him, he wasn't able to navigate things clearly and ultimately handled them the way he did.
This version of events I can deal with.... keep reading on reddit ➡
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I am the oldest of 5 siblings, and this particular brother is 11 years younger than I am. He may not listen to me, but when - not if - when I talk to him about his situation I want to offer potential solutions, not just sympathies.
TLDR: little brother (21) has moved back in with our parents, his ex-gf has taken his key to their apartment and claimed ownership of all their belongings including his personal things as well as items he purchased himself for their apartment together. His name is on their lease. She doesn’t work. They have dated for 3 years and lived together for 6 months.
Long story short ex-gf gave my brother an ultimatum; you cannot be friends with Joe (fake name) and be with me. Joe I guess had dated a friend of hers and it ended on a sour note, so my brother was required to sever communication with Joe. He did, but Joe didn’t understand and reached out through other means - lots of online avenues these days. He got through somehow, and my brother didn’t resist. Ex-gf went through his phone, discovered he’d received communication from Joe, and kicked him out.
The question now is what can be done. How can we A: help him retrieve his belongings from the apartment and B: remove his financial responsibility around an apartment he no longer has access to?
Furthermore, how can I - his much older sister - explain to him that this is abuse? I unfortunately have experience with relationships like this one. I know he needs to leave, but he is in love. I went back to my abuser several times expecting to finally be loved back, it ended in violence. I feel I have a responsibility to make that perspective clear to my brother. This will not get better with time, and he has to get out.
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